Faye12 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Hi, I am wanting advice on behalf of a friend of mine. My friend and their ex were together a number of years and had two children together however they never married. The arrangement set up by the childrens mother was for their father to see them once a fortnight at weekends, but she now wants to put a stop to this arrangement and for him not to see them at all. I have looked into the situation and found that a common solution is to go through a mediator. But, this is not legally binding and I have a feeling that the ex will never agree to the solution provided. Does anyone know what other options are possible in a situation like this? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fox20thc Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Get a lawyer.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darbees Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Hi, I am wanting advice on behalf of a friend of mine. My friend and their ex were together a number of years and had two children together however they never married. The arrangement set up by the childrens mother was for their father to see them once a fortnight at weekends, but she now wants to put a stop to this arrangement and for him not to see them at all. I have looked into the situation and found that a common solution is to go through a mediator. But, this is not legally binding and I have a feeling that the ex will never agree to the solution provided. Does anyone know what other options are possible in a situation like this? Is your friend the mum or the dad (or both)? I can't tell from your post which way you think it should go but why doesn't the mum want the dad to see the kids? Unless there is something very badly wrong with his relationship with the kids everything should be done to ensure that he sees them and that there are no obstacles put in the way because it's not them who have fallen out with either parent. It won't do any harm going to mediator and you should encourage that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Faye12 Posted October 30, 2006 Author Share Posted October 30, 2006 My friend is the father in this case Darbees sorry for not being clear. The mum in this case is simply being fairly awkward, and messing the arrangements about and its not fair on the children. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darbees Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 My friend is the father in this case Darbees sorry for not being clear. The mum in this case is simply being fairly awkward, and messing the arrangements about and its not fair on the children.That's a pity cos it's probably the mum who needs the mediation most. Lot of this goes on where the kids are used as weapons against the other parent, not good. Is the dad paying maintenance, if he isn't that won't help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ukstudent Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 well if the father isnt a bad influence etc, and the mother is just being awkward as you said. the father definately has rights, even if they were never married. so yes, as the other poster said, they will need a lawyer unless he can convince her. i feel sorry for the kids! x Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darbees Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I would never advise anyone to get a lawyer other than as a last resort. They are in it purely for profit and the more antagonism the better it is for them. When I got divorced it was going reasonably smoothly until a lawyer stepped in and spun it out for months before relieving us of several thousand pounds to get the same deal we had at the start. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PPB2709 Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 You will need a lawyer in this instance as mediation is not legally binding so the only way to prevent future unrest is to have the matter settled in court. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tripitaka Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 Unless the mother has a Court order to vary the original order, specifying the visiting rights etc, then there is nothing she can do other than to apply for it to be varied. So has she applied to the Court or is she just blatantly disregarding a Court order? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jsmart Posted October 30, 2006 Share Posted October 30, 2006 I used to work as a mediator for relate this is an option if both parties are willing otherwise a lawyer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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