Are dads needed or are they an optional extra?

[Grandad.Malky 11]

Thank goodness for responsible stepdads.

 

Perhaps the thread should be about is a father figure an optional extra. .

[artisan 10]

dads are needed to buy a house a new car and pay for holidays.

 

once the kids are teenagers dads are kicked out as they are no longer needed the wife keeps the house,car moves a younger bloke in and you pay stupid amounts of money every month for the pleasure.

 

oh and you have the kids every weekend so the ex can go out and have a ball.

 

sometimes the truth hurts.

 

Why do you have to have the kids, is that law or something?

Just say you dont want to.

[chimay 10]

can i ask why you had a kid with this guy?

 

You don't know how many times I've asked myself that question. The nearest answer I can give myself is that love is blind...........

[chimay 10]

Perhaps the thread should be about is a father figure an optional extra. .

 

In that case the answer is no. A father figure should be compulsary.

Edited September 11, 2010 by chimay

[stackrock 10]

You don't know how many times I've asked myself that question. The nearest answer I can give myself is that love is blind...........

 

yea same here:roll:

plenty warned me, i think i even knew.

[chimay 10]

You don't know how many times I've asked myself that question. The nearest answer I can give myself is that love is blind...........

 

yea same here:roll:

plenty warned me, i think i even knew.

 

and the contraceptives failed..................

[Swan_Vesta 11]

It’s a sad reflection on todays family life that the question even needs to be asked.

 

I fully agree. A father figure is key in a child's development, the fact that the men who father children don't wish to be part of their child's upbringing is their loss and a disservice to their child.

 

I'll get flamed to Hell for this but I'm of the firm opinion that one person raising a child is second best to a balanced partnership raising them. The kid needs that interaction, guidance, stability & grounding to have a reasonable upbringing.

[stackrock 10]

and the contraceptives failed..................

 

ah, it happens.

 

another interesting point is stepdads, hard to know what to say. raw deal or ace deal?

[stackrock 10]

I fully agree. A father figure is key in a child's development, the fact that the men who father children don't wish to be part of their child's upbringing is their loss and a disservice to their child.

 

I'll get flamed to Hell for this but I'm of the firm opinion that one person raising a child is second best to a balanced partnership raising them. The kid needs that interaction, guidance, stability & grounding to have a reasonable upbringing.

 

so why a system that says otherwise?

[Grandad.Malky 11]

so why a system that says otherwise?

 

What system would that be?

[chimay 10]

ah, it happens.

 

another interesting point is stepdads, hard to know what to say. raw deal or ace deal?

 

My son's step dad is an ace stepdad. He's been a stepdad for 18 years. When my son gratuated in July all three of his parents attended the ceremony. My son chose to have his step dad on his official graduation photographs.

[stackrock 10]

What system would that be?

 

all of them, but the family court system was what i was thinking of at the time.