Legal advice - Callum Blade Hubbard

[striker15 10]

it was my son , ,he was 14 the hospital did a serious untoward incident report , then had an  independent expert witness , 

 

the trust then  admitted causation of his death

 

paid compensation to my sons estate 

 

at inquest bits of the  sui was mentioned ,but nothing from the independent expert witness 

 

the coroner used evidence from a different independent witness and came to the conclusion the trust were wrong 

 

which left us as a family with more questions than answers 

[phil752 10]

16 minutes ago, striker15 said:

it was my son , ,he was 14 the hospital did a serious untoward incident report , then had an  independent expert witness , 

 

the trust then  admitted causation of his death

 

paid compensation to my sons estate 

 

at inquest bits of the  sui was mentioned ,but nothing from the independent expert witness 

 

the coroner used evidence from a different independent witness and came to the conclusion the trust were wrong 

 

which left us as a family with more questions than answers 

Im very sorry for your loss, i would have thought as next of kin you would have full discloser, however from what you say you have had a solicitor involved and he must have advised you?

[Top Cats Hat 10]

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss.

 

Unfortunately not everything in life is black and white and in medicine even more so.

 

There is rarely a single cause of death, more often a chain of events and causes and two experts will often come to two different conclusions as to what contributed how much to the death. Health professionals do have an obligation to take reasonable steps to preserve life but even that is subject to change given different circumstances.

 

What is seen a seen as  reasonable on a quiet Tuesday afternoon in A&E with a full establishment of staff would not necessarily be seen as reasonable on a busy Saturday night in A&E with half the staff off sick and a nearby rail crash suddenly means that they are now dealing with many serious casualties.

 

You may never find out exactly what happened and remember the old saying 'he who pays the piper calls the tune'. An 'expert' paid for by the defence rarely gives evidence that helps the prosecution and vice versa.

[striker15 10]

i feel its my duty , the only thing left i can do for my son is to keep fighting for answers and justice 

 

the case is in the high court in london at the moment ,trying to get the coroners verdict quashed 

 

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-derbyshire-44380653?fbclid=IwAR3OxKZFDiJCDQS8v9r-z0YGvkbQcsfp05GUyI-LtJgrOWTQrpQGswY61t0

 

Edited December 1, 2018 by striker15
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[phil752 10]

Just now, striker15 said:

i feel its my duty , the only thing left i can do for my son is to keep fighting for answers and justice 

 

the case is in the high court in london at the moment ,trying to get the coroners verdict quashed 

Oh i feel you have to go with your feeling for sure, just say healthy in mind and spirit

[striker15 10]

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-derbyshire-44380653?fbclid=IwAR3OxKZFDiJCDQS8v9r-z0YGvkbQcsfp05GUyI-LtJgrOWTQrpQGswY61t0

[phil752 10]

4 minutes ago, striker15 said:

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-derbyshire-44380653?fbclid=IwAR3OxKZFDiJCDQS8v9r-z0YGvkbQcsfp05GUyI-LtJgrOWTQrpQGswY61t0

again just stay healthy in mind and spirit in your en devours

[striker15 10]

im struggling mate , nearly 5 years weve been going thro this 

 

i honestly think im dreaming , having a nightmare and im gunna wake up soon , 

 

havent / cant go to cemetery 

 

cant have any photos up in the house 

 

so many things everyday remind me of callum ,just brings everything back 

 

seems like yesterday

[phil752 10]

44 minutes ago, striker15 said:

im struggling mate , nearly 5 years weve been going thro this 

 

i honestly think im dreaming , having a nightmare and im gunna wake up soon , 

 

havent / cant go to cemetery 

 

cant have any photos up in the house 

 

so many things everyday remind me of callum ,just brings everything back 

 

seems like yesterday

sorry to hear that, all iI can say is look to the living without forgetting your son and fight for what you see. However think of the living and keep hem safe.

[Lex Luthor 10]

I am very sorry for your loss.  There is no wonder you feel as you do.  I lost a relative due to hospital negligence, my wonderful nan, and it was heartbreaking, but losing a child is something else. 

 

My thoughts are, that if your legal representatives cannot persuade the trust to reveal documents, then, after all legal proceedings are over, perhaps getting the media involved to put pressure on the trust?  Perhaps getting your MP involved?  Could you raise this with the Coroner's Office, could they view the report and summarise it for you? 

 

This nightmare that you are sleepwalking through will eventually hurt less, even though you feel it never will.  

 

I hope that you will be able to find comfort eventually in something, perhaps meeting and talking with other bereaved parents might help. 

 

We, as a family, after 25 years, still hurt, and have to fight back tears occasionally, and still feel totally let down by the trust and how they subsequently dealt with us, but it does get easier.   

 

Especially, in your case, as because you have been forced to fight for justice for Callum, and this is ongoing, you have not had the chance to grieve properly.  Please, seriously think about getting some therapeutic, specialist, help.  I wish we had done this as a family years ago.  It's not something you can 'get over' but it's something you can survive.  

 

I wish you, and Callum's lovely brothers in the photo, continued strength and hope it is not too long before the clouds start to part.  If you can, try and do something for yourself, such as a short break, or get a change of scenery.  It's important that you are kind to yourself as you have been through such a great deal.   You are not letting Callum down, if you take a couple of days for yourself.  You have already done so much for him in your battle for justice, and who knows how many other young lives have already been saved by you highlighting the Trust's errors. 

 

 

Edited December 3, 2018 by Lex Luthor

[striker15 10]

thank you for your kind words and advice

 

i can deal with the truth ,it the lies that i cant handle

 

i live in my own little bubble which is my house 

 

i very rarely go out ,sit in front of  my laptop all day every day waiting for emails or the phone to ring with new information from my barrister etc 

 

its totally destroyed us as a family 

 

my eldest lad has ptsd and has been having therapy for 3 years 

 

my middle lad has severe depression

 

both quit uni due to ill health , they both had really bright futures ahead of them 

 

my wife is just a complete wreck ,she hasnt been out of the door for 4 years ish

 

but the last thing we want is sympathy , we just want the truth as to what actually caused callums death 

 

this could happen to anyone at anytime 

 

 

 

 

 

[Lex Luthor 10]

I'm no expert but it sounds like you are all suffering from PTSD and after such an ordeal, it's not surprising. 

 

I totally get your statement about the lies.  We faced brutal lies from members of the trust, during a face to face meeting with a consultant and also during the inquest. I felt anger, and frustration but that now has largely dissipated, due actually to my experiences since and an adage of my nan's, funnily enough.  She always used to say, "God doesn't pay back in money", and more than ever, I know this is true now.   Now, I actually feel sorry for the 'professionals' who felt forced to lie to us.  Facing us all in our distraught state, and lying to our faces must have such a negative effect on their souls and surely must be on their consciences at one time or another, as, after all, they are only human, like us.  In fact, whilst one of the consultants told us the worst of the lies, his colleague, a registrar, was sat next to him in floods of tears, as we were.  Callum and your family will receive justice, you might not get it through legal channels but the universe seems to throw up truths eventually.  I realise that may not be comforting in the here and now. 

 

After such trauma, it's seems not uncommon for relationships to suffer, sometimes resulting in marital or family break up, so try and save at least some energy to nurture the love and bonds you all have.  Really, think about taking a break away together, if you can.  It doesn't have to be anything exotic or extravagant.  Try and look at it as honouring Callum by nourishing the family he obviously loved, as you still love him.  Also, you can't serve Callum as well if you are in too much of a state, than as when you are more refreshed and rested.  We too, had to keep reminding ourselves that our family was everything to our nan, so we knew she wouldn't want us to be so upset, and that acknowledgement was probably the start of us trying to piece ourselves back together. 

 

 

Edited December 3, 2018 by Lex Luthor