sarah1 Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Today, my 12 year old daughter has had the day off school because of a teacher training day.. She asked me and her dad if she could stay at her friends last night and go to Meadowhall today with her friends whilst we were at work and we said yes.. She's a sensible young girl and has been to Meadowhall with her friends a number of times.. She had £10 of her own to spend and her dad gave her another £5 (that's all he had in his wallet last night) and off she went.. She's just come home and I asked her what she'd bought. Expecting her to say she'd bought a new top and some Lush bubble stuff or something, she said she'd bought her dinner. So I asked, "what else"?? she started giggling at her friend.."nothing she said". So I said jokingly, "oh well, you can give your dad his fiver back". "I can't she said, it's all gone" so I asked where it has all gone and she said she'd spent it in the arcades !! All she'd spent out of £15 was about £3.50 on her dinner and wasted the rest in the sodding arcades !! I went ballistic.. I couldn't believe that she'd thought it ok to go and waste that amount of money.. I've just grounded her and told her she's never going to Meadowhall on her own ever again... She's now upstairs crying.. She's NEVER done anything like this before. She's always been a sensible lass or so I thought.. I hate to hear her crying .. I've never really had to tell her off like this before.. Have I been to harsh by grounding her and banning her from Meadowhall ?? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fox20thc Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Its her money, she should be allowed to spend it how she sees fit as long as shes not breaking any laws. Now apart from knowing how disappointed her parents are she has no cash.. remember that when she says can I borrow £2 for ..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heyesey Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 So she *didn't* have any money of her own to spend, did she? She was only allowed to use it on things that YOU think are worthwhile, and not on what SHE does. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NEKRO138 Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 What's wrong with spending it in the arcades? Never mind. She might spend it on drugs or booze next time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
thegman005 Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 yeah youve been harsh! but might be for the best cos the arcades in meadowhall is full of lads who try to pull little girls! and theyre just chavs looking for a bit of fun! AT 12 YEARS OLD!!! thats so so wrong Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strix Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 She's spent it on a day out Did you say when she was given the money that she had to spend it on clothes? Try to think of it more like she's spent it on a trip to the pictures, or a fairground. Besides, she's probably had more interaction with people than she would have gawping at the silver screen Let her off, and report the arcade for letting underage gambling take place on the premises - she's supposed to be over 16 to be in there for a reason Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sarah1 Posted November 3, 2006 Author Share Posted November 3, 2006 You think I was to harsh then ?? :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
speeed Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 Let her off, and report the arcade for letting underage gambling take place on the premises - she's supposed to be over 16 to be in there for a reason Who said she was gambling? She could have just been in ther playing arcade games! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strix Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 on her - maybe, but is sounds like you're a very loving mother who is bothered about how responsible your kids grow up to be I'd still report the arcade to the authorities though (see my post above if you missed it whilst posting) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fox20thc Posted November 3, 2006 Share Posted November 3, 2006 The main thing about pre teens is they have to learn to live by their mistakes. I would say the biggest thing she will have learned is how quickly you can blow £15 and when she asks for a sub on spending money you say no, she should have been more careful. Grounding her and barring her from M/H is way too harsh IMHO. (sorry) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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