Stressing because of midwife and appointments

[XgirlieX]

hi, recently found out of my pregnancy and a bit worried, as i miscarried before around the same weeks as im at at the minute, ive explained this to my doctors and they told me to phone the midwife myself to arrange an appointment nd not to worry about it, i did after 2 days of unanswered phone calls and the phone being switched off (i understand shes busy), and then when i finally got through,i spoke with the most inconsiderate woman i have ever spoken to, she told me that she was busy so only had a couple of minutes and that she could fit me in on the 22nd of December, i got as far as sayin, i need to book with you then she booked the 22nd and as i said id miscarried before she sed if it happens theres nowt she can do, (which i understand) but if all goes well this will be my first child and im a bit worried as i was in hospital for nearly a week when i miscarried.

 

anyways with that bit of background nd my rant; my question is can i ask for another midwife and because im stressing out is there any chance of maybe being seen sooner if i went to the hospital?? cheers guys

[kirstyp86]

I dont think the hospital would see you unless you are bleeding etc. Try not to worry - stress isn't any good for either you or baby. Could you ring your doctors and ask if there is another midwife you could see?

[BettyBooHoo!]

Hey hey hey, first of all, big congrats!

Secondly, do not get stressed out. Baby needs you to be calm and happy. I'd give the docs a call and ask if they have another midwife you could speak with as the one you spoke with didn't seem to have time or want to deal with your concerns. I know she's probably very busy but that doesn't excuse her rude and dismissive attitude towards you. It's part of her job to make sure that you're healthynd happy throughout your pregnancy.

Good luck with everything, stay calm

[XgirlieX]

cheers guys, my doctors only deal with that 1 midwife as i asked when they offered me an appointment for after Christmas, which is why i was considering ringing up the hospital to see what they could do, its easier said than done with trying to stay calm, i am trying but its not working, checking every half an hour and worried about everything last time, i was seen within a week of finding out i was pregnant

[CLE-CKY]

hi, when i found out i was expecting, i was around the same weeks as i was when i miscarried twins...there is no words to describe the feeling of that situation. HOWEVER... i got an early scan, around 8 wks, as my midwife understood the stress and worry i had, but also as i only realised i was miscarrying when i went to hospital for 6 weeks worth of blood tests to establish whtehr or not i was!!! WORST TIME EVER!! If you ring up jessops, they may find you a community midwife to see, but ensure to make a complaint about the other 1. she obviously isnt in the job for the social side it is hard when people say not to stress, especially as some people dont even hade signs of pregnancy in this stage so you cant say how your feeling. just try to forward to your scan, or ask your doctor to do a blood test if your cant settle. mine did and it put my mind a little at ease although nothing will really put you at rest unitl youve had your 12 week scan and can see it. i now have a beautiful baby girl, 15 weeks, and shes worth all the worry and dont even think about it now hang on in there x

[gina2007]

You have the right to care where you want it basically. But the powers that be don't always like that. I'm joint care, consultant led between jessops and Barnsley district.. My community care will not exist, I will have a local health visitor but no local midwife as she is based at burngreave children's centre/ pits moor and that's where I see her. My gp care is done at a surgery in worsborough. So after that... There's no reason why you should have to stay with that midwife. If your surgery has a sister one.. They will have their own allocated midwife which you are ok to go to. If you got treated at g1 at hallamshire give them a call about your concerns. And most of all, good luck and congratulations xxx

[Alker]

Hi there, know how you are feeling been through exactly the same thing. Its a very worrying time for you. Just ask for an early scan as CLE-CKY says. I had one at Jessops at around 9 weeks (I lost my first at 8 weeks) and got the photos after just as you would at your 12 week scan. It did put my mind at rest a little but it wasn't really until my 20 week scan that I started to believe everything would be ok. I'm now due in a few weeks time. Ask for another midwife straight away. Good luck and congratulations x

[minxymoo1]

There are lots of drop ins around Sheffield where you don't have to book to see a midwife, it's just first come first serve. Where abouts in Sheffield are you?xx

[XgirlieX]

Im near hillsborough x

[juliagladman]

you could try ringing g ward at hallamshire they look after ladies that have previously had miscarriges and can offer a reassuance scan not sure on the phone number i have to go every fortnight till my first jessops scan as i have antiphospilipids syndrome which caused me to have three miscarriges but they have been great i now have beautiful lil girls try not to stress as baby needs u to be calm good look and let us know how u get on