Starz Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 Hmm, the conundrum! When is it the right time to go back? There probably isn't a right time, and after all the new experiences the thought of going back is just too much. But what then? Bills need to be paid so do I get a job that I can do around nursery/school hours? What sort of jobs are available to a Mum, or could I become an entrepreneur or a skilled tradesperson? A new life this... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Titian Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 It's always a dilemma and I suppose the answer is that you do what you can. You need to balance anything you do. If not going back to work means that the financial burden becomes too heavy and causes a stressed mum and an unhappy family then it's counter productive. The same goes for if you choose to work. If you do need to work and need to pay for childcare then lots of research has been done to show that children with one stable childcare provider is better than having sporadic childcare with lots of different people. As long as your child has routine, stability and love he/she will fair well. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Yellowrose Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 I went back after my first when he was 9 months. I went back full time and it was too much, I switched to two days a week and that was much better. When I had my second I went back when she was 5/6 months again for only two days, it seemed too soon. I would recommend waiting a bit longer if you can. I used to use a childminder as she lived locally and my children got on well with the other children there, then my mother in law took over. With hindsight, the childminder was better in many ways as my son was used to going there and grew up to be a very sociable individual. My daughter was only there for a couple of months then they went to my MILs and she was never as outgoing. Nowadays there are really good nurseries though. I have full time care of my grandchildren and they go to a day nursery and both enjoy it. Its nice to be at home for them, but bills and mortgages these days are a fact of life, and if you want to own your own home two wages are usually necessary, so you wont be on your own. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sall242003 Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 Ive just gone back to work for 4 days a week and at first I missed my son like mad, I feel like I hardly see him but bills need paying so I have no choice. I would defo be a full time mum if we could afford it! He now goes to the nursery that I work in, (cushy I know) and he absolutely loves it - mixing with other children and getting lots of attention off the nursery staff! The nursery splits the children into age groups and he is in the baby room (6 months to 18 months). If your thinking of using a nursery, waiting lists for the good ones are often long so its best to put your name down now even if you wont be needed it for a while. Also I would really recommend Community Nurserys over Private Nurserys. Community nurserys are not for profit and there staff are paid well so in return are very experienced and the quality of care is better. Private nurserys are in it for the money so staff tend to be younger and on minimum wage. Community nurserys are cheaper too! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Titian Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 Private nurserys are in it for the money so staff tend to be younger and on minimum wage. I have to disagree with this fact as the private nursery I run is a charity, has mature staff who in the main hold degree qualifications and recently waited 1 year to employ the right leader which ended up being one from abroad. Just clarifying things a little Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sall242003 Posted September 22, 2006 Share Posted September 22, 2006 I have to disagree with this fact as the private nursery I run is a charity, has mature staff who in the main hold degree qualifications and recently waited 1 year to employ the right leader which ended up being one from abroad. Just clarifying things a little Really? Im sorry I didnt realise private nurserys could be registered charitys I thought private meant profit. My experience of private run nurseries is that staff are on low wages and nursery fees are high to generate a profit. If thats not the case with all private nurserys then i do apologies! I still highly recommend community run nurseries we all do a good job in the end Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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