suzan Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 i have a man in my life who used to have his own business. when i met him he told me he was getting divorced cos of what his wife did. i was shocked when he told me. heres the story so far. she spent all his money buying lots of silly things that she didnt need, always off the shopping chanel. by doing this she made him peniless, and having to go bankrupt to the sum of £60,000, he lost his home, and £35,000 which she took, minibus, car and boat. he couldnt even open a bank account to have his benefit paid into at first, he has now though ,the card is just a cash card and he cant use it in shops to buy things. she now lives in scotland, and a few weeks ago she contacted him to ask if she could come and stay at his house for a week cos she had some hospital apointments she needed to go to, being soft he said yes cos he said he would stay with me. during that week she called him to ask if she could take the dog which he refused. when the week was up, we went to his place to pick something up and and i waited in the car in case she was still there. he came back immediatly and told me to go down the path to the house , which i did and i could not believe what i saw. the house was empty, not even a curtain up to the window. she had completely emptied the whole house, all she left was left was the carpets and her forwarding address. i told him to call the police but he refused, then i said call a solicitor and he refused that too. he said just leave it, i dont want to cause any trouble, i just want her out of my life and now she is. he just accepted it as calm as anything, he is so laid back its untrue. a couple of people we have spkoken too since have all said to try to get some of it back, even go to scotland and wait near her house and when she leaves her home just take it all back. i think he should do it legally, cos i dont see how she should be left to get away with it, i know he wont though cos he has just this minute told me so. i think she saw him as a meal ticket and used him until she bled him dry. he now has nothing. this is a warning to all men, stay clear of a french teacher called c*****a, she will do it to you too!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charlie75 Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 mmmmm I think there are two sides to every story and you only have the one. Without the full story its very difficult to comment. Do they have any children? he still needs to keep in touch with. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nick2 Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 He's hiding something, or he'd go to the police. (IMO) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yummyyumyum Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 He's hiding something, or he'd go to the police. (IMO) i have to admit i agree with this post. something just doesnt ring true here. why would he let her use his house in the first place if she had done him out of so much money and leaving him in such a bad financial situation? also said he doesnt want to pursue it because at least now shes out of his life...surely when she left to scotland that was true so why invite her to stop at his home once she had left. think carefully about thisa bloke...i personally wouldnt trust him if that was the story he fed me. sorry if this causes upset but i say it as i see it. lisa x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pooka Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 A mate of mine has similar troubles form his ex. Trashing his house, smashing his car windows and such like. She really is a piece of work, taking him for his money as well. But he will never do anything. He has nothing to hide! Just always hoping that this time is the last, but it never is. I'm afraid it is a mindset some people have, especially when there is a past where they really cared for someone. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzan Posted November 7, 2006 Author Share Posted November 7, 2006 i have known him a while now, hes the best man i have ever met, i now know all his friends and they all say hes a dead nice fella and i believe them. i have also met both his kids and they are both adults, and we all get on well. as things are i want to be with him for as long as possible, i dont want to lose him. i would never do to him what she did. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yummyyumyum Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 the question remains...why did he let her stay at his home once they had split up? hes in a new relationship (or at least the op thinks he is) and she did him so wrong that he supposedly just wants her out of his life...just doesnt make sense to me..and i have to admit i have been a softy with exes in the past but i wouldnt let any of them take the p as she apparently has. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
charlie75 Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Perhaps in time he will go to the police. If she has hurt him alot he may well just be glad to have her out of his life for good. (Do his Children know of her behaviour?). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Godzilla Posted November 7, 2006 Share Posted November 7, 2006 Just one query; did she take the dog? Now that would really stir me up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
suzan Posted November 7, 2006 Author Share Posted November 7, 2006 the question remains...why did he let her stay at his home once they had split up? hes in a new relationship (or at least the op thinks he is) and she did him so wrong that he supposedly just wants her out of his life...just doesnt make sense to me..and i have to admit i have been a softy with exes in the past but i wouldnt let any of them take the p as she apparently has. he let her stay cos hes too soft, everyone says so. he really is a lovely fella, wouldnt hurt a fly. she was with him for what he had, cos of her he has nothing. she even took all of his food! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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