Living With An Alcoholic Dad

[indicator 10]

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[skinz 10]

Can't you go with your mother?

 

How old are you etc...?

[dabuckle 10]

sometimes some people never change, your father may actually be comfortable with his life assuming that he is also selfish.

There's many things you can do to help but he needs to want to change for anything to work.

Talk to him, give him a reason to at least cut down on the binge drinking, offer to contact some professional help.

 

Just remember what ever happens its not your fault and you can move on.

[indicator 10]

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[indicator 10]

sometimes some people never change, your father may actually be comfortable with his life assuming that he is also selfish.

There's many things you can do to help but he needs to want to change for anything to work.

Talk to him, give him a reason to at least cut down on the binge drinking, offer to contact some professional help.

 

Just remember what ever happens its not your fault and you can move on.

 

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[indicator 10]

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[janie48 97]

http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/support/addictions_usefulcontacts_index.shtml

 

i am sorry to hear about your situation.

i think that even if your dad won't accept help you need to talk to someone professional ,and families who are experiencing same difficulties.

you may find a useful contact number on this website.

all the best.

[indicator 10]

Thanks all, for the replies

[0742Sheff 10]

I think you need to get out of there. You are 33 years old and working. Is there any legitimate reason you couldn't find your own place?

 

If you stay in that environment, you may be sucked into it and spend the rest of your life just like your dad.

[Leah-Lacie 10]

You said you keep bidding, and say the flats are age banded, I assume you're only looking at council properties? Why not try private rented? x

[wornout53 10]

For the sake of your own future contact Al-anon which is for people who are being affected by someone elses alcoholism. They are used to your situation and will help and advise you in ways we on the forum can't. Good luck

http://www.al-anonuk.org.uk/about

[Ms Macbeth 73]

You said you keep bidding, and say the flats are age banded, I assume you're only looking at council properties? Why not try private rented? x

 

Why don't you and your mum get a place to share on a temporary basis? Your mum needs to get professional advice about her rights to your family home. It may need to be sold if their separation is permanent. Or, if you don't want to do that, perhaps your mum could get an age banded council flat which would be cheaper than a private let. There are always flats and bedsits available for older people via First Come First Served. http://www.sheffieldhomes.org.uk/myHome/MovingHome/FindANewHome/WhatIsFirstComeFirstServed.aspx

 

Sadly there isn't a simple answer when it comes to your dad's life choices. Good advice above from wornout53.

 

Housing Solutions at the Council may be able to advise your mum about her housing rights: http://www.sheffield.gov.uk/in-your-area/housing-services/homelessandhousingoptions