Mo   10 #1 Posted May 9, 2004 When did you last do somebody a good turn?  Did they appreciate it or not? I often hold doors open for people and recieve nothing more than a grunt (if I'm lucky) in gratitude.  It does sometimes make you wonder why you bother. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Sidla   10 #2 Posted May 9, 2004 I try do do a good turn whenever I can, but sometimes when you have things on your mind things such as holding open doors etc. can slip your mind.  As for gratitude, I don't really expect any, just to be trated in a similar way. I always give gratitude back though. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Lickszz   10 #3 Posted May 9, 2004 I find doing a good turn for someone satisfying but only if they acknowledge it. Sadly too many people fail to acknowledge others going out of their way to be curtious/helpful which can make people think twice about doing it again. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Smiler   10 #4 Posted May 9, 2004 Is there a difference between doing a good turn and good manners? I think I would put holding a door open in the latter category. To me, it's a bit like letting people in to the flow of traffic or saying please and thank you. It's about showing respect for people, IMHO. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Mo   10 #5 Posted May 9, 2004 Originally posted by Smiler Is there a difference between doing a good turn and good manners? I think I would put holding a door open in the latter category. To me, it's a bit like letting people in to the flow of traffic or saying please and thank you. It's about showing respect for people, IMHO.  I agree Smiler, it was a bad example.  The thread was prompted when I remembered once filling in a job application (think it was for M&S) when that question was asked. I had to think really hard about it and wondered if fellow members had to do the same. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Smiler   10 #6 Posted May 9, 2004 That's an unusual quaestion on an application form! How did you answer it? Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Mo   10 #7 Posted May 9, 2004 I had been listening to Radio Sheffield earlier that day and a listener had phoned in to ask where single measles vaccines could be obtained rather than the MMR jab.  As I have had my children vaccinated singly I offered my phone number for anybody who wanted more information.  Considering that it took me six years to get the information myself, I think that could be classed as a good turn.  Didn't end up sending the application in for some reason. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Martin_s   10 #8 Posted May 9, 2004 Originally posted by Mo When did you last do somebody a good turn? Hmm... well I tend to try and do a good turn whenever there's an opportunity... sort of a hold over from my old cub scout days  I figure it's often a case of what goes around, comes around... and more often than not, it does seem to work...  Aside from anything else you ever found yourself suddenly turning a day around?.. because of someone else's mini-kindness like a smile and a nod.. so it sometimes helps to bear that in mind even if your own "good turn" doesn't appear to be appreciated at the time... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Blootiger   10 #9 Posted May 9, 2004 I try to do my best by people, offer help/support (where it's wanted!) I enjoy helping elderly people & so do loads of voluntary work for the Red Cross, UN, etc but also like human rights oriented issues, so do the whole Amnesty International thing...helping people I know/friends & acquitances etc presents problems in its self as people misinterpret your kindness for whatever whim takes their fancy...that they're not accustomed to kindness so you MUST fancy them:shocked: Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
takumi   10 #10 Posted May 11, 2004 have to agree.. but what i believe is what you give is what you get.. i.e. karma..  so everyone do good.. even though others do not do good to you.. cos it will play off in the end.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
max   13 #11 Posted May 11, 2004 I get the feeling from the posts on here that doing good is a good thing and that people posting on this thread will generally do the good thing. Taking that to it's logical conclusion then all those people who use do-gooder as a pejorative term must be do-badders and go around purposefully doing bad turns.  My position on doing good deeds is unassailable as I have it on good authority that I am a do-gooder. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Martin_s   10 #12 Posted May 11, 2004 Originally posted by max Taking that to it's logical conclusion then all those people who use do-gooder as a pejorative term must be do-badders and go around purposefully doing bad turns. LOL... erm... perhaps not... lots of grey in the middle and the do-gooders will surely be doing bad things anyways... ho hum... but will them do them to the best of their ability we wonder.. Oh the quandries...  My position on doing good deeds is unassailable as I have it on good authority that I am a do-gooder. Hand me the baseball bat and we'll see about the unassailable bit Max  Personally, I dunno... but the whole doing a "good" turn is probably a bit twee but it never hurts to just help out once in a while... you never know when you might need someone to do the same for you.. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...