Recurrent Miscarriage Clinic

[gemlou83 10]

Hello,

 

We were told yesterday that i will soon be experiencing my third consecutive miscarriage. This now makes me eligible for a referral to a miscarriage clinic and a specialist. I am really hoping to hear from others who may have had the referral and whether they were able to have children or if any problems were identified? I am really just looking for some hope.

[Branch Out 10]

Hello.

Firstly I would like to express how sorry I am about your situation.

I have no personal knowledge of recurrent miscarriage so have nothing useful to add to your question, but I just wanted to express my sadness for you and to wish you a positive outcome from your referral.

I suffered a miscarriage at the beginning of this year. I started miscarrying on New Years Day but was still showing as pregnant months later (blood tests, scans and pregnancy tests). It was a long drawn out process. A part of me died along with my baby and I will never fully get over my experience or loss.

How you manage to get up every day and be 'normal' after so many losses astounds me.

So, remain strong and good luck. X

[gemlou83 10]

Hello.

Firstly I would like to express how sorry I am about your situation.

I have no personal knowledge of recurrent miscarriage so have nothing useful to add to your question, but I just wanted to express my sadness for you and to wish you a positive outcome from your referral.

I suffered a miscarriage at the beginning of this year. I started miscarrying on New Years Day but was still showing as pregnant months later (blood tests, scans and pregnancy tests). It was a long drawn out process. A part of me died along with my baby and I will never fully get over my experience or loss.

How you manage to get up every day and be 'normal' after so many losses astounds me.

So, remain strong and good luck. X

 

Thank you so much for your reply and I too am sorry for your loss. I was informed of my first loss on New Year's Day this year, not the start you hope for is it - but the actual miscarriage didn't start until a couple of weeks after on my birthday. I genuinely thought it would be different this time - we saw the heartbeat at an early scan at 7 weeks and to be even more cruel I still feel pregnant now! I am booked in for medical management at te hospital on Saturday as this is classed as a missed miscarriage. I will update this thread as I go just in case someone needs the info in future. I have found a lady on here who talks of the recurrent loss clinic at jessops so when I've posted a couple more times it will let me private message her and I can hopefully then get some answers. Thank you again for your reply and good look with your journey, I hope you have a happy and healthy pregnancy soon if you haven't already x

[Branch Out 10]

Oh honey.

Saturday? I cannot even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. I could cry for you.

If you would like me to contact this lady on your behalf and ask her to get in touch with you then I can.

Failing that, re-post on here back to me to get your post numbers up (talk about anything!) anything to get you in direct contact with this lady who has knowledge of the clinic and the process.

I will honestly be thinking about you on Saturday.

If ever you feel the need to vent, rage or cry at a complete stranger, I am here.

 

We wont be trying for any more children. Whilst my husband and I are incredibly strong people, this miscarriage nearly broke us both into pieces.

We do however have a young daughter who is two years old so we feel incredibly blessed. We know how lucky we are. But for us, we could not ever re-visit 'that place'.

 

X

[gemlou83 10]

Oh honey.

Saturday? I cannot even begin to imagine how you must be feeling. I could cry for you.

If you would like me to contact this lady on your behalf and ask her to get in touch with you then I can.

Failing that, re-post on here back to me to get your post numbers up (talk about anything!) anything to get you in direct contact with this lady who has knowledge of the clinic and the process.

I will honestly be thinking about you on Saturday.

If ever you feel the need to vent, rage or cry at a complete stranger, I am here.

 

We wont be trying for any more children. Whilst my husband and I are incredibly strong people, this miscarriage nearly broke us both into pieces.

We do however have a young daughter who is two years old so we feel incredibly blessed. We know how lucky we are. But for us, we could not ever re-visit 'that place'.

 

X

 

I completely understand why you would say that, the feelings that miscarriage bring are hellish. If we had a child we would definitely be stopping now, i feel so useless and like im letting my husband down, its horrible to see him cry and break his heart like this. I cry when i think he wouldnt have this trouble with someone else. Your daughter must bring you great comfort i imagine that she must make you feel incredibly lucky.

 

Yes this saturday, i wanted to give myself this week to see if nature would take its course but so far its still saturday morning. Very cruel. That way i dont have to tell my work, they dont know about this or the other two miscarriages - i work with some very insensitive women who have passed comments before about pregnant colleagues and how their maternity leave is bad for the busniness etc. So until (if it ever happens) i get clear of a 12 week scan i wont be telling work anything, i wouldnt want the worry of them trying to force me out if they knew we were trying. In a way its been helpful to come to work, its been a bit of an escape from whats happening where no one knows whats happening and i can distract myself a little bit.

Thank you i will try and find the ladys name now and maybe you could point her in this direction or she could PM me if she doesnt want to write on here, thats very kind of you x

 

---------- Post added 06-08-2014 at 10:19 ----------

 

The ladys name is cris71

Thank you x

[Branch Out 10]

I am going to get in touch with her now.

I will reply to you in more detail shortly but want to get in touch with her first.

I will be back! X

[gemlou83 10]

Thank you i really appreciate it xx

[Branch Out 10]

PM'd the lady in question.

 

You are going through all of this and having to act normal at work?

 

So sorry you are around women like this. How horrible.

 

Thankfully plenty of us have hearts.

 

Got to fly at the moment, but I will be back! X

[gemlou83 10]

PM'd the lady in question.

 

You are going through all of this and having to act normal at work?

 

So sorry you are around women like this. How horrible.

 

Thankfully plenty of us have hearts.

 

Got to fly at the moment, but I will be back! X

 

Yes, well as normal as i can, ive been quiet and very drained but no-ones noticed as yet. Theyve probabaly got used to it and think its just me since its happened on and off for this year.

Thank you for your replies today and for helping me get in touch with the other lady, i really appreicate it and its been useful to talk to someone else.

Have a nice day x

[Branch Out 10]

Hi.

Sorry to be patchy, but I am at work :-)

I think it is so hard for the men as they try to be so strong for us and I feel the hospital do focus on us.

I remember one nurse telling my husband to treat me to a spa or a holiday. I know exactly what she was meaning, but it was like it was ok for him, he didn't matter in it.

Is your husband able to go with you on Saturday?

X

[gemlou83 10]

Hi.

Sorry to be patchy, but I am at work :-)

I think it is so hard for the men as they try to be so strong for us and I feel the hospital do focus on us.

I remember one nurse telling my husband to treat me to a spa or a holiday. I know exactly what she was meaning, but it was like it was ok for him, he didn't matter in it.

Is your husband able to go with you on Saturday?

X

 

Its ok i am too

 

They left us in a counselling room for about 40 minutes, we were alone and he cried a lot - he was so sure everything would be fine this time so it was total shock, even tho this was the third it hit him the worse. By the time the nurse ccame back we had composed ourselves, she told us everything in a very rehearsed ive done this a million times kind of way, one of the leaflets was called 'Partners Too' and she said in a mock shock kind of way 'because the partners can feel it just as much as the women you know' she said it with the kind of annotation that the undertone sounded like she didnt believe that to be possible. i wonder if it was the same nurse?! She was half smiling too, not the right kind of smile to be empathy - it was forced. And she kept referring to him as my partner, that was really grating on me, probably just because it was something to focus on than the awful truth but it still really wound me up! The sister who performed my scan tho was lovely, you could tell she was genuinely upset for us.

Yes hes coming with me on saturday, he keeps apologising for how upset hes been so i think hes dreading it. Ive opted to take the medication and come home, ive had enough of G1 now, time will tell if thats the right decision. Hoping for a quick recovery but will be kind to myself. I'm 31 (32 next year) and i am dreading they will say weve left it too late. x

[medusa 16]

I'm sorry to hear about the dreadful times that you must be going through gemlou, but I'm gratified to hear that Sheffield is now utilising medical research enough to recognise that repeated miscarriage is something that needs looking into and merits treatment in order to maximise the chances of a live baby at the end of a pregnancy.

 

When a family member was going through similar a decade or so ago there was no such clinic outside London, so she paid to go and visit Professor Lesley Regan in London to have the tests to ascertain whether she was in what Prof Regan had proven are the groups for whom treatment is necessary in order to carry a baby to term.

 

I won't sugar coat the truth as I'm sure that finding out that you won't carry a baby to term without medication is very hard to deal with, but finding out that there's a reason why you're having the miscarriages and that there is something that can maximise the chance of having a live baby offset all of that heartache.

 

In my family member's instance it turns out that despite our family history which would suggest that she was likely to have antiphospholipid syndrome, she doesn't have it and her miscarriages were just 'one of those things'. She has since gone on to have healthy and happy children (as well as more miscarriages).

 

I hope that the information that is found out by the tests at the clinic help you to achieve your aims