happylady

 

' I can't afford to have kids' is the saddest lie people tell themselves.

Rubbish. Children are expensive and to be honest none of the people who I know who come from posh and less well off areas such as Page Hall, Wincobank. All made the decision to only have a few kids because of this reason.

The point when I started this thread was that this woman wanted to bring the story to public attention to get her house fixed and her kids were included to create sympathy. For all we know there may be reasons why the Council have not decided to do it/or being able to.

Someone has mentioned that the Star did not write the article as well as they

could which has meant the woman has been criticised for the life she has. Unfortunately that happens when you go to the press because they sensationalise articles and if this lady has ended up being criticised because of it then she only has herself to blame.

she was only asking for what she should be getting a decent home and why should she wait when it was not her fault that she was missed out

 

why have a go at her being a scrounger when its not in context with the story, i think you just want to start another thread about people on benefits with lots of kids, scrounging

 

you probably have a better life than her, so would you like to change places with her have all those kids the benefits, i think not.

No, because I made damn sure I only had kids that I could afford. If my house needs repairs me and hubby have to pay for them. The fact is she got herself in the Star wanting everyone to feel sorry for her being missed out when she's got 8 kids at home. Why go to the paper, personally I think she's lucky to have a roof over her head at all and I'm sure when the Council had been informed of their error they would have got round to sorting her property out.

Probably Council were waiting for the next months Council tax to come in so they could afford to pay for someone to come and carry out the repairs. Its simple if you want things to happen then find the means to make it happen yourself.

RubyDazzler

 

Are you saying people are wrong for complaining about this woman with the 8 kids?

 

I think its time for the fathers of these children to begin to act like real men, and by that, I mean they should get jobs, contribute to the upkeep of their offspring and if the lady needs a bigger house, perhaps they could provide between them. Anyone can get a woman pregnant, but it takes a man to take responsibilty.

 

Working people are getting taxed ever more, and are struggling more and more to make ends meet, people would like more of their own money to spend on themselves.

 

If that makes me a bigot then so be it.

 

I can fully understand where Hippylady is coming from, she is not a bigot, probably someone working her backside who, herself would probably like a bigger house

To true Mr Busdriver. I've two kids both now independent. Me and hubby have worked our buts off, have a nice house and a nice lifestyle, however, we, like a lot of others, have worked for everything we have and apart from family allowance have never had a penny from the state and so far (touch wood) neither have our kids.

Is this the one in woodhouse? near a school cant remeber what you call it lol?

Yes it is, since first putting on this post have found out it has been taken over by new owners which is a bit of a shame cos the last people were great and really turned the shop around

No wonder happylady (an oxymoron if I ever read one) has a halo, she can even post when she's offline! Wow, what a talent

No halo my dear! Yes I am multi talented on the computer its one of the attributes I've learned while going to work which helps pay for others who chose not to take control of their own lives.

Well, I have to say that the bigots of SF have truly excelled themselves on this thread .... phew! I hope the lady in question or any of her family or friends aren't reading this thread ... I've never read such a collection of hastily formed, ill informed opinions since the last time. Talk about making it up as you go along.

 

You should all form a clique to go conclusion jumping on wet afternoons

I hope they are reading this thread. If I'm a bigot, then bring it on. Sorry but I'm sick of looking at my wage slip and seeing tax etc taken out, then going on to have to pay council tax for people like her to start having kids at 15.

ps: would you like to contribute a larger share towards Council tax to let us bigots save a few pennies which we can then use for our own families. PLEASE, there I've said it nicely!

Well she is 31 and a single mum, her eldest is 15...you guys do the math. I suppose you have to give her some due, she could have had them taken away by social services, she might be doing just fine as a single mother.

 

I live in a housing association house and the floors are my responsibility. If I break the bathroom tiles, I fix them, not the maintenance people, unless I can prove that they broke them while doing work.

 

What this lady should be doing is asking for a bigger house. She is living in a three bedroom house with 8 kids!! She has the smallest room with the baby, so that leaves 4 in one room and three in the other. Surely that constitutes overcrowding. Or maybe some of them kip on the settee, or wherever they drop from exhaustion.

No what this lady should have done was learn about contraception. Get a job, get some money and then BOUGHT a bigger house, then if she could afford more children stop the contraception and have them!

8 kids, the youngest is a couple of months old - she'd need a job earning thousands to support that lot.

 

single mother + 8 kids + brains to have well paid job - I think not:loopy:

 

 

Are you saying here that a single parents or a parent with a lot of children is somehow of lower intelligence than the rest of us? What a bizarre assumption.

 

If my husband left tomorrow I would become a single parent with 4 children. Would I then suddenly turn into some kind of slapper overnight? It seems so looking at some of the comments in here.

 

I do think its wrong to keep having kids whilst fully intending to claim benefits but there are a lot of assumptions here. How do we know that she isn't recently widowed or just seperated? Having 8 children is not a crime.

 

 

Think you're being a bit naive here. If you and your hubby have four kids and work to support em fair enough. If you have eight kids then surely you need to be earning mega books, married or not. If you're earning megabucks would you be living in a Council house? If you're not - then using a condom!

What a dumb thread!

 

Here's the story:

http://www.thestar.co.uk/news/Home-revamp-at-last-for.4568133.jp

 

The woman's not asked for special treatment, just that she gets her home refurbished under Decent Homes the same as her neighbours have. The surveyor didn't visit her so she was going to be left out if she had not complained. It's a case of red tape gone bad, not somebody scrounging something 'extra'.

 

What should the council do? Undertake moral assessments of council tenants before deciding whether to let that bit of their housing stock that happens to be inhabited by a woman fond of sex or a bloke who likes his ale fall into rack and ruin?

Not a dumb thread - its simple really.

Why do such people end up having so many kids when they clearly cannot afford them. Didn't say she was scrounging for extra, just simply scrounging! Expecting us to feel sorry for her!

Just another point. With the family allowance alone (which personally I think should be restricted to the first 2/3 kids) she'll be getting about £640 a month.

I have to go to work for 90 hours per month to come out with this amount, please you kind hearted folks out there put this into the equation when sticking up for spongers like this.

ps: what really riled me was the picture of her looking sorry for herself and expecting us to sympathise, mind you at least she managed to get off her backside to have the photo took and from the look of the picture she's doing a good job of preventing no. 9 coming along!

One or two assumptions here. Who says she doesn't work?

 

The council is a landlord just like any other and if she is paying her rent they have a duty to maintain the premises according to the lease.

 

Obviously if this work is causing any kind of risk to her children, whose future characters you have sadly besmirched, then it should be attended to promptly.

8 kids, the youngest is a couple of months old - she'd need a job earning thousands to support that lot.

single mother + 8 kids + brains to have well paid job - I think not:loopy:

Paying her rent - without well paid job - NO!

Duty to maintain premises, probably = MOST UNFORTUNATELY FOR US!

Sadly bismirched: no unfortunately our children do tend to follow by example = 64 mouths to feed in a few years time

Last night's Star left me seething. A mother of 8 in Sheffield was complaining cos Council not yet come round to do some maintenance in her house. Personally I could only afford two children - my ethic is get off and earn some money to give yourself a good life, not expect poll tax/tax/NI payers to subsidise your life so you can sit on your backside and produce a never ending number of kids.

Feel sorry for the kids though it's not their fault but I'm sure in a few years time they'll be following the same ethic as their mother. Great!

Do you make your own base?

Just back from holiday and notice today there's an Asian chap serving in the newsagent. Does anyone know if this business has been taken on by new management?

I always use white vinegar and its always been ok. Malt vinegar would impart too much flavour on it.

We were due to fly with XL next Thursday and have managed to find alternative flights which although they're more expensive is a small price to pay for the employees of XL.

I had to contact their office last week and was given great customer service by a lovely young lady and I feel so sorry now that she's now out of work. Hope they find alternative work!

yesterday the doctor changed my prescription and gave me ramparil instead are there any side affects with this drug?

Hi' Ive been on this for a year now. No side effects but if you're on this drug you have to have checks once a year - not sure if its to check your liver or kidneys but def one of these.

I often come along Union road and so would say quite confidently that parking isn't going to be a problem and there are side roads such as Chelsea road which have plenty of parking places as well just in case there's something going on at the Kings Centre which does incrrease parking problems...

Many thanks for all your replies.

Not for much longer.

tab1, have you seen the notices that there is to be no waiting on Psalter Lane & roads off?

 

What are the Hollies Medical Centre on St.Andrew's Rd. patients supposed to do.

 

Last day for comment last Friday, 5th.Sept.

 

Granma.

Can anyone advise further on this as I don't really know the Union Road area

My daughter has eaten there and was really impressed. Thinks its a good place for local Sheffield Hallam students as its pretty cheap and good portions from what I've been told.

Hi, Whereabouts is the park and ride? How much does it cost to park your car there or can I apply for a permit, if so how and when will I get it? And how much is the tram fare? I've never used one before.

Not sure how much it costs but it'll probably be on their website. Park and ride is on the right hand side of parkway just before park square roundabout its well signposted. You can pay a weekly/?monthly charge which includes parking and the use of supertram

Going for an interview for a job at Union Road, Nether Edge. Can anyone advise what parkings like around there in the daytime?

I work at SCH and unless your a Consultant there's no staff parking. You could use Park and Ride at the side of the parkway. The supertram stop is at Sheff Uni which is only a 5 minute walk to the hospital.

Is it based actually in the childrens hospital or the one at centenary house which is in upperthorpe?

Its at Flockton House, Nether Edge

Got an interview there next week. Does anyone have experience of what its like to work there?