luv_milk Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 been really horrendously stressed out for quite a few reasons... tax credits stopped my money for the second time in 2 months, leading me to default on my mortgage/go over my overdraft limit; my boss is being a total bitch, having cut my hours despite me asking for more due to my financial situation, only to be told "no" and her take on a new member of staff 2 weeks later ex-husband is sniffing around for custody of my son cos he thinks i can't support him financially... so, i ended up seeing my doctor today who upped my antidepressant dosage by 50mg (for the 3rd time in a year), gave me sleeping pills and referred me to a mental health nurse and occupational health therapist. anywhooooo, i needed to vent my frustrations, so met my bloke in the pub. he's not exactly happy with his job either, but acted like i was the most horrendous person he'd met cos i needed to talk 'bout stuff to do with my job. i feel so guilty for upsetting him, but feel upset cos he didn't comfort me and was a bit cold when he walked me home. AM I BEING TOTALLY PARANOID? or is this normal man behavior and i'm a bit over-sensitive? HELP!!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jena76 Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 The mans an idiot he should listen to you and support you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 No, you're not being paranoid or over-sensitive. I don't think it's normal bloke behaviour either. Your partner should be the one person that you know you can turn to for unconditional support and love when you're stressed. He should be able to understand what's going on and just be there for you to use as a sounding board and to listen to you venting your frustrations. Maybe he's just feeling a little down and stressed himself, or you just happened to catch him when he's had a particularly stressful day? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
taxman Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 sorry edited because I misread original post Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 Edited too . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KJ_VENOM Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 i have to say not all men are like this when i met my girlfriend she had no job, no money and very rarely slept at her own house prefering to sleep at her mums now 8 years on she has a home not just a house which she is actually buying, started back on her career and gone on to take her nvq's she will soon be starting a job with the NHS men should be supportive of their partner if you have worries at work or in life in general the person you should be able to talk to or even just vent your spleen to never mind theres plenty of people on here will lend you an ear Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
luv_milk Posted September 7, 2006 Author Share Posted September 7, 2006 aw thanks guys. i really appreciate your advice. feeling REALLY ****e. i've got a first class honours degree, have finally managed to buy my own house for me and my son, and am deffo not one to sit on my arse and try to claim benefits...so why am i still finding it so hard to be happy and look to the future? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CorkerSWFC Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 u feel better now just read ur posts im matt 25 from gleadless Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happyhippy Posted September 7, 2006 Share Posted September 7, 2006 been really horrendously stressed out for quite a few reasons... tax credits stopped my money for the second time in 2 months, leading me to default on my mortgage/go over my overdraft limit; my boss is being a total bitch, having cut my hours despite me asking for more due to my financial situation, only to be told "no" and her take on a new member of staff 2 weeks later ex-husband is sniffing around for custody of my son cos he thinks i can't support him financially... so, i ended up seeing my doctor today who upped my antidepressant dosage by 50mg (for the 3rd time in a year), gave me sleeping pills and referred me to a mental health nurse and occupational health therapist. anywhooooo, i needed to vent my frustrations, so met my bloke in the pub. he's not exactly happy with his job either, but acted like i was the most horrendous person he'd met cos i needed to talk 'bout stuff to do with my job. i feel so guilty for upsetting him, but feel upset cos he didn't comfort me and was a bit cold when he walked me home. AM I BEING TOTALLY PARANOID? or is this normal man behavior and i'm a bit over-sensitive? HELP!!!! No you're not paranoid love. See an advice centre immediately and try not to worry. If there is an error made by the Government all of the nonsense that goes along with it can be sorted, albeit after some time. Forget what new bloke said, and take tomorrow on as normal. You're not the only species to go off on one irrationally Focus on what's required which is your financial situation first, and employment second. Thirdly, try and talk to him about firstly and secondly if you can in private, not in public. Fourthly, because I infer you two don't live together,if all else fails, get a mate round for a take away and a bottle of wine, or so, and a good moan. You can't be out all the time because of little one (tell me), but it sounds like you need a yell. Sometimes, just shouting about it is the best way to sort it, in your own head. Seek some financial advice as soon as possible, especially regarding tax credits. Take care chuckles, <fx: takes off egalitarian hat and heads back to the rugby club website for a bit> Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mystie Posted September 8, 2006 Share Posted September 8, 2006 No it's not normal man behaviour, he should be supportive to you. He's out of order and don't let him convince you otherwise. Wish you luck with your situation, hope it all works out mate, I'm sure it will. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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