Garbo   10 #181 Posted June 15, 2012 the only reason thats in the news is because she is old, if it was a 20 year old lad, it wouldnt have been in the news Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Garbo   10 #182 Posted June 15, 2012 No, they are just living in the past same as you seem to be. It is not shocking for anyone any more, get on with your life and stop worrying.  im surprised how christianity is evolving so slowly but it does explain the demise of it. most people arent happy with blind faith anymore and being told what is right and wrong, i cant recall the commandment that says discriminate against minority groups. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
southcoast   10 #183 Posted June 15, 2012 Always thought the word gay meant happy,just goes to show what I know. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Bloomdido   10 #184 Posted June 15, 2012 No, they are just living in the past same as you seem to be. It is not shocking for anyone any more, get on with your life and stop worrying.  I was going to compose a reply but I have decided you aren't worth the effort. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
danmas86   10 #185 Posted August 1, 2012 (edited) No,  It's not OK and its not good.  Because Gays are a minority that it is still mostly acceptable, and in many circles cool to make fun of, Gay became a universal insult in the 90's, especially among schoolkids.  'That's so Gay' took off afterwards  But it is insulting, because it is build on insult and grown from it, and when kids (and by kids I mean Teenagers) say 'that's so gay' it they KNOW it isn't OK, how do I know? Because they have apologized to me for doing it, straight after saying it.  Kids still use the gay as an insult, and teenagers use Gay as an insult.  When I was at school Gay and every synonym (queer , homo, bum boy, batty, etc... etc...) were all insults, and they still are.  Although the little girl in the OP didn't know what it meant, her parents should have chastised her for making fun of other kids for what music they like, and told her that when gay you say to mean rubbish it is a bad word that can hurt peoples feelings, and she shouldn't do it, and then punish her if she does it again. There was no need for any birds and the bees explanation of what gay means, (although I had an idea of what gay meant, mostly from TV and school, and it wasn't far off, and I was pretty naive compared to my peers.)   Those of you think who that it doesn't have negative connotations only prove your own ignorance. Edited August 1, 2012 by danmas86 Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
danmas86 Â Â 10 #186 Posted August 1, 2012 No, Â when kids (and by kids I mean Teenagers) say 'that's so gay' it they KNOW it isn't OK, how do I know? Because they have apologized to me for doing it, straight after saying it. Â BTW Â It happens to me regularly, and its kids and adults who do it. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
danmas86   10 #187 Posted August 1, 2012 No,    when kids (and by kids I mean Teenagers) say 'that's so gay' it they KNOW it isn't OK, how do I know? Because they have apologized to me for doing it, straight after saying it.   BTW  This happens to me regularly  from Kids and Adults Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
danmas86   10 #188 Posted August 1, 2012 The problem is almost certainly that she didn't mean it to be ofensive to someone "of that persuasion." The problem is that people use it to mean "rubbish" and as a generic insult. The only reason people do that is because they consider that accusing someone of homosexuality, is in fact insulting them.  It's that attitude which is offensive and needs to be exterminated. Accusing someone, or something, of "being gay" makes as much sense as accusing them of being tall. It isn't an insult; what causes offence is that so many people think it is, and use it as one.  We agree  Why not replace 'gay' with something that is really rubbish...  that everyone hates...  Thats sooo ??? (write your suggestion on a postcard and send it to Wanda Sykes) Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
boyfriday   21 #189 Posted August 1, 2012 Oh & don't go into some sort of homophobic rant, for the record my eldest grandsons godfather is gay, and he gets married next year & is welcome in my home any time, day or night. Oh & when he comes we do embrace as he's a nice lad. Sounding a bit gay that innit Bpb Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Glennis   15 #190 Posted August 1, 2012 When I was at school the word gay, just meant happy. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
Teddybare   10 #191 Posted August 1, 2012 Sounding a bit gay that innit Bpb  This thread is going on and on and getting gayer by the day.... Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...
SpiderPete   10 #192 Posted August 1, 2012 Well I skipped the last page and a bit, as it was a bit "gay".  No seriously I was falling asleep ..... zzzzzzzz   Taken from wikipedia, the font of all knowledge:  "The most common terms for homosexual people are lesbian for females and gay for males, though gay is also used to refer generally to both homosexual males and females"  Homosexual is not a word I would describe myself, gay is.  A lesbian do not class themselves as "homosexual" when i speak to them, and i am sure bi-sexual men dont class themselves as homosexual either.  I am sticking to gay  Going back to the original post, if someone called me "fag" or "homo" I would be offended and would hit them with my handbag. Share this post Link to post Share on other sites Share this content via...