dudeyblue Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 Hi everyone this is the hardest thing I have ever wrote so please no judgemental comments. I have had my dog nearly 3 years I say he is a recue dog but I took him in my home as a result of a selfish and stupid family member that allowed my dog to be subjected to abuse and evil idiots. well my dog before he came into my home were subjected to attacked by fireworks and fire left days on end and also dogs set upon him along with other things. As I result from all this as you can imagine he is so tormented I have tryed everything the crate training worked well after a while so my dog is now able to be left on his own for several hours but there are so may other issues that cannot be resolved even after all this time with this me and my partner both work and I have 2 young children 9 and 5. I just don't know what I can do I know he cannot be rehomed he is a staffy cross with many issues and I know what lies ahead for him if I don't have him but the problem is that I feel like I have nothing left to give the dog, I would have never had a dog in the situation I am in but I had to get the dog away from the horrible situation he was in and he is so loved here and so good with my kids but his issues are just too much. sorry for the long post but I just don't know what else to do.
Evei Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 I just don't know what I can do I know he cannot be rehomed he is a staffy cross with many issues and I know what lies ahead for him if I don't have him but the problem is that I feel like I have nothing left to give the dog, I would have never had a dog in the situation I am in but I had to get the dog away from the horrible situation he was in and he is so loved here and so good with my kids but his issues are just too much. sorry for the long post but I just don't know what else to do. Welcome to the pets forum If you can list the specific areas. behaviours he is having trouble in some trainers who frequent on here might be able to give you some free advice to try. Some dogs will never recover fully however there might be some easy things that you have not yet tried which will make both your lives easier
mrseggy Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 It sounds like so far you have worked wonders with him. However you asked for help dealing with his issues, but you haven't actually said what these issues are? why not make a list and post them here, there are lots of people here that can help and advice you .
dudeyblue Posted October 30, 2011 Author Posted October 30, 2011 Hi thanks for your replys its a long list of issues Firework sounds = its like he has shortness of breath he is on calm uns for this and we do not give him any attention when crying other than crate with a blanket over him. post man arriving he goes mental as he has been tormented that much. food is still an issue after all this time as he was starved for the days when he were locked up on his own. He cannot go out other then our back garden as any dogs in sight he cry and screams I do not think this is in a aggressive way but in a petrified manner. There are so may more I really have given my all like I said in the family home when someone can be with him most of the time and no one visits he is the perfect dog but is like he just cannot cope in the real world. Also he has been tormented with lazer pens and shiny thing so any sun light in the house he cannot cope with. I hate to see the torment and sadness in his eyes but on other days I just love to his tail wagging and my kids playing with him
animal2477 Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 get him socialising with other dogs to build his confidence,the more he's around them the more he'll come round to the idea that all dogs aren't agressive
maryjane Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 really feel for you, you so love him I can tell from your words, and you need to make a decision. he cant be moved from you, he couldnt and wouldnt cope. the poor dog, why are people so flipping cruel. really hope you get some help on here. x
Rainrescue Posted October 30, 2011 Posted October 30, 2011 I think you need help in understanding what your dogs' problems are - and what he is telling you. My belief is that dogs do not carry 'memories' with them - but they do carry 'association'. He can probably 'associate' certain things with certain actions - and thats what he is reacting to. However, it usually needs someone who knows how to properly work with dogs - to work these through with you. We have taken dogs in here that are totally emaciated - and yet are never ever food aggressive. Others are food aggressive and they are obese. Some dogs have been battered and they cower - others have been battered and they attack back. Take each individual issue that he is showing you - and listen to his explanation and what he s actually saying. Ensure you do not 'encourage' that behaviour - but learn distraction and reward techniques. It isn't easy - by any means - I'm not saying it is. However, as you have helped him this far and obviously love him so much and know the options of it not working - I think you will hopefully help him through it. Find a good behaviourist who can help you - have a word with Lottie on here - see if its something that she can, she's good - but this boys problems may be very deep and only she can say if she can help or not. Good luck and keep us posted how you get on.
ShirleyJay Posted October 31, 2011 Posted October 31, 2011 With the fireworks problem do what you are doing ie cover his crate, but also leave the light on so he cannot see flashes and put on some loud but calming music so he cannot hear them. try feeding him by hand for a while, even if you have to wear thick gloves till he accepts that the food belongs to you, give him treats then take them away, and give them back, he needs to learn that you will not remove them and keep them but you can remove them, vital if he gets hold of something that is not good for him, socialise him with other dogs, muzzel him at first so he cannot harm them, find an enclosed space where he cannot run off so far and train him with recall using treats every time he comes back so he can be let off the lead in the future, go somewhere like a wood or space that is not a park for his first time off the lead but keep him muzzeled until he is truly relaxed with other dogs.
Lotti Posted November 3, 2011 Posted November 3, 2011 Thanks for the recommendation... To the OP, drop me an email to training@pawsitivelypets.co.uk and we'll see what we can do. I'm on my phone at the moment so haven't read the whole thread but would be happy to have a chat with you
Strix Posted November 4, 2011 Posted November 4, 2011 It's easy for us all to sit here giving training advice, but there aren't many people who have had a dog with seemingly impossible issues, or had to juggle dog issues with the time and energy a family needs too If you WANT to spend alot of time working through his issues, there are people here who will be very supportive (and some who will post generic dog training techniques which just aren't appropriate for dogs with severe problems ) If you really don't want to put your dog through the trauma of fireworks, carol singers, Christmas crackers, noisy toys from Santa, Christmas cards arriving via the postman, and everything else that life is going to throw at him over the next couple of months, then do the kindest thing, and hold him close whilst the vet takes away the terror of everyday life for him, and finally gives him peace I don't care what anybody else has to say about my post - unless they've walked a mile in your shoes, or are prepared to come round and train your dog themselves, they should support you in ANY decision you make. 3 years is one heck of a long time to give to trying to sort out a dog. You've done really well, and given him some lovely experiences - only you can decide if that's enough
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