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Originally posted by FilthFan

thats a gud idea, its always hard doing the asking out and believe me I know, the amount of people iv asked and they've laughed in my face you'd think i wouldnt bother but you henestly cant let the thought of that put you off

 

I applaud you FF ... I'm not sure if you're female or male, but ... good on you. And those people that laughed in your face ... pffffffffftttttt (as Sony might post :D)

 

 

ps Wallbuilder, I don't think the examples you give of "jokey insults" could be classed as insults ... I wouldn't mind at all being called 'big blue eyes' :cool:

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Originally posted by rubydazzler

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btw, Sid, is this the girl from ages ago who came over to dance with you and then came back when she was leaving and kissed you?

 

Originally posted by Sidla

Yes it is. Arggghh, it's so difficult! Why can't I be like normal men? :rolleyes:

 

Right, my two penneth.

 

First of all....

 

You Flacid Willy!!!

 

She obviously likes you or she wouldn't have come BACK to you TWICE when she has seen you out of work!

 

She probably made that attempt to come back a second time because she was waiting for you to ask her out, or at least say something and see if you were interested! Now she probably thinks you arent keen, because you had a perfect chance to interact but didnt!

 

I have been turned down many times by ladies, but as mother always said "If you dont ask, you dont get"....

 

Just ask her out, stop ****-balling about, cus at the end of the day women never have to ask men out because there will always be some guy who will!

 

If you dont do it mate someone else will, and then you'll be kicking yourself about it and turn into a stalker!

 

You've got 4 outcomes to this one dude when you ask her out

 

1, You ask her out, she says yeah... and you end up going out and get on... the rest is up to you!

 

2, You ask her out, she says yeah... and you end up going out and dont get on... You haven't lost anything, you dont regret it and you still have a friend.

 

3, You ask her out, she says no.... at least you tried and you have no regrets of what might have been and you keep her as a friend

 

4, You ask her out, she says no.... you tried and she then shuns you from then-onwards. In this case she wasnt worth asking out in the first place!

 

The choice is yours, just ask her out then you know where you stand...

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Women DO ask men out, we'd never get the guys we want otherwise hehe

 

Men can be VERY slow on the uptake sometimes!!!!!!

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I asked someone out for a drink a few weeks ago and haven't looked back since - hes lovely and we are havin a fab time. I'm so glad I did it.

 

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I think that on the whole it is far less of a disadvantage for a woman to lack dating skills than for a man. This is simply because it is expected (although I have never known why) that the man is supposed to make the first move. Saying that it is also mmuch easier for some men than for others. Those who have good dating skills and the benefit of a peer group in their mid teens are at a considerable advantage.

 

I think many men would welcome it if women were prepared to make the first move.

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Originally posted by slimsid2000

... lack dating skills ...

 

While I'm no expert on the dating scene ... I'd have thought 'dating skills' equate to 'just being genuine'.

 

(and dating guru's please correct me if I'm wrong here).

 

What I mean is that if you just put yourself in the line of fire and are just your genuine self in any situation ... you don't need to do much more than that.

 

Infact if you're too flash ... the girl will prob think you're an idiot (unless she's young and impressionable) ... and any flashness will be counter productive.

 

Sidla:

 

Just talking to her and being natural and relaxed around her sounds like a fine idea to me ... take your time.

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Originally posted by rubydazzler

I applaud you FF ... I'm not sure if you're female or male, but ... good on you. And those people that laughed in your face ... pffffffffftttttt (as Sony might post :D)

 

 

ps Wallbuilder, I don't think the examples you give of "jokey insults" could be classed as insults ... I wouldn't mind at all being called 'big blue eyes' :cool:

 

im female :)

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Sending a girl flowers isn't stalky. I for one would be flattered if I recieved flowers though me being a little butch I might think it was a little corny. No, I think what was meant by this is that the girl had to ask who you were. So sending them annoymously I personally would be terrifyed if someone sent me flowers and I didn't know who it was. That's the stalky aspect I think.

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Originally posted by FilthFan

So sending them annoymously I personally would be terrifyed if someone sent me flowers and I didn't know who it was. That's the stalky aspect I think.

Yeah, that's what I meant.

 

Originally posted by slimsid2000

I think that on the whole it is far less of a disadvantage for a woman to lack dating skills than for a man. This is simply because it is expected (although I have never known why) that the man is supposed to make the first move. Saying that it is also mmuch easier for some men than for others. Those who have good dating skills and the benefit of a peer group in their mid teens are at a considerable advantage.

 

I think many men would welcome it if women were prepared to make the first move.

Thankyou Sid - I was anticipating your input. I do agree with you about the mid-teen peer-group. I was never really part of any sort of peer group when I was young. I'm not saying I didn't have any friends, just that my friends at school lived in a different village, so I didn't get to socialise with them out of school. I think it has affected my confidence as an adult, especially around females. Maybe I should get some counselling or something.

 

Anyway, slight update for you. Saw her in the pub last night. I was standing at the bar and she came to buy a drink. I said hello, how are you, all that sort of stuff. As she stood next to me I could see she was acting slightly nervous around me. Anyway, I couldn't think of anything else to say, so just bottled. :mad:

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