bendix   10 #13 Posted March 20, 2019 14 hours ago, whitemary328 said: Thanks for the info. In response to Happ, my partner just likes the way I look with glasses on and I don't mind wearing them but it helps if I can see through them. Some men take their partners some flowers after work but mine brings a new pair of specs.  Well . . . . that's not weird at all.  Move along everyone; nothing to see here. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
tinfoilhat   11 #14 Posted March 20, 2019 Now, the world don't move to the beat of just one drumWhat might be right for you, may not be right for someA man is born, he's a man of meansThen along come two, they got nothing but their jeansBut they got, Diff'rent StrokesIt takes, Diff'rent StrokesIt takes, Diff'rent Strokes to move the worldEverybody's got a special kind of storyEverybody finds a way to shineIt don't matter that you got not alotSo whatThey'll have theirs, and you'll have yours, and I'll have mineAnd together we'll be fine....Because it takes, Diff'rent Strokes to move the worldYes it doesIt takes, Diff'rent Strokes to move the world. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Ontarian1981   10 #15 Posted March 20, 2019 7 hours ago, tinfoilhat said: Now, the world don't move to the beat of just one drumWhat might be right for you, may not be right for someA man is born, he's a man of meansThen along come two, they got nothing but their jeansBut they got, Diff'rent StrokesIt takes, Diff'rent StrokesIt takes, Diff'rent Strokes to move the worldEverybody's got a special kind of storyEverybody finds a way to shineIt don't matter that you got not alotSo whatThey'll have theirs, and you'll have yours, and I'll have mineAnd together we'll be fine....Because it takes, Diff'rent Strokes to move the worldYes it doesIt takes, Diff'rent Strokes to move the world.  I had to go and get my specs to read all that.👴 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
DeZeus   11 #16 Posted March 21, 2019 I have Never considered Glasses as FETISH WEAR, maybe they're like Beer Goggles ? Maybe I should search more NET online deeper, one never knows what goes on behind closed doors... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
spider1   11 #17 Posted March 21, 2019 Get rid pf him A, S, P. what will he be on with next have you told your parents about this Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Jomie   30 #18 Posted March 21, 2019 Whitemary328 - you don’t need glasses because you are fortunate enough to have good vision. You should treasure that. You use the analogy of him buying you spectacles instead of flowers but it is incorrect because if he bought you flowers it would be for you. He is buying spectacles for him and it is to your detriment because they are impairing your vision.  Have you asked him why he wants you to wear glasses?  You say it doesn’t bother you but it is impacting on you because you are going to great lengths to find some glasses that you can wear without discomfort, just to satisfy his desire. If you find some glasses with plain lenses will he be satisfied with your choice of frame or will he still be bringing unsuitable spectacles with his choice of frames?   It’s your choice but it’s OK to say no, you are not going to wear glasses because  you don’t need them. Don’t be manipulated. In the words of the song, he should love you just the way you are and not try to change you into something he wants.   Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
whitemary328   10 #19 Posted March 21, 2019 I'm not sure what all the fuss is about, I just want to look nice for my partner. I only asked a question. Anyway the new rimless ones came today and they look really nice. I don't mind wearing them really. As for damage to my sight, I tend to pop them on the end of my nose so I don't have to look through them that much. My partner occasionally pushes them up over my eyes but only for a short time. I managed to find an optician to get plain specs from and when I told them why I wanted them they said it's very common thing. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
saywhatnow   33 #20 Posted March 21, 2019 If you're wearing glasses because you like to, regardless of whether the initial suggestion was yours or you partner's then that is fine.  Your post however came across like you are wearing glasses that hinder your sight because your partner wants you to, that is not OK.  And I really really cringed when I read 'sometimes pushes them back up my nose..'  If you cant see why people are concerned for you about this, and want to be sure it's your choice, you should read up on coercive control. Not because this is definitely what is happening to you but because you will understand how the wording of your post would make some people concerned for you. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
spider1   11 #21 Posted March 21, 2019 (edited) Same as i said her parents should be told as she is obviously hiding it from them whats going off    Edited March 21, 2019 by spider1 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Ontarian1981 Â Â 10 #22 Posted March 21, 2019 This thread has all the trappings of a Rogets type of wind up.Lol Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Jomie   30 #23 Posted March 21, 2019 (edited) Whitemary328 - the lady at the opticians has a point. It would seem that some people with perfect sight use plain glass spectacles as a fashion accessory. I am sure that you are nice enough without wearing spectacles but to prevent falls from wearing unsuitable reading glasses you are doing the right thing by buying your own with clear glass. That should provide enough pleasure for your partner without you risking life and limb through not being able to see properly. If he insists that you wear the ones he has bought than carefully read saywhatnow's post, #20. Perhaps you could consider asking him to join in and wear reading glasses too.  Your excuses and comments are a tad worrying. Sometimes it helps to talk things through with an older, more experienced woman.  Edited March 21, 2019 by Jomie Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
jaffa1   10 #24 Posted March 21, 2019 4 hours ago, Jomie said:   It’s your choice but it’s OK to say no, you are not going to wear glasses because  you don’t need them. Don’t be manipulated. In the words of the song, he should love you just the way you are and not try to change you into something he wants.   She should have gone to Specsave. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...