Memorial christmas present ?

[Kashul]

Guys can anyone help me out here ?

 

My father passed away 5 weeks ago yesterday. It was a complete shock, not expected and is harde everyday right now.

 

Mum was talking about xmas today, she doesnt want a big fuss, she said just small gifts etc etc....Sooooooooooo as she doesnt want anything really I thought about naming a star after my daddy, problem is looking around the net I cant find one where the money goes to charity, it seems there aresome scams running around huh.

 

Has anyone got any ideas for me ?

 

his whole life was us his painting and decorating and fishing....Thought maybe someone here would have a clue or two for me ?

[alirosdan]

So sorry to hear about your dad Kashul. On the first anniversary of my father in law's death, we bought a brick for the wall of fame at the Sheffield Wednesday ground (yes, he was an avid fan of the team), and had his name and date of birth / death engraved on it. I know it's not as romantic as a star, but he would have loved it. I only wish we'd thought of it when he was alive.

[Halibut]

Sorry to hear of your loss. If your Dad had a favourite pond or lake for fishing, maybe a bench at the waterside with a plaque dedicated to his memory?

[scoop]

Kashul, i'm really sorry to hear of your loss. Have you considered having a tree planted in memory of your Dad.

[peakma]

Sorry about your dad.I was just thinking the other day how I don't really appreciate having my parents ,I can't imagine how awful it would be to lose one.

You don't have to buy a star just chose one.I can never understand how people can buy a star ??They don't belong to anyone,so how can they be for sale??They are for everyone to admire equally.

How about buying yor Mum a plant for the Garden in memory of your Dad.I'l mull it over for some better ideas.The first Xmas after losing someone close is always hard to get through,it just doesn't seem right them not being there.But it's also a time when memories of the good times together seem to flood back.Good luck.

[me-and-pippo]

So sorry to hear about your loss of a loved one, as you mentioined that your dad liked fishing. Have you considerd having a plaque placed near or at one of

his favourite fishing places.

[peterw]

Sorry to hear of your loss. If your Dad had a favourite pond or lake for fishing, maybe a bench at the waterside with a plaque dedicated to his memory?

 

Cost of a bench, if you get permission to install one, cost around £350 some years ago. Price has probably risen by now but the idea is good. I shared the cost of one in Eyam village, on a hill my mother and her husband used to walk up. It also served the community because Derbyshire County Council in their infinite wisdom had built old folks’ bungalows in the most inaccesible place they could find, and failed to put anything at all as a resting place. We had it placed half way up, or down of course.

[rothschild]

Kashul........I am so sorry to hear of your loss of your Dad. Time does help to heal, and you will one day be able to remember all the happy times that you shared with him.

 

Have you thought about a gift of life as a memorial to your much loved Dad? For not a lot of money you can buy a goat or a cow or even some chickens, to help a starving third world family. These gifts can mean the difference between living and dying to so many families. Should you want to do this then just visit the oxfam website and all the information is there.

 

Closer to home there is the "name a tree" scheme which will help to create areas of local woodland. I first heard about this on Radio Sheffield and it sounds like a wonderful idea.

 

Good luck with whatever you eventually decide on........I am sure your Dad would approve.

[Kashul]

Hey Guys

 

Thanks for your kind words, I really appreciate them.

 

Some lovely ideas but, Mum and Dad are from Peterborough, well originally from London actually and lived in Pete for 20 years. I thought about a bench and a plaque but both are quite expensive and I was thinking about something my mum could ahve in the house, something she could look at. He always wanted his ashes scattered in the Avon, so were all going as a family to Hampshire on the first anniversary to take him, 'home'. We did virtually live there as kids anyway so he could fish, bless him.

 

A tree is a lovely idea ! She will be moving to Wales with my sister in two years, she could take it with her. Still love the star thing, just wish that I could find one that was for charity, as the previos person said, you dont really get to own the star and it isnt recognised with the star type dudes.

 

Buy a goat, now I may do that anyway for someone else for christmas, do you hvae the link for that hon ? And a brick would be cool but he wasnt a footie fan...

 

Bless you all, and yes to you who was thinking, I hadnt spoke to my dad for 2 weeks and the day before he died we were making plans about my eldest son and laughing about stupid things.....Next thing I know I am having a diff kind of conversation about him. I will hold onto that chat we had forever.

 

If ya think of anything ?

 

xx

[Ousetunes]

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How about buying yor Mum a plant for the Garden in memory of your Dad.

 

My father passed away in 1998 and my wife bought a willow tree for our garden around the same time. It was in its own stone plant-pot at the time so it moved when we moved and subsequently moved to our present house where we planted it.

 

Every spring its leaves return and I'm reminded of my much-missed father. It has settled in nicely and it obviously growing into a beautiful willow tree.

 

Whilst in a way it's like my Dad is still with us - an occasional word has been spoken to the tree - it also signifies in the nicest way that life goes on.

 

I recommend a nice plant/tree for your mum for Christmas. It will grow (not be discarded or run out like other gifts) and will serve as a constant reminder of your Dad. As I said, it may also remind you that life for the rest of us continues.

 

My sympathies to you.