YummyMummy13

I have applied for a maternity grant, and I was just wondering how long other people had to wait before they heard anything back.

I wasent there at the birth. I am his second sons god mother so i went up to see them every week to help out. And we was friends at the time.

I know because I was there when he had his second son and I saw him with him and he did all the work while his ex was out parting every weekend spend his earned money. And you sound like a judgemental social worker,, my point been you cant judge someone if you don't know them or their back ground and I know for a fact that he would never harm any child on purpose And if he did punch him he would have killed him according to the person who inspected the bruise, because 1; he has no feeling in his hands (due to nerve damage) so he cant feel pressure in other words he doesn't know how hard he he punching, tickleing someone etc. and 2; he was boxing at the time. ---------- Post added 05-12-2015 at 16:02 ---------- why is that relevant to what am asking?

he has never hit hit me, to me he is a good person and I know he is a good father, he has never has just never had the opportunity to be one he would do anything for his kids hes not a bad person he doesn't do drugs or drink he is working trying to provide for us both and save money for court to get access to his other son. yes he might have a had a hard past but some people have and people just happened to pick his up. ---------- Post added 05-12-2015 at 15:29 ---------- what would this do?

I think you may be right as its the fact that social services are saying he was guilty of hitting his son but he has no charge or criminal record of it. I think am getting stressed out by it because they are saying the wrong thing which is confusing me. but yes I understand now thank you.

But that's the thing nothing happened they were even going to let him care for his son, but his ex was a phyco so the best option was adoption. and would contacting a solicitor about it be free as we haven't the money to pay a solicitior?

Right I don't know how to start it but basically I am with my partner of 3 years and social services are always on his back when he has a child due to his first child been adopted. His first child was adopted because his ex partner had told social services that he punched his son because he had a bruise on his face it all went to court and with him been 16 he said to the judge "you are going to blame me anyway" and walked off. I don't know what happened after that but social services are saying he was found guilty. My question is, that if he was found guilty, why isent it on his criminal record and why dint he get locked up for it ??? because if he did do it wouldn't have they locked him up because he would have been a danger to the public and children ?? Please don't judge me or my partner on this, we would do anything for our children. I just need other peoples opinions on the question as it is stressing me out. Thank you:)

****** URGENT *********** Hi me and my partner are currently involved with social services due to me been pregnant and I was wondering if anyone knew of any Advocates that deal with the Family Law side of things? If you do could you tell me who and were I can find more about them please? Thank You