Has anyone ever seen someone for when things get too much?

[Lady_Cat]

Hi,

Just wondered if anyone has ever had any therapy or seen a 'specialist' for when things have got too much to cope.

I am at a point where i am slowly going crazy, i have so much built up inside and pain from things that i am slowly losing control of my feelings.

I am a kind of person where i like to be in control and not really entertained the idea of a 'specialist' stranger because i always think 'how can they even understand how im feeling etc, they are just being nosey and telling me how i should react like there is a rule'.

So now im thinking, do these people really help and has anyone had any experience of seeing a 'specialist'?

 

I am 19 and feel like things that have happened and that are happening, shouldn't happen to me yet.

 

Any help appreciated.

Thanks

[torin8]

For some people it can be difficult to let things out - especially to a stranger. Some seek out family or friends and others find that speaking to a stranger can be better for them as they are a third party who can stand back and offer advice and ways to think about whatever is bothering you which you might not have considered.

 

If you don't want to talk to family and friends and want to see a 'specialist' then all I can say is go do it - try it and see how it goes for a couple of sessions. If you dont like it then there's no loss and if it starts to work then all the better.

 

Good luck and I hope things start working out.

[Dozy]

I also like to be in control and had always pooh poohed the idea of seeing a counsellor or similar, as I am not the carey/sharey, touchy/feely type.

 

But when I got severely depressed I went to a counsellor as a last resort, and it worked! They don't tell you how you should be thinking/acting at all. They basically listen and guide you towards working things out for yourself. They don't blame or criticise.

 

One of the great things about seeing a counsellor, as opposed to talking to a friend, is that you can say anything you want without having to consider the consequences. The counsellor isn't going to think any the worse of you if you sound like a nasty, spiteful, whinging bitch. If you spill out a load of bile onto a friend, they're likely to remember it and it could colour their perception of you.

 

I would recommend counselling, but if you think you're not quite ready, have a look around for one of those online chat groups that specialise in whatever's bothering you - you remain totally anonymous but get support from other people who are going through the same sort of things you are.

 

I'll be thinking of you and hoping you manage to find some help.

[JoeP]

Hi,

 

Therapists and counsellors will keep things said confidential, and will also listen to what you say and help you make sense of it.

 

What they will rarely do is tell YOU what to do. They'll help you towards a place where you feel comfortable to do these things yourself.

 

Often, just talking to someone else will help you by letting you think about your problems enough to put them in to words for soemone else. Letting the feelings out is sometimes enough - Hell, if you have a pet cat or dog, just try talking to it. It may help you by allowing you to say what's on your mind to soemone who'll never tell.

 

I've had some counselling many years ago and I think it was helpful purely because it helped me straighten my head out by talking to someone who wasn't going to judge me, criticise me or blame me for anything.

 

Best of luck.

[Aries22]

Yes I had help, it nothing to do with talking to a stranger, It was getting things off my chest, I only went about 4 times, but what it did gave my the confidence to sort things out. You mention being only 19 but age has nothing to do with it, things happen whatever your age.

[Lady_Cat]

Thanks all.

 

Think i might take a trip to doctors and asked to be referred now.

[JoeP]

Thanks all.

 

Think i might take a trip to doctors and asked to be referred now.

 

Best of luck. There may be a waiting list, but that's the best place to start.

[shinyhappy68]

I think you'd probably find a fair number of SF users have weather they like to be open about it or choose not too. I have, more than once, and it lifted a storm from my head that Id had brewing for years.

 

Please give it a try, even if its not a route you would normally take, Id stepped out side my comfort zone and never have looked back once, God Luck Mate!!!

[sidewinder]

You mention you are 19, are you at uni? If so the Unis (Uni of Sheffield definately) have a free counselling service and it might be faster than a referral from your GP, also it means that they are used to talking through problems that are common to students, like debt or exam stress and all the other problems that go along with it, so if you are having any of these types of problems then they might be a good place to start.

[Rich]

I see a Counsellor at St George's Hospital every 6 weeks on a Thursday.