Chekhov   488 #13 Posted December 16, 2021 Men and women can be just good friends, but, as this is more and more accepted, it must make asking a woman out a lot more awkward. "When I was a lad", if a bloke asked a woman out for a drink (or whatever) certain things were understood, i.e. you fancied her and were trying to find out of you'd get on, and, if she accepted, vice verse. Now one cannot be sure that is the message at all, and all kinds of misunderstandings could emanate from that...... I don't envy my lad having to go through all that in today's more complicated times. I do sometimes wonder if that is part of the reason internet dating is more popular now. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Jeffrey Shaw   93 #14 Posted December 16, 2021 2 hours ago, The_DADDY said: What a strange question. Of course men and women can be close friends. But the entire film 'When Harry Met Sally' supports the opposite viewpoint. See https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0098635/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_3 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
El Cid   221 #15 Posted December 16, 2021 7 hours ago, cuttsie said: I have a pal who I have known for many years , We have been to the pub together over the years, cycling, football matches , day trips and so on . This mate of mine is a woman  To be just friends, that means that its understood that you dont fancy each other. Is one of you very attractive and the other ugly or very fat and very thin, or very short and very tall. Anyone that has/had a shag friend is game? 5 hours ago, cuttsie said: The thing we all have in common is politics , we are all left of Trotsky and we met at a political meeting in the 80's . So no probs in the domestic scene , no tongues allowed . So you are all idealists and wouldnt break the rules for extra sex? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
altus   540 #16 Posted December 16, 2021 1 hour ago, Jeffrey Shaw said: But the entire film 'When Harry Met Sally' supports the opposite viewpoint. See https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0098635/?ref_=nv_sr_srsg_3 It's a RomCom. It wouldn't provide much of a plot for a RomCom if it didn't support the opposite view. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
pattricia   582 #17 Posted December 26, 2021 A man and woman can become close friends if the man is gay. I have a good friend who is gay and we have been close friends for years. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
The_DADDY   3,482 #18 Posted December 26, 2021 5 minutes ago, pattricia said: A man and woman can become close friends if the man is gay. I have a good friend who is gay and we have been close friends for years. I must be gay then. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Jim117   72 #19 Posted December 26, 2021 Me too, I’ve always had girl mates. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
ECCOnoob   1,053 #20 Posted December 27, 2021 6 hours ago, pattricia said: A man and woman can become close friends if the man is gay. I have a good friend who is gay and we have been close friends for years. Seriously?? So you honestly think it's impossible for a straight man and straight woman to have a purely platonic friendship.  So every time you see a man/woman friendship, where one party is not gay, you instantly determine that they must clearly be banging each other 🙄 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
RollingJ   2,066 #21 Posted December 27, 2021 5 hours ago, ECCOnoob said: Seriously?? So you honestly think it's impossible for a straight man and straight woman to have a purely platonic friendship.  So every time you see a man/woman friendship, where one party is not gay, you instantly determine that they must clearly be banging each other 🙄 Yes, I thought that too, then realised it was a slightly silly comment. In my very much younger days, I would say 80-90% of my close friends were female, and that is what they were -friends, good ones. Even today, I get on better with ladies than I do men. And I am NOT gay. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
pattricia   582 #22 Posted December 27, 2021 6 hours ago, ECCOnoob said: Seriously?? So you honestly think it's impossible for a straight man and straight woman to have a purely platonic friendship.  So every time you see a man/woman friendship, where one party is not gay, you instantly determine that they must clearly be banging each other 🙄 I think I worded my post wrongly. What I meant was that I have a very close friend who is gay, and also close male friends who aren’t gay ! Is that better ? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
RollingJ   2,066 #23 Posted December 27, 2021 38 minutes ago, pattricia said: I think I worded my post wrongly. What I meant was that I have a very close friend who is gay, and also close male friends who aren’t gay ! Is that better ? Makes more sense now, Pattricia. Thought your original comment was a bit weird (for you) 😀 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
pattricia   582 #24 Posted December 27, 2021 16 minutes ago, RollingJ said: Makes more sense now, Pattricia. Thought your original comment was a bit weird (for you) 😀 Thank you sir.! Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...