minnime Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 hi you lot just wondered have you ever been taken in by others n how did it feel. do we ever learn not too thanx:thumbsup: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fairydust Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 I can't imagine you been taken in by anyone Minnime................ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
saxon51 Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 I was once taken in by a dear old German lady whilst serving in the army in Dortmund. Me and my mates were on a three day orienteering exercise, and the old lady made dinner for us and let us sleep in her hay loft. She also gave us two bottles of wine and a loaf of fresh bread before we left. Nowt wrong with getting taken in by someone. She was a saint, and me and the lads sent her some presents when we got back to barracks. You didn't mean it this way did you minnime? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
babychickens Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 i assume you mean in a relationship basis, in which case no, i haven't (unless you count a relationship that went on for nearly 2 years because he had me taken in that i was very nearly worthless - it's ok though, i dumped him. took the little effer by surprise, too. not that that made up for 2 years of emotional blackmail and misery, but it was better than nothing). I have been taken for a ride by a builder - it was horrible and stressful and wasted £1400, which he still owes us. however, he decided to move house as he owed 24k to various people (at least), and we don't know where to find him, so i doubt we'll ever see our money again. not as bad as being taken in on a personal matter, but still highly stressful, and you can't stop thinking about how stupid you were to trust him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minnime Posted September 28, 2006 Author Share Posted September 28, 2006 no not just relationships friends n people who chat a load of rubbish say nice stuff as they know it what u want to hear but dont mean it:( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minnime Posted September 28, 2006 Author Share Posted September 28, 2006 I can't imagine you been taken in by anyone Minnime................ well i have so maybe your wrong:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gnomi Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 no not just relationships friends n people who chat a load of rubbish say nice stuff as they know it what u want to hear but dont mean it:( I think this has probably happened,at some point,to all of us.That said,as you get older,i think you learn not to base your self esteem on other people. Once you've mastered this,then it doesnt matter what people think of you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minnime Posted September 28, 2006 Author Share Posted September 28, 2006 I think this has probably happened,at some point,to all of us.That said,as you get older,i think you learn not to base your self esteem on other people. Once you've mastered this,then it doesnt matter what people think of you? thanx for that think i need to stop been more caring for others and think of me:) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nicky5842 Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 Iv'e been takin in more than once min n it aint a nice feelin .... why these ppl persist in tormenting the decent ones amongst us is beyond me n wish them the best with their shallow n sad lives as at the end of the day its their loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gnomi Posted September 28, 2006 Share Posted September 28, 2006 thanx for that think i need to stop been more caring for others and think of me:) Absolutely.I think it is far easier to care for other people,rather than yourself(why do you think i went into nursing ) Ultimately though,it becomes self defeating. It becomes a vicious circle,of 'how could they do this to ME after all ive done for them' then comes the 'i must be a terrible person' which make you feel even more negative about yourself. The harsh reality is that you have to learn to love yourself,warts n all.Please dont rely on others to make you happy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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