sasky1 Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 I feel awful now.. Like I said, she's never really done anything else wrong for me to shout at her.. She's really a great lass.. Just tell her how much you love her and that you're only doing what you think is best for her. I'm sure she's sorry for upsetting you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NEKRO138 Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Take her for a romantic dinner for two with an enchanted beast. Maybe take her ice skating or something. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bago Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Well, I dunno whether you're harsh, cos it's hard for me to say. I guess I can see why she is crying. Maybe it's cos you shouted, more than it's cos she knows she spends so much on games. My nephew goes to the arcades too, (he's only about 7) but only under our supervision. We also make it like a family day out too. I think it's hard to drag a kid away from it. It's the attractive lights which makes it like a big playground. It's also an expensive place. Esp if a kid goes regularly. Maybe you need to set a limit on the arcades. i.e. never go there without you. Or don't spend more than X amount etc. I can understand that spending a large sum for a kid on something which may lead to a habit is also worrying. I'm also a very cruel auntie, I once took him to a games shop and showed him how much things cost, and told him to save up. He asked me whether he can have this game, and I said no. I asked him how much he has got. He didn't have any money. So we walked out of the shop. He was a little bit grumpy, but I think he's forgiven me since. My mom thinks I'm cruel, but I was cruel to be kind. Cos he doesn't appreciates his toys. I just make sure we're okay again, by passing a certain level on his gameboy, for him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
alchresearch Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 She's wasted her money. She's your daughter, punish her as you see fit - don't get the opinion of people on here who don't know you or your family. You did what you thought was right and I'd have done the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MANDI Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 £15.00 doesnt go very far today, after paying for her dinner, would she have enough money left to buy a top? Think about it shes had a day off school and spent some fun time with her friends in a smoke free, drink free environment. When she could have been out on the streets!!! Just make sure she knows what you expect of her, when you give her money in future, if she is the sensible girl you say she is then she will listen and this will never happen again. But knowing 12 to 16yr olds youve probably got more grounding to come. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NEKRO138 Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 She's wasted her money. She's your daughter, punish her as you see fit - don't get the opinion of people on here who don't know you or your family. You did what you thought was right and I'd have done the same. Would you take her out for a meal with an enchanted beast though? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
willman Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Go and see her, tell her you were disappointed that she blew it in the arcades and that you always thought she was more sensible. Then apologise for flying off the handle. Big hugs, remind her shes got nothing to come cash wise for a while and let that be an end to it. thats the way to do it... eat humble pie & apologise.it is difficult to reconcile hard earned money with frivolous behaviour. i'm sure plenty of other parents have done the same - my daughter still gets lectured for spending(her) money on girlie nights up town, and she's 21 & has her own place. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyclone Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Today, my 12 year old daughter has had the day off school because of a teacher training day.. She asked me and her dad if she could stay at her friends last night and go to Meadowhall today with her friends whilst we were at work and we said yes.. She's a sensible young girl and has been to Meadowhall with her friends a number of times.. She had £10 of her own to spend and her dad gave her another £5 (that's all he had in his wallet last night) and off she went.. She's just come home and I asked her what she'd bought. Expecting her to say she'd bought a new top and some Lush bubble stuff or something, she said she'd bought her dinner. So I asked, "what else"?? she started giggling at her friend.."nothing she said". So I said jokingly, "oh well, you can give your dad his fiver back". "I can't she said, it's all gone" so I asked where it has all gone and she said she'd spent it in the arcades !! All she'd spent out of £15 was about £3.50 on her dinner and wasted the rest in the sodding arcades !! I went ballistic.. I couldn't believe that she'd thought it ok to go and waste that amount of money.. I've just grounded her and told her she's never going to Meadowhall on her own ever again... She's now upstairs crying.. She's NEVER done anything like this before. She's always been a sensible lass or so I thought.. I hate to hear her crying .. I've never really had to tell her off like this before.. Have I been to harsh by grounding her and banning her from Meadowhall ?? I think maybe you have. If it was her £10 then let her spend it how she chooses... And if you give her a fiver with no instructions then the same applies. She's probably just had a great day playing in the arcade with her friends and you've gone and ruined it by blowing your top. Okay, I realise that you want her to learn the value of money and that it doesn't grow on trees, but at the end of the day if she'd saved the £10 out of pocket money or whatever then it's hers to dispose of. Would you have been equally upset if she'd spent it at the bowling alley or going to see a couple of films? Afterall, neither of them leave you with anything to bring home either... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
exile Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Wooden spoon. All I'm saying. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Cyclone Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 She's spent it on a day out Did you say when she was given the money that she had to spend it on clothes? Try to think of it more like she's spent it on a trip to the pictures, or a fairground. Besides, she's probably had more interaction with people than she would have gawping at the silver screen Let her off, and report the arcade for letting underage gambling take place on the premises - she's supposed to be over 16 to be in there for a reason There's no age restriction on the arcade in meadowhall, the section with gambling machines is seperate from the rest and has security on it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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