Hi, im hoping someone might be able to give me some advice.
I have a 10 year old daughter, very bright, energetic, my baby.... Im worried about her l wellbeing but no one else seems to see my concern apart from my partner.
Im divorced from my daughters father and have been for some years now, been with my new partner for the past 2 years who is great with my daughter and they are both very fond of one another.
There are many 'little things' that individually wouldnt cause me too much concern but grouped together leave me worried about my daughter.
She is a very bright child and very 'switched on' but educationally she is below average.... This year she has had excellent attendance at school, tried very hard after being given extra incentives to achieve but her end of year grades are exactly the same level as the end of last yearwhich even last year were only a little below the national average... How can this be when her teacher confirms how hard she has tried and especially in maths which has always been her strongest subject....
My daughter has struggled in the past due to lack of concerntration and being easily distracted... Her teacher is impressed with how she has really tried with the concerntration and avoiding distraction yet her grades are worse....after looking at her work books, she never completes tasks that are set....
She is described as having many friends as she is social but she doesnt have any special bonds and easily falls out with people. She has no real concept of emotions if she is upset for being disaplined/falling out with someone etc the upset last for no time and she can switch from heartbroken to singing and happiness within seconds.... The upset in her is also very strange as she can be heartbroken at something as simple as her misplacing a pen but for example recently we heard the news of someone who was close very tragically dying and she showed no emotion ??? She doesnt take into account other peoples emotions and can easily offend and upset people.
She is constantly singing or making silly noises and even if asked to stop will carry on after a couple of minutes, i can see that its not to annoy anyone she just cant help herself.
She has so much energy its unbelievable. She will sit still at school, on the bus etc but other than this she cannot sit still, its as though after shes been in a situation of having to sit still all her pent up energy needs to be released and she cannot sit still at leisure, she cant sit and watch a film all the way through even if it something she really wants to watch for example without walking away, dancing, singing, making silly noises.... I know this may sound like normal childlike behaviour but you would have to witness it to understand this is not normal.
She is quite loud, loves to talk and sing and doesnt stop, finds it hard to, she is very contradictory as she is extravert but also very shy.
As soon ashe opens her eyes in a morning shes awake, up and about untill she eventually drops and regularly wakes in the night singing, sneaks downstairs, drawing, dancing etc
Its very hard for me to explain why i see behavioural problems because shes not a naughty child, call it mothers instinct if you like but i know theres something not quite right.
I have been told by my doctor that shes just a normal energetic bubbly child and i shouldnt have any concerns but to be fair he is very passive with any diagnosis for which ive been subject to.... And her teachers say no probs although she has had to have mentoring at school for lack of concerntration and negative distractions....
It might sound horrible but my daughters school does have a few 'naughty' children and my daughter doesnt come into that bracket, i believe she could just be overlooked as she has manners and is pretty well behaved.