cruiser47 Posted May 26, 2007 Share Posted May 26, 2007 Can anyone offer advice please? My friend split up from her husband a year ago. They have 2 daughters and for the first year split custody of the kids right down the middle. ie they went to live with their dad for 3 1/2 days and their mum the other 3 1/2 days - sounds an unusual arrangement but it did worked. However, the oldest daughter (she's 13) has decided she know longer wants to live with her dad as they are falling out (teenage stuff) and has moved to live with her mum permanently and sees her dad in the day on Saturday afternoon and back home Sunday. Anyway, my friend (who has never asked for any money before as they had an account which they both fed equally which paid for all bills kiddy-related) has now approached her ex for some money towards their daughter's upkeep. He has gone up in arms and wants to know what she needs the money for???!!!! I am confused. I thought she would be entitled to something now she has her daughter back home. She has been on the CSA website which gives a calculator to work things out money-wise but she doesn't know what the official line actually is regarding what he is actually paying for (as he seems to want to know this (although i don't really think it is his business). By the way, they both earn around the same money so does this make a difference? Thank you for reading (sorry it has been so long but wanted to get all the facts in there). thanx Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
miniminch Posted May 26, 2007 Share Posted May 26, 2007 Can anyone offer advice please? My friend split up from her husband a year ago. They have 2 daughters and for the first year split custody of the kids right down the middle. ie they went to live with their dad for 3 1/2 days and their mum the other 3 1/2 days - sounds an unusual arrangement but it did worked. However, the oldest daughter (she's 13) has decided she know longer wants to live with her dad as they are falling out (teenage stuff) and has moved to live with her mum permanently and sees her dad in the day on Saturday afternoon and back home Sunday. Anyway, my friend (who has never asked for any money before as they had an account which they both fed equally which paid for all bills kiddy-related) has now approached her ex for some money towards their daughter's upkeep. He has gone up in arms and wants to know what she needs the money for???!!!! I am confused. I thought she would be entitled to something now she has her daughter back home. She has been on the CSA website which gives a calculator to work things out money-wise but she doesn't know what the official line actually is regarding what he is actually paying for (as he seems to want to know this (although i don't really think it is his business). By the way, they both earn around the same money so does this make a difference? Thank you for reading (sorry it has been so long but wanted to get all the facts in there). thanx say that in English Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ashcroft Posted May 26, 2007 Share Posted May 26, 2007 This happened to a friend of mine and as far as i can remember if the child in question no longer lives with her father then the mother is entitled to csa her earnings do not come into account, but they will deduct csa payments for any nights that she spends with her father. If you contact csa or cab they will tell you all you need to know...... (Mrs Ashcroft) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mizbellamy83 Posted May 26, 2007 Share Posted May 26, 2007 I think now that the 13 year old is living at home the father should be paying 15% of his net income. I think for 2 kids its about 20% but i dont know how this would change as im assuming your friend still has shared access of the youngest. Iv had major problems with the CSA so dont recommend them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tom3t0 Posted May 26, 2007 Share Posted May 26, 2007 if your were to pay maintainance to your ex husband for the upkeep of your child, surely you would want to know what the money would be spent on. it's totally reasonable for him to wish to know what the money would be spent on, and to be sure if would be to the kids benefit. Although there are many fathers who will try to avoid paying maintainance to have more money for beer etc. there is probably the same amount, if not more of mothers whom will want to get as much out of the father as possible to spend on beer etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cgksheff Posted May 26, 2007 Share Posted May 26, 2007 You say that you both fed and used a common account for all things "kiddy-related"? Isn't that what you should be drawing on? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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