Single and never married by 40 is it better to say you been to prison?

[alchresearch 214]

When you think about it

 

1) Man 40, worked in various IT Departments since leaving school and thats it

 

or

 

2) Man 40, been to prison many times, fathered many kids as a teen, however has now turned his life around and is remoresfull

 

Who is the most impressive at a Speed Dating Event?

 

Would either go to a speed dating event though? Person 1 would most likely use match.com.

[CottonTop 11]

No need to lie about things. Just be honest about why you're still single at 40. As others have said, if something like that bothers someone, then they aren't worth your time and effort anyway.

[Gazza58 10]

A lot of people just have dull boring ( to other people) lives.

 

These days at 30 seemingly you have to have travelled, have a cool job, have a couple of interesting hobbies, like cool music and be into interesting foods.

 

Wind back 30 years and it would be enough to have a job in a factory, be into ELO, sunday dinners, sunday league football and tinkering with old cars at the weekend. No girls are going to like that now.

 

Dam,thats where im going wrong then.

[Robbie Loving 10]

If you're willing to lie about going to prison, why not just lie about being married instead?

[geared 306]

If you're willing to lie about going to prison, why not just lie about being married instead?

 

He's trying to pick up a bird???

[bazza80 10]

He's trying to pick up a bird???

 

 

 

But if your married then the sort of woman who wants some hanky panky (with no ties) is going to be attracted to this type of man.

 

Going to prison is also a good selling point

[geared 306]

You might have been watching too much pornography, I don't think every woman is going to swoon in front of a married ex-con.

 

They'd probably just think he's a dirt-bag and move on.

[999tigger 10]

But if your married then the sort of woman who wants some hanky panky (with no ties) is going to be attracted to this type of man.

 

Going to prison is also a good selling point

 

Oh get off this is as silly as the tram being for the middle class thread. If you have to lie then you have some self esteem problems. Going to prison doesnt make you cool or more interesting. Its a bit of a hard sell if its as a sex offender or domestic violence.

 

Staying single might well be a persons choice. Better single and happy than miserable and in a couple.

[mikomi 10]

This doesn't really apply to women, but certainly to men

 

I guess for a man if you've never married, had kids or been in a relationship by the time you got to 40 then this is a great stigma, especially at social gatherings.

 

Do you think if a man is 40, never married etc...... that its better that he says he has been to prison and spent a number of years inside?

 

I guess a reformed man has a bit of status, bad man turned good etc..... what do you think, should a man admit to never being in a relationship, or should he cover his tracks by saying he spent 15 years inside for getting into a fight.

 

For good measure he could always say hes got a few (grown up) kids thats hes never seen, ones he fathered in his teens and then ran out of the women.

 

The bad man imagine does attract some women

 

Why?, would anyone want to say that .

[El Cid 216]

When you think about it

 

1) Man 40, worked in various IT Departments since leaving school and thats it

 

 

I am 52 and been married with child, but it was very unsuccesfull, I have a friend in his forties who did the same, without any child.

Its not common; people should learn to be comfortable with themself; I hope I have.

But I dont think that my 40 something friend has.

 

I do understand the bad man thing; but you cannot become something that you are not.

[Mecky 10]

Like anything else, if you wonder at how people see you, look at the way you treat them