Does anyone date anymore??

[hyper 10]

Ive had a go at online dating - in fact I'm probably still on there, as I never deleted my profile. Mine was one of the free ones. I had a few meet ups, but nothing ever stuck .... too many women who have obviously had a rum do, feel all men are dishonest, untrustworthy, players and that put me off. Consequently I felt the women on there wanted lots of attention (chatting, texting etc) without wanting to commit to an actual relationship.

 

2 of my mates went on match.com and they got lots of fake meeting requests. We worked this out when they both got the same requests at a similar time from what looks like machine-generated messages from dud profiles.

 

They were paying £25/month, at least I paid nowt.

 

All 3 of us still single, by the way, but I'm ok with that

 

ps - its got me thinking, I might resurrect my profile and see whats happening

[Queenbee1974 10]

There's a lot to be said for meeting in a pub or club because you see what your chatting up but on these dating sites you don't really know who your chatting to...There was a case this week where a woman met a man off a free well known dating site and she ended up getting raped.......

[dale1966 10]

the reason for asking was a situation i found myself in, i was chatting online to a guy who seemed quite nice, we were talking about meeting up, his idea was to come over to mine a couple of times to chill out and have s*x and then see where it went!

 

 

I found this to be quite off putting as i'm not looking for a friend with benefits but is this the norm

 

I think a large majority of people these days meet partners on-line ... Myself and the "Gaffer" met through a social media site and even though i lived in Walsall at the time and she lived in Scarborough ( we only got to see each other 1 weekend per month) it worked .... I'm sure its because for the first 12 months we chatted, we spent time finding out about each other ( we were both totally 100% honest ), we took time to get to know each other .... we both had "baggage" in the form of past failed relationships / marriages .... we became friends BEFORE we became lovers even though the spark was obvious from the start ..... we both had children to past partners so it was important not to get into anything that could never work.

2 yrs after we first spoke she moved to Sheffield to be with me , 5 yrs later we are still together and planning our wedding ..............

.... so ..... i guess in my opinion the days of "Dating" are past and with the internet now governing 80% of life / work / ... its easier to get to know someone on-line without the expense of meals / nights out / taxi`s .... as long as both parties are 100% honest with each other then i think its the safest way to meet a new longterm partner

[medusa 16]

My OH and I met through the forum, at someone else's divorce party. We'd already been talking online (about disposing of a body, of all things) and when we met up in person we realised that not only must we have been in the same room as each other at several times in the past, but we have similar hobbies (mine include less getting drunk than his) and we spent the entire evening ignoring other people and got straight into the Wigan vs St Helens argument (rugby, that is) and after all of that THEN we started dating and getting to know each other.

 

You don't necessarily plan to go and meet someone special. Sometimes it happens as part of your normal social life, just like it used to in the world before the internet existed. I'd suggest going and socialising a lot, joining clubs, accepting invitations and generally becoming the life and soul of the party, and seeing who you meet that way

 

EDIT- we've been together a little over 9 years BTW.

[*_ash_* 88]

My OH and I met through the forum, at someone else's divorce party. We'd already been talking online (about disposing of a body, of all things) and when we met up in person we realised that not only must we have been in the same room as each other at several times in the past, but we have similar hobbies (mine include less getting drunk than his) and we spent the entire evening ignoring other people and got straight into the Wigan vs St Helens argument (rugby, that is) and after all of that THEN we started dating and getting to know each other.

 

You don't necessarily plan to go and meet someone special. Sometimes it happens as part of your normal social life, just like it used to in the world before the internet existed. I'd suggest going and socialising a lot, joining clubs, accepting invitations and generally becoming the life and soul of the party, and seeing who you meet that way

 

EDIT- we've been together a little over 9 years BTW.

 

Well, there are plenty of divorces about, and plenty of internet dating apps. I wonder if anyone has picked up on this part of the market?

[Cyclone 10]

There's a lot to be said for meeting in a pub or club because you see what your chatting up but on these dating sites you don't really know who your chatting to...There was a case this week where a woman met a man off a free well known dating site and she ended up getting raped.......

 

The sensible thing to do if using an online dating app and meeting someone for the first time is to arrange that to be in a public place, like a coffee shop or a pub. And then it's pretty much exactly like meeting someone in a pub, except you know you've got some basic compatibility first and are both at least interested.

Edited April 18, 2016 by Cyclone

[amyjhill 10]

I need to give online dating a go...I dont go out and you dont meet people if you dont go out! Im looking at joinin park run and Im trying to find some interest groups to try and get out...All my friends are settled so dont really go out a whole lot

[jasmine2000 10]

My dating experience is not that good firstly I met them in a cafe then he asked if I wanted too go too his I said I don't think so .. The next guy I met was an absolutlyy ignored me all the date I had too buy my own drink cheap state lol gave up after that xx

 

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Being newly single, I'm beginning to think that no one dates anymore? It seems to be the norm in the circles I mix in anyway that it's jump into bed and then see what happens??

 

Is it just me no te wrong circle or is this now the norm?

 

It's norm for some but not my idea of date call me old fashioned lol

[Waldo 96]

I had too buy my own drink cheap state

 

I bet he had to buy his own drinks too! I dunno, what's the world coming to when a lady won't buy drinks for both herself and for her date?...

 

I agree though, it's terrible, men are such cheap-skates (women never are, and they never take advantage of men just to get drinks and free meals and such like).

[shims 10]

My view is screwing on a first date ceased being bad in the late 50s but hey what do I know?

Not doing it is a good way of filtering out the people who only want a shag. If someone is genuinely interested they'll stick around.

[andyankh 10]

Being newly single, I'm beginning to think that no one dates anymore? It seems to be the norm in the circles I mix in anyway that it's jump into bed and then see what happens??

 

Is it just me no te wrong circle or is this now the norm?

 

I'll date you ;)

[Ghostrider 11]

There are too many women on dating sites just looking for their next free night out.

I met one who spent most of the evening on her phone arranging dates for the next few days..strange how she always arranged to meet in a restaurant