Other immigrants not hated??

[spooky3 10]

Hi Cressida,

Thank you for the very kind words. To be honest, thinks have been a strugge since 9/11, that i am thinking of moving to Canada once i finish university. The worst thing that affects me the most is trying to get a date. For a guy that is in his mid-thirties and still not able to get a date shows that something is definately wrong. I live in Birmingham, where you see many white women in a relationship with a Muslim or Hindu guy, but i have never seen one with a Sikh guy. If Sikh men suppoesed to be more integrated than Muslim men in England, then i would have also expected them to be more successful at interracial relationships. BUT this is not the case, and can bet you that a Muslim man will be very successful in starting up a relationship with an English woman, wheres the Sikh man will not. If English women TRULY viewed a Sikh mans physical appearrance as 'distinguished', then i wouldnt get treated so badly by women. Unfortunatel i get treated badly by English women, and it isnt because of my race because i see the same women having a great time with Muslim and Hindu men, so it has to be the fact that i am a Sikh as the reason why i am getting treated this way?

 

Do you know any other Sikhs in interracial / inter-religion relationships?

[Suffragette1 10]

Hi Cressida,

Thank you for the very kind words. To be honest, thinks have been a strugge since 9/11, that i am thinking of moving to Canada once i finish university. The worst thing that affects me the most is trying to get a date. For a guy that is in his mid-thirties and still not able to get a date shows that something is definately wrong. I live in Birmingham, where you see many white women in a relationship with a Muslim or Hindu guy, but i have never seen one with a Sikh guy. If Sikh men suppoesed to be more integrated than Muslim men in England, then i would have also expected them to be more successful at interracial relationships. BUT this is not the case, and can bet you that a Muslim man will be very successful in starting up a relationship with an English woman, wheres the Sikh man will not. If English women TRULY viewed a Sikh mans physical appearrance as 'distinguished', then i wouldnt get treated so badly by women. Unfortunatel i get treated badly by English women, and it isnt because of my race because i see the same women having a great time with Muslim and Hindu men, so it has to be the fact that i am a Sikh as the reason why i am getting treated this way?

That really surprises me. I had a relationship with a Sikh guy once (well a 'flingette' ) - so it does happen. I also had a relationship with a Hindu chap, although that is of no relevance.

[rm242002 10]

That really surprises me. I had a relationship with a Sikh guy once (well a 'flingette' ) - so it does happen. I also had a relationship with a Hindu chap, although that is of no relevance.

 

Hi Suffragette,

I hope you mind me asking these questions as i am baffled. What was it that made you look past his turban and beard to be so accepting of him? I am asking this because i feel that being a Sikh has been the stumbling block, and i feel that this is presenting me with such a massive hurdle with women.

I have also visited Meadowhall shopping centre and Sheffield city centre, including many other parts of England like Manchester where a Muslim and Hindu man is with an English woman but this is not the case with a man with the turban. If your statement is true then you are the only person that i have communicated with that has been with a Sikh man. I hope you dont mind me asking, but how did you get to meet him and what drew you to him when getting to know him?

[Suffragette1 10]

Hi Suffragette,

I hope you mind me asking these questions as i am baffled. What was it that made you look past his turban and beard to be so accepting of him? I am asking this because i feel that being a Sikh has been the stumbling block, and i feel that this is presenting me with such a massive hurdle with women.

I have also visited Meadowhall shopping centre and Sheffield city centre, including many other parts of England like Manchester where a Muslim and Hindu man is with an English woman but this is not the case with a man with the turban. If your statement is true then you are the only person that i have communicated with that has been with a Sikh man. I hope you dont mind me asking, but how did you get to meet him and what drew you to him when getting to know him?

 

I met him at university, he pursued me for ages and we had a laugh which is why I liked him. I normally find beards a real turn off, however, it's personality that counts at the end of the day. My statement is totally true!

[Kaimani 10]

Hi Cressida,

Thank you for the very kind words. To be honest, thinks have been a strugge since 9/11, that i am thinking of moving to Canada once i finish university. The worst thing that affects me the most is trying to get a date. For a guy that is in his mid-thirties and still not able to get a date shows that something is definately wrong. I live in Birmingham, where you see many white women in a relationship with a Muslim or Hindu guy, but i have never seen one with a Sikh guy. If Sikh men suppoesed to be more integrated than Muslim men in England, then i would have also expected them to be more successful at interracial relationships. BUT this is not the case, and can bet you that a Muslim man will be very successful in starting up a relationship with an English woman, wheres the Sikh man will not. If English women TRULY viewed a Sikh mans physical appearrance as 'distinguished', then i wouldnt get treated so badly by women. Unfortunatel i get treated badly by English women, and it isnt because of my race because i see the same women having a great time with Muslim and Hindu men, so it has to be the fact that i am a Sikh as the reason why i am getting treated this way?

 

you do make some 'good' points in your own way. but, to be honest with you, i know more practicing Sikh guys in mixed relationships than Muslim guys. can't comment too much on the beef between Sikhs and Muslims and/or Hindus. all i know is what i read and we all know how that goes.

 

as for the women, what's your infatuation with white women? maybe they see that you choosing mainly for their color that's why they run. I'd run too. and i have run( the tables were turned, of course.) your deductive method as to why you're not getting any is flawed. it's not coz you're Sikh. more likely it's just because you're you or you're doing something wrong.

Edited February 16, 2011 by Kaimani
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[mystery man 10]

a chinky just doesnt taste the same when its served up by a geordie waiter but why complain ,if you go out for ethnic food then someone of the same ethnicity as the dish your ordering adds to the evening i always think,and can you explain what you mean by certain regions /religions ? surely a christian cook can turn out as good a meal as any one else from their country who may follow a different religion or come from a different region of the same country ? or is it more ****** to get the racists going ?

 

im sick of them racists using such words as "chinky's"

[Frank Sidney 11]

I dunno why he wants a white bird, them theer Indian ladies are the best in the world!!

[Badlittlepup 10]

I agree, Every Sikh I have met has been pleasant. I don't think I've met one who is a perpetual benefit scrounger. They seem to be dignified and hard working.

 

The same cannot be said of all immigrant people.

 

On a previous discussion on this thread, we have the problem of many many English people on the dole. Generations of them. Because benefits are so generous it is not worth their while working, so we have to import people to fill the jobs that need to be filled. This is sheer idiocy.

 

we seem to let in quite a lot of people who have no intention of working either, just come to treasure island to live of the host nation. That's where much of yours and mine taxes go to.

 

I worked in a company once where about 60% of the staff were Sikh and that company was one of the nicest groups of people I've ever worked with.

 

Socialising was almost entirely mixed and although most of them weren't big drinkers on works nights out or dos they would come along for a few bitter shandies.

 

 

It was an engineering company and as I worked in a department with the more senior engineers there were a lot of older sikh men who had come over very early on in the cycle of immigration from India. I used to talk to them a lot and theyhad some horrible things happen to them when they first came over but they also had stories of great kindness and acceptance and they had all taken all the opportunities they could, got their kids educated, learnt perfect English (including engineering English) to a higher standard than some Brits and made friends with people of different backgrounds.

 

Plus their daugthers were as highly educated as their sons (often more so) and had professional careers and weren't expected to stay home.

 

I don't want to go back to the days of people losing houses and jobs because of their race but I do wonder if the same people had come over here these days if they would have been so successful and if their children would have been so successful. It's so easy not not to mix, not to feel you have to strive and work hard and fit it, you're told if you're an immigrant and it doesn't go right for you it's not your fault, you're discriminated against and should be given help because it's everyone elses fault. Not learning the language is facilitated and areas are ghettoised so there is no need to mix with people who are not of your background for things as basic as going to the shops and buying a paper in some areas.

 

I do think in some ways the things that are supposed to help immigrants now actually do them a diservice and leave them unable to take advantage of the opportunites they could have over here.

[Badlittlepup 10]

Hi Suffragette,

I hope you mind me asking these questions as i am baffled. What was it that made you look past his turban and beard to be so accepting of him? I am asking this because i feel that being a Sikh has been the stumbling block, and i feel that this is presenting me with such a massive hurdle with women.

I have also visited Meadowhall shopping centre and Sheffield city centre, including many other parts of England like Manchester where a Muslim and Hindu man is with an English woman but this is not the case with a man with the turban. If your statement is true then you are the only person that i have communicated with that has been with a Sikh man. I hope you dont mind me asking, but how did you get to meet him and what drew you to him when getting to know him?

 

I'm trying to think of a polite way to say this and failing. So to be honest, I don't think the reason why you haven't been able to start up a relationship with a British woman is because you are a Sikh, I think it is because you are what I would call 'Just off the boat'.

 

From your posts it seems like you don't really know the way that interactions happen between men and women in this country properly. You seem to be trying to hard and you're too over eager and you just want to meet any woman rather than meeting a woman and getting to know her, finding out if she's nice and you get along. You just need to chill out to be honest.

[rm242002 10]

I'm trying to think of a polite way to say this and failing. So to be honest, I don't think the reason why you haven't been able to start up a relationship with a British woman is because you are a Sikh, I think it is because you are what I would call 'Just off the boat'.

 

From your posts it seems like you don't really know the way that interactions happen between men and women in this country properly. You seem to be trying to hard and you're too over eager and you just want to meet any woman rather than meeting a woman and getting to know her, finding out if she's nice and you get along. You just need to chill out to be honest.

 

I was born and bred in Birmingham. I have never even travelled abroad. The furthest i have travelled from Birmingham is to London. But then again i have travelled to Wales for my weekend training camps when i was in the territorial army.

[Kaimani 10]

I was born and bred in Birmingham. I have never even travelled abroad. The furthest i have travelled from Birmingham is to London. But then again i have travelled to Wales for my weekend training camps when i was in the territorial army.

 

sorry if this seems hostile. but, like near enough everyone's said, it's you with the problem, not the 'berad or turban'. i'm 'follow' the bobo shati house of rasta, and always have both, like so-

http://uk.images.search.yahoo.com/images/view?back=http%3A%2F%2Fuk.images.search.yahoo.com%2Fsearch%2Fimages%3Fp%3Dbobo%2Bshanti%26ei%3DUTF-8%26fr%3Dyfp-t-702&w=500&h=375&imgurl=farm3.static.flickr.com%2F2003%2F2390475831_164f528a1b.jpg&rurl=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.flickr.com%2Fphotos%2F24885280%40N08%2F2390475831%2F&size=73k&name=2390475831+164f5...&p=bobo+shanti&oid=888ea618f898a386&fr2=&fusr=BOBO+LION&no=18&tt=260&sigr=11lipee7d&sigi=11mc8v6gd&sigb=12jsgs29v&.crumb=.g5nhQNebWk

 

and i've never had any problem. and the same for many other people, Sikh etc. look more at yourself. what you're doing now obviously not working so you might need to switch your game.

 

again, why is it only white women you looking to date?

[ronthenekred 10]

sorry if this seems hostile.

 

again, why is it only white women you looking to date?

 

 

 

Because their perceived as easy meat with low moral and family standards.