To be fair Boutiquechoc,
I think men are generally after similar things however the majority of them (i say them as I dont class myself in this majority) think that they have to portray some ridiculous image to their friends and colleagues and therefore come across as childish. I purely want someone who is enjoyable to be with at all times, ie bad , good and excelllent. I obviously want the passion and fire that women bring to a relationship however feisty. Thats 50% of the attraction as well. Most women don't actually know how to deal with a deep man in my experiences.