angelgirluk Posted November 11, 2004 Posted November 11, 2004 I don't know how it will go or if it will go to court but mum and I have a meeting to attend with the Practice Manager, someone from the Primary Care Trust and the 'doctor' herself. Apparently if at the end of this we're still not satisifed which I know I won't be, then it will go further - how much further I don't know. Thanks for the support and CONGRATS on your win!!!
Angel05 Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 Originally posted by angelgirluk Hi there Angel05 The pain of losing someone so close and watching them suffer and being there till the end is something nobody can understand unless it has happened to them too. Just before I was born my mum and dad lost my elder brother David in a road accident. He was 17. He is spoken of daily and I feel I know him so well, yet I never did meet him. You see.. as long as a memory lives on, I guess the person does too, inside your heart and you can tell people who wasn't lucky enough to have known your loved ones all about them and share your memories. Now, I won't share mine here today as I have written more than enough already... but it's a nice thing to do. And I agree with Angel05 when she writes about wishing her dad had written a wedding speach or something like that... still he'll be there, somewhere - somehow!!! God Bless them both! Some people find it difficult to talk of their loses... I feel this can be sad in some cases as it happened to a guy i knew... He lost his Dad and his best mate within a matter of a couple of weeks of each other... He would never talk of his Dad or his mate... This to me is like these people not exsisting... To keep that loved one's memory alive talk feely and openly about them it can also help with the healing process... My Dad is very much still apart of my life... Whether i am thinking of him in my head or if i am talking to others about him... Hes always there... Every year on 28th November which is the anniversary of his death i go and lay some flowers down at the cremetorium... Usually it takes me an hours drive from Bournemouth to Portsmouth... Now i am in Sheffield about 4 hrs... Just goes to show nothing will stop me... My Dad ment the world to me... angelgirluk... I also happen to agree with you that writing your thoughts or feelings down does help a great deal... When my Dad passed over i wrote a little letter with all my feelings, emotions, things that we had done in the past etc... Brings a tear to my eye everytime i read it... but i know that everything i wrote is true to its word... He was a true 'Gentle - Man' Writing things down i find is a good way should you not feel that you are up to talking face to face with anyone... I did this too when my ex left me... I couldnt face family friends or work as i knew i would burst into tears and wouldnt be able to stop... So i put pen to paper as i didnt want to keep everything bottled up inside me neither did i want to talk so i made like a diary of all my emotions and feelings... Its amazing reading it now when i look back... I cant believe i got so low... Hugs to you angelgirluk xx
tattoo Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 I dont know ho yor aunt has got the cheek to blame u for anything.You are a young girl of 21,who was doing her absolute best.And its your Dad how dare she do this to you,she should be helping you through your grief not doing this.She sounds to me as if shes not worth the time of day. Ignore this ignorant pig of a woman and concentrate on getting through the greif and moving forward in life again. I lost my mum to cancer,terrible experiance.You never really get over it (how can i explain this).One day you will find that you can think about it all and that awful raw pain that u usually feel has gone.You get to a point where u can live with it, and crazy as it seems it makes you a better person.Stronger inside somehowYou will get there dont lose hope. Time ,thats all it takes time,Give yourself plenty of it . Good Luck God Bless.
Angel05 Posted November 13, 2004 Posted November 13, 2004 Originally posted by tattoo Time ,thats all it takes time,Give yourself plenty of it . Good Luck God Bless. Time is a great healer... In hard times such as these we never seem to be able to see light at the end of the tunnel... But believe me all in good time that light will suddenly appear...
depoix Posted November 26, 2004 Posted November 26, 2004 Originally posted by Hels Who was it that said 'live every day as if it is your last'? Laugh, smile, be polite, do a good deed whenever you can, look people in the eye when talking to them, really listen and give something of yourself, have no regrets. dont know but you can bet he was never ill,never in debt or never married ( still laughing )
flossie Posted November 26, 2004 Posted November 26, 2004 Both my parents died of cancer - not v nice. Both were v brave tho. What I would say is tell your kids everythin you think they need to kno, and anyone else for that matter. Also if kno someone you love going to die ask them and tell them things - don't regret not knowing something or saying something. Hope that makes sense!!
depoix Posted November 26, 2004 Posted November 26, 2004 Originally posted by flossie Both my parents died of cancer - not v nice. Both were v brave tho. What I would say is tell your kids everythin you think they need to kno, and anyone else for that matter. Also if kno someone you love going to die ask them and tell them things - don't regret not knowing something or saying something. Hope that makes sense!! fully agree with you,my wife ran out on monday,thought id spend my days with some one who cared,now i have to educate my two kids as to what to do in an emergency,i tell them every day that i love them,and how much they mean to me,what i hope the future holds for them,its hard but every day i wake up im glad the kids are here,one day i wont be.....so i tell them each day how special they are
nick_gs Posted December 1, 2004 Posted December 1, 2004 if i was dieing i wouldthink about the likelyhood that my death would seriously **** someone off
angelgirluk Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 Thanks so much for your kind words, everyone! And Tattoo, it means a lot to hear/read what you have written about my auntie. I would never have thought that someone who was once so close to me and my godmother too, could turn on me so badly and say the things she has said. I know my dad was proud of me and appreciated everything I had done for him while he was ill because HE told me so.. so while I know she is only trying to be vindictive and nasty towards me, it still doesn't help having lost the whole of my dads side of the family. God, if my Nanan and Grandad were here and my dad too, and they could see what she has caused, they would go mad! At least I know my dad appreciated what I had done and he knew I couldn't have done anymore than I did at the time. I have managed to get through his birthday and my 22nd too, both were big hurdles and I can't say they felt like they usually do because they didn't... infact, they were crap! The next step is Christmas and then try and go back to work. I am wanting to change jobs, have a totally fresh start for the new year, so if anyone knows of any full time work, please let me know x Thanks again guys x your support has been great x Love to all x x x x Angel
Wattsy Posted December 6, 2004 Posted December 6, 2004 Its hard to say untill you are in that situation, but i do not fear death, so long as i dont go in agony, i belive in the after life and that we travel on to a better place. (well no ones come back so it must be better) i would however make a list of who i would haunt when i have gone Ha ha ha!! i would play some wonderful games with people who have wronged me while on this earth.
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