happylady

Yes so are we, happy gardening.

Thanks Kim, nice to know we're not on our own. Courgettes are really plentiful, potatoes are fab and we've had our first crop of runner beans. Hows the rest of your growing going?

You may be bored but think its about time people let her rest in peace and stop raking over old ground.

Stawberry season finished now but black currants are out as are gooseberries

Have no experience of that GP but me and my family are with Dr Mitchell's practice. Great GP's etc but what rankles me is whenever you ring up the receptionist will answer and straight away ask if you could hold for a couple of minutes. I once timed it and was on hold 6 minutes. OK if they're dealing with an emergency/whatever but I've been in the waiting room seen them do it and they just go back to doing a bitof filing. Its ok for them its not their phone call. Think they ought to revise this policy.

We grown Keldan Wonder peas this year - not very fruitful. Can anyone recommend a pea variety to grow?

Certainly wasn't suggesting that he simply snaps out of it, I don't think medication/councelling is the answer though.

 

I know, as I have suffered depression in the past. I had to tackle the route cause

Understand where you're coming from Robby but sometimes the only way to start getting back on your feet is to take medication and then when things seem much better you can think clearer and are then able to make lifestyle changes. That's what I've done and although I'm still on meds my life is 100% better.

What my counsellor said is that you can struggle on for so long (I did for 6 months) trying to sort yourself out but sometimes you need to take what's on offer. I'm on Seroxat and its worked fab for me.

No- it wasn't anger- it was a memory lapse, something that I can't absolutely guarantee wouldn't happen again, so I have taken steps to make sure that I'm not going to be in the position where I'm going to be in a similar position of trust.

Good idea. Try not to beat yourself up go out and have a drink and think of the positives to come out of it.

We all make mistakes some bigger than others. What you need to consider is was it done out of anger? If yes then you need to make sure you manage that behaviour in the future. It's ok to say we all make mistakes, move on and learn from them but is it the first time you've behaved like this - if yes then probably just move on and learn from it, if no then you need to think about what caused this reaction and if necessary find ways to address this to make sure it doesn't happen again. For example if it was done in a moment of madness then in future you need to make yourself count to 10, walk away, cool down and then rethink it.

I went to PHS and left in '79. Mr Aizlewood used to describe school as "Rolls Royce". He left not long after I started there and then we got an airy fairy headteacher who didn't believe in school uniform and I think standards went down a bit. I remember Mr Mettam as swimming teacher always thought he was a bit of a lech. Remember Miss Windle the art teacher.

well for my mondeo Dixon's wanted £450 and told me I needed it doing.

 

So I rang up some local clutch companies and found several reputable places that would do it for nearly half that.

 

Anyhow all that was about 5 years ago and it didn't need doing, just main dealers lying again about work that didn't really need doing. I am still on exactly the same clutch today!

Thanks for that info. It was yesterday that Dixons told me mines on its last legs though cars only done 10,000 miles. Said it'd be £350.

My Ford Ka - 2003 model needs new clutch. Can anyone tell me how much I should expect to pay to hve one fitted?

Beg to differ but you don't have to stop all medication with St John's Wort - you need to check with your GP.

When I was bad 18 months ago I was still in bed at 2pm - couldn't face the world. If you're not working its even worse. Way I got better was going on the meds, then I was lucky enough to get a p/t job. It was hard going to work again and for the first 6 months every so often I'd have a panic attack but even now every month I'm getting better.

My counsellor advised me when I got up to write a list of 5 things and tick them off as you do them eg read a chapter of a book, learn how to do Sudoko (it helped me), do a crossword (good uns in Daily Mirror), cut the grass, wash the car. Why don't you post on this site tomorrow and let us know how you've done and we can support you that way! If I can get through it I'm sure you can though I know its hard to get motivated but only you can do it. Come on we're all here to help you.

On the website there's the counsellor I went to see Heather M Curtis. She tells it how it is and if it wasn't for her I don't know where I'd be now.

I can recommend Cornerstone Counselling in Greystones. See their website http://www.cornerstone-sheffield.co.uk/. They have a range of counsellors, all British Association of Counsellors and Psychotherapy members, dealing with general counselling and also with specialist expertise. Some offer reduced rates for low incomes.

How much does it generally costs for a session?

They once tried to charge me 200 quid when all that was needed was a new fuse, so good riddance to them.

Funny you should say that. When I picked my car up after its service was told it needs new clutch. Car is 4 years old with 10,000 on clock - I hadn't noticed anything wrong with clutch, my hubby thinks they're trying it on they quoted me £350 - they're not taking any new work on now till next Tuesday.

Thanks for that I used to work there, been off sick for a couple of months

Didn't know anything about it, so thats why no one is answering the phones.

Yes staff have been told not to answer phone or make calls out. Sorry to be bearer of bad news.

Does anyone know about the train near the badger estates? Does that go directly to Leeds? Where is the station exactly-i was wondering if that was a quick walk from the badger estates?

Train doesn't go direct to leeds but it does go to Sheffield town centre and to Meadowhall where you can get a connection. Train does go to Lincoln direct and Cleethorpes

Can confirm Dixons are in liquidation. Took my car in for servicing this am. Went back this pm to pick it up had to be escorted to mobile hut to get car. It stinks staff being told can you keep working till we get a buyer, you might get paid and you might not. If the press come round staff being told not to say anything. People have still been putting down deposits on cars till it went into liquidation at noon today.

Just to clarify - it's not that the employer doesn't want to appoint me and is thinking up excuses - it's more complex than that and I don't want to go into detail so please just take my word for it. I'm just trying to find out whether a verbal offer is binding.

My husband who's got quite a lot recruitment experience says its definitely not binding and that during the first year of employment its easy for an employer to get rid of you.

Not sure whether you heard of Human Givens. I've got the book and it helped me to understand things. Are you a worrier? First thing is to stop worrying which I know is difficult if you're spending a lot of time by yourself and you may also be shutting yourself off from people.

If that's the case with you you need to find ways to stop worrying. Go for a walk, read a book, write a story, bake some bread - anything. Until you stop worrying you won't be able to go forward.

Also you need to thing about what could be wrong with your life. Do you hate your job, perhaps you've not got a social life whereas you used to be a social butterfly, perhaps you've not got a partner at the moment.

I'm only giving the basics here but its helped me along the way and out of the black hole!

Ive got loads of books that I've been putting on ebay but sales of books seems to be down at the moment. Does anyone know of any secondhand bookshop in sheffield that does swaps or even pays you for books?

Why don't you contact Citizens Advice. I very much doubt that you would win and like others have said why would you want to work somewhere like that - apart from the fact that you may have resigned from your current position in which case its probably a hard lesson to be learned

why not confiscate 2nd and 3rd homes from the greedy snobs that own them and leave them empty

I wouldn't say confiscate but I think people with 2 homes or more should pay extra tax. It seems to me that people in the countryside, seaside or rural areas who have lived there all their lives and want to buy homes can't cos the more affluent are buying houses up and raising prices beyond the local peoples means.

Rightio, If we can get enough names to make it viable I will arrange our first meet up and sort out a choice of books

I'd be very interested in joining a book group. Let me know what happens

Im trying for a baby and want know is it important to have plenty of excerise before up untill after u have given birth?

I read its important so your body is fit and you will have an health pregancy and helps for reshaping your body afterwards.

Is this true??

Can anyone give advice on the best excerise??

Can only think of the obvious - and it burns calories.

To be honest I think that's a load of bunkum. As long as you're healthy, dont' smoke, take drugs and don't drink, eat healthily then you're doing the best for your baby. As for reshaping your body afterwards, believe me with the running around you'll be doing and if you breastfeed you'll soon shape up. I was reading an article by Davina McCall and she said it takes 9 months to make a baby and she allows herself 9 months to get back to pre-pregnancy shape which seems very sensible to me. Good luck!