Serious help moving out, like.. desperately. Please help me!

[Daeneryx]

Hi there,

 

So er.. I'm 18 now and I was thrown out of my sixth form in August this year, so since then I've been looking for full-time permanent work to get me on my feet again. It's early December now, still no job and still struggling to find one. I'm also very desperate to move out of my parents house as soon as possible as I'm having too much difficulty living with them, but that's another story. Basically I'm just asking for any help anyone knows I can get. Are there any agencies I can go through to get help moving out? Or anything I can do to improve my chances of getting a job (aside from voluntary work as I already have some and I don't have enough patience to work for free at the moment)? Or any jobs that are available? Please help me, please. Any suggestion will do. I'm so desperate and I'm really trying my hardest. Nothing seems to be working for me..

 

Thank you in advance for answering my question, it's most deeply appeciated.

[Longcol]

Roundabout might be able to help or point you in the right direction.

 

http://roundabouthomeless.org/

[cgksheff]

Look for jobs in bars or restaurants.

Then, once you have a little experience, you can apply for jobs in pubs/hotels that have live-in accommodation.

 

... or holiday camps.

... or adventure places like PGL.

[Dizzyblonde]

I know it may seem hard living with your parents .. everybody does in their teenage years but speaking from the experience of once feeling exactly like you and having seen my kids through the teenage years (which was harder seeming them that living it myself) it is worth "manning up" for the fraction of the time you have left to spend with them. Its going to be really difficult to get anything that pays enough to cover the expense of living from home and the misery this can cause can be worse than anything that parents can inflict. The freedom of living away from home is often not a reality when you dont have the money to enjoy the freedome. You will have plenty of good times in the future whatever your path but do not cut off your nose to spite your face. The connections service at the college can probably put you in touch with people that can help you. They are there to help, they may not seem helpful but if nothing else you will make their day by asking.

[growup]

You don't say why you were chucked out of sixth form, if you can tell us it might help us to help you. I could make a lot of suggestions for education and work but the reason you were chucked out may make these unviable. I agree with dizzyblonde about staying at home. My mum and I argued like mad when I lived at home and I moved out when I was seventeen but as I struggled to pay my rent and bills it made life really hard and I was depressed because I couldn't do the things most teenagers/young people do. You need to remember your parents are usually trying to do what is best for you, even if it doesn't seem like it at the time.

[metalman]

Probably not what you want to hear, but if you're not getting on with your parents and you didn't get on with school, it sounds like you have some sort of attitude problem (probably along the lines of you don't like other people telling you what to do) that will make you unlikely to get on with the world of work either.

[MistyS6]

A lot of work places use Agency staff, it might be worth registering with some of them, I know of Office Angels, there are more in Sheffield though

[Strix]

Probably not what you want to hear, but if you're not getting on with your parents and you didn't get on with school, it sounds like you have some sort of attitude problem (probably along the lines of you don't like other people telling you what to do) that will make you unlikely to get on with the world of work either.

That's an unfair comment really. If parents are abusive/substance abusers/any number of other things, then the stress is enough to make concentrating on A levels impossible

 

to the op - if there's a friend's sofa you can sleep on for a few weeks, there are other options available. None of them are going to be a walk in the park, so make damned sure you've got GOOD reason to be packing your bags

 

Good luck, from somebody who had good reason to pack their bags at 18 and leave home without saying goodbye

[alternageek]

The Leadmill posted recently they are looking for Staff over Christmas.

Might want to give them a ring to see if theres anything there for you. Even if its temporary, they may call you back when the students go back in the Spring or position opens up.

[Badlittlepup]

There are lots of sixth forms in Sheffield. Employment prospects for youths are crap at the moment and even if you manage to find a job it won't be a job with good enough wages to provide you with decent accomodation and a decent standard of living. You'll be in a grotty bedsit in a crappy area miserable doing a dead end job you will probably hate.

 

You don't know how lucky you are. Try and enrol on a college course, do any have January start dates for courses? Otherwise see if you can get some temp work between now and September and give your mum and dad some housekeeping. Keep your room and your nose clean and stay out of your mum and dad's way, unless they're actually being physically violent or abusive stay put.

 

If you move out you're on your own and will have to keep earning to keep yourself and you won't have educational opportunities again, in five years time you'll be kicking yourself.