I wish I could chill out more... help!

[Guest]

Hiya

 

Just thought I'd ask the forum for some advice.

 

I find that I easily get wound up by things - even to the extreme of having a tantrum! (may be partly to do with being pregnant but I've always been like it really)

 

One example is parking. I live in a flat and each flat has their own space (one each) and I find myself becomming VERY angry when neighbours park 2 cars in the yard (one where they shouldn't park anyway) I just dont think its fair on the people who follow the rules...?

Also, people parking on the road outside - we get a lot of people parking here then walking into town to work- they have no idea how much trouble it causes when they park on the narrow road! Sometimes I cant get out of the archway as there's cars parked overhanging the exit!!!!!

 

I live overlooking the river don and I'm a member of the upper don walk charity, I've invested a huge amount of time clearing rubbish from the river banks and planting hundrends of bluebells, daffodils, and foxglove to improve the area (money from my own pocket too) only to find the new neighbours at the 'Kelham Mills' (one particular flat) keep climbing over to go fishing! they leave all their rubbish and have completely trampled all over the bulbs that were growing meaning they wont flower. Today this has upset me so much that I am considering moving!!!!!

 

Am I normal to get so wound up about things or do I need to take a chill pill? How can I stop letting things annoy me so much?

 

(sorry for the long post)

[Amanda1]

i understand how you feel, as I am sensitive and get easily irritated by others insenstivity. However, for the sake of your health (and baby) you must try and relax. try to take comfort in the fact that you do the right thing and try your best to be thoughtful and try not to focus too much on the fact that not everyone is as considerate as you. Try having a massage, long bath or listening to a calming piece of music!Also get it out of your system, rant on here or to a good mate.

[Guest]

I really wish I could chill out and relax though! My husband gets a little annoyed with me and he doesn't seem to get wound up like I do.

 

I just find it so annoying when people do things without thinking about other people around them. I went to tesco the other day and found myself shouting at a bloke who was parking his sports car near the entrance but in a disabled bay - everyone else was just walking past - but I was the one who got so annoyed about it that I had a row with him...

[Roop]

Could try meditation....

 

Not necessaryly all as hippy and flowers as people think. We have to do it as part of focusing and recovery in the martial art I do and it does help take your mind of anything else.

 

The breathing techniques can help you focus, slow your heart rate, calm yourself down etc. There are plenty of places that do it maybe try out a couple and see if it agrees with you?

 

Alternativly buy a punchbag..

 

PS good on ya for shouting at the sports car chap

[Guest]

does anyone think I'm 'abnormal' to get so annoyed about things?

 

What I dont understand is how other people can be so chilled out and just let things go....

[discodown]

you're not abnormal. you're just frustrated that people don't behave in the manner you do.

 

ultimately your problem is other people. other people and the fact you're a hormone factory right now!

 

you just need to understand that the world won't ever work for you. all you can do is your best, for you, hubby and child. do whats right for you guys (which i realise is selfish) and everything will be fine

[melthebell]

tbh some people are chilled some people arent.

i AM chilled i dont easily get wound up, im easy (so to speak)................BUT if i do get wound up, i explode rather quickly

[funkymiss]

Some people find it easier not to let things rattle them. It just depends on your disposition. The fact you are willing to spend your time clearing the banks and planting bulbs shows how much you care so you are bund to get wound up when you see people carelessly ruining it! To be honest, if I saw anyone trampling on bulbs I'd planted I'd be shouting out the window!!

 

Try some meditation or some simple breathing exercises - they really help to physically stop the stress building up to the point where all that adrenaline is pumping around and making you angry and panicky. It also gives you some time to stop and if you need to say something to someone you can do it more rationally.

 

We are who we are but you can help yourself calm down a little. Like I said though, as long as you don't let it affect your health, it's only because you care. You might just have a little added stress at the moment cos of the pregnancy, is there something you're worried about with that that you haven't talked to anyone about yet? All due respect but your hubby might get annoyed with it all but you're the one carrying the baby!

[pattricia]

Hiya

 

Just thought I'd ask the forum for some advice.

 

I find that I easily get wound up by things - even to the extreme of having a tantrum! (may be partly to do with being pregnant but I've always been like it really)

 

One example is parking. I live in a flat and each flat has their own space (one each) and I find myself becomming VERY angry when neighbours park 2 cars in the yard (one where they shouldn't park anyway) I just dont think its fair on the people who follow the rules...?

Also, people parking on the road outside - we get a lot of people parking here then walking into town to work- they have no idea how much trouble it causes when they park on the narrow road! Sometimes I cant get out of the archway as there's cars parked overhanging the exit!!!!!

 

I live overlooking the river don and I'm a member of the upper don walk charity, I've invested a huge amount of time clearing rubbish from the river banks and planting hundrends of bluebells, daffodils, and foxglove to improve the area (money from my own pocket too) only to find the new neighbours at the 'Kelham Mills' (one particular flat) keep climbing over to go fishing! they leave all their rubbish and have completely trampled all over the bulbs that were growing meaning they wont flower. Today this has upset me so much that I am considering moving!!!!!

 

Am I normal to get so wound up about things or do I need to take a chill pill? How can I stop letting things annoy me so much?

 

(sorry for the long post)

I think if you have trouble with parking it winds you up for the day & the week. This is the most "wind up" thing I can think of.

[TeaFan]

Get yourself down to see them Buddhists by Endcliffe Park. They know a thing or two about chilling out.