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  1. There is no mention in that email about the therapeutic use of the contraceptive pill. It is not always prescribed for birth control. Conditions such as menorrhagia, irregular menstruation, endometriosis are frequently treated with this medication. Assuming that the pharmacist only objects to the contraceptive function of the drug, he or she presumably has no right to refuse dispensing it when lawfully prescribed as treatment for a medical condition. Unless the pharmacist has access to the patient's medical records they cannot know why it is being prescribed so they should at least ask the patient before refusing to dispense it.
  2. Carers Trust might be worth looking at. Many carers are elderly people caring for someone of a similar age. Some of them never, or rarely have a break from their responsibilities. Sitting with the disabled person for an hour or two enables the carer to go out and have some free time. Also, the disabled person would have someone different to chat to. This would be really worthwhile because you would be giving much needed help to two people.
  3. British Lung Foundation.
  4. Yorkshirelass - it’s a lovely park, very well kept and you could easily spend a few hours there if you include the whole thing, not just the museum. After visiting the museum you could have refreshments in the cafe which is at the back of the building or perhaps take a picnic. You might enjoy a leisurely stroll around the park and there are play areas for children. The fountain and planting around the cenotaph are beautiful. Plenty of parking or just a short walk from the bus station in the town centre.
  5. Thank you beefface for giving me a really good laugh. Yorkshire humour at its best. 😂 Shame that the post will be deleted. 🙁
  6. In addition to counselling, it sounds like he needs some urgent practical help and support to continue caring for his children. Being a carer is really stressful, particularly if there is no support. Do you know if he has had a carers assessment? If not then telephone the social services and ask for an urgent one. They might offer a telephone assessment, in which case say that he needs a home visit. He should also be entered onto the emergency carers scheme if the local authority has one. Please tell him not to be anxious about this - nobody is going to take his children away. They will want to enable him to continue caring for them by putting in support services. Please tell him that he is not alone - many carers have similar problems. Accepting help is the first step to coping and making some sort of recovery. BTW I believe that one can self refer to IAPT - AFAIK you don't need a GP referral.
  7. What a horrible thing to happen. Where did they go when they were evicted? Did the council rehouse them? Thinking about the OP's question, the decision to move home is a difficult one. Extending a property to include a downstairs bedroom with bathroom is one route but one is still left with the upkeep and expense of a house that may be under occupied. A lot depends on the size of the existing home plus garden. Downsizing can make things considerably easier in the long term. I agree with the research that found the optimum age for this as being before the mid sixties - needs to be done sooner than later because as you age, the management of a house move can be daunting. Don't know if this is a common thing among elderly folk but we have dispensed with things and find that less space is needed. Smaller properties usually require less cleaning and work.
  8. Useful advice but it is a minefield. With regards to skipping care home fees, trusts and other avoidance tactics need to be done when the person is well and could not foresee that he or she would need care. I read somewhere that there is now no seven year rule. Signing property over to children could result in homelessness for the elderly person if their child gets a divorce or into debt. The first, and possibly simplest thing to do is to own the property as tenants in common because then each partner owns a 50% share and it cannot be used for residential home fees of the one who requires care.
  9. Dozer - forgot to say that some time ago there was a Radio 4 Money Box programme that looked at this very issue. IIRC they presented some research about the best time to move house in old age. I think it was before the age of 64 or thereabouts. After that, elderly people can find moving too difficult to cope with. If you do move house, check the quality and availability of the local medical and social services. I have an elderly friend who moved to a nice seaside town and likes living there. However, both of them now have health issues, one of them quite serious. The services have proved to be quite poor and they have had real problems getting help. Don’t know why but perhaps many such places have a high elderly population who do not have family close by.
  10. You are right - ageing is a bit of a lottery. One thing is for sure - we are not going to get stronger. That’s why I can never understand these older folk who go on television wanting to move out into the sticks with a big house and land. IMHO location is key. Being near to a bus route, shops, doctors surgery and preferably on level ground is really helpful. Houses can be adapted to make life easier as you age eg downstairs toilet/shower. A bungalow or flat could be worth thinking about. Some designated retirement flats can be very expensive and maintenance charges might be payable. Possibly this type of complex is suitable for those of a sociable nature. It’s a good idea to have savings put by in order to employ people to do jobs that you cannot do yourself - makes life a lot more comfortable. As you like your home, why not stay put and gradually work towards age-proofing it?
  11. I have been buying Kaspersky via various eBay resellers for many years and TBH I have never expected software. That is one reason why these downloads are such a bargain. Does anyone have discs anymore? As has been said, it is all digital downloads these days and is much better than having discs cluttering up the home. Also, lots of folk use laptops which don't have an optical drive - mine included and I have never missed it. However, you can always burn a disc or put the download on a flash drive if you wish. It would be interesting to have a look at the original advertisement that you used.
  12. Sounds very much like the situation with Kaspersky antivirus. I buy it from an eBay reseller who sends me the license key via email. They include a link to download the AV from the Kaspersky website. I install it, put the key in and that’s it. Never had a problem and it’s much cheaper than buying it direct from Kaspersky. Last one was circa £12 for three licenses. Of course I don’t know if there is a comparison with the OPs Office download.
  13. Thank you for providing the relevant and informative links Cyclone. The second article relating to light pollution is particularly useful. Hopefully they will be of help to Pattricia’s son in dealing with this problem.
  14. Pattricia - back in post #46 you were rather rude yourself: Most contributors have given you sound advice, some of them taking the time to find useful links with information for you and yet you disparage them simply because they don’t agree with you. I had wondered if your intractable stance on this was in part due to the fact that it was your son who has fitted the lights; your comment seems to confirm that. Hopefully you will come to some compromise over this but it is not likely to happen until you calm down and begin to look at it from your neighbour’s viewpoint. All the man wants is the quiet enjoyment of his own home.
  15. Pattricia - you are just cherry picking the replies in order to find someone who agrees with you. I agreed with you in post #10 but it doesn’t alter the fact that you and your son instigated this problem and that it is very easily remedied. In answer to your original question, your neighbour can come onto your property and adjust the light that is annoying him because you allege that he has already done so. The question is therefore answered. You really ought to have asked whether his (alleged) action is legal. You don’t need forum members to tell you that it is not but he did no criminal damage and his intention was not malicious. He (allegedly) did it because your lights are causing pollution and are bothering him, and because you refused to comply with his reasonable request to adjust the angle of them. Are you going to prosecute him for trespass? You will need proof BTW. Your previous post indicates that you are deliberately evading the problem, which is the placement and type of lights. If you have any sense at all you will deal with this in an amicable and respectful manner. If your son is a qualified electrician he should be able to remedy the problem easily. If not, perhaps you could consider employing one to do the job properly.
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