Once A Cheat, Always A Cheat?

[demoniac 10]

yep once a cheat always a cheat people dont change if they have done it once they will do it again

[Halibut 12]

Yes, once a cheat always a cheat. My ex cheated on me and she has shown over and over again that she cant help but cheat.

 

She will say that she really likes this bf then a few weeks later someone finds out shes cheated

 

No offence but doesn't that just show that one particular human being (your ex) is still cheating -it doesn't show that she always will nor that everyone who has ever cheated will continue to do so indefinitely.

[Moonbird 10]

I think that once a person cheats on you they will probably continue to do so periodically, I don't however think that it means that they will cheat in a different relationship.

[Suffragette1 10]

I think it's possible for people to change. There are plenty of people who did once but don't anymore and won't again. I agree with Medusa on the general principle that the best predictor of future behaviour is past behaviour, but it's onlya general principle and there are plenty of exceptions.

 

I agree with both Halibut & Medusa. However, I am one exception as my track record wasn't great yet have been 100% utterly faithful to my husband and had opportunities but have still remained true & will do till death us do part. That said I wouldn't personally trust someone who had a really poor relationship history.

 

I do, however, believe that everyone should be given a second chance. But it's whether it was an aberration or not that is the issue. Some people just refuse and are unable to remain faithful, my brother-in-law being a case in point yet my sister-in-law is still with him for some unbeknown reason. He is a real opportunist and has made it clear that he'd like to add me to his string of infidelities:gag:. He will never change and has little incentive to as his wife continually forgives him and blames the other woman rather than him.

[TallestDwarf 10]

I agree with both Halibut & Medusa. However, I am one exception as my track record wasn't great yet have been 100% utterly faithful to my husband and had opportunities but have still remained true & will do till death us do part. That said I wouldn't personally trust someone who had a really poor relationship history.

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Well done so far but....Never say never..........

 

I haven't cheated on the missus either. And I wouldn't fancy my chances of pulling even if I wanted to. I was never very much good at that even when I was single. I think it was partly because my attempts to be subtle when meeting attractive women were usually betrayed by my tongue hanging out.

[Suffragette1 10]

Well done so far but....Never say never..........

 

I haven't cheated on the missus either. And I wouldn't fancy my chances of pulling even if I wanted to. I was never very much good at that even when I was single. I think it was partly because my attempts to be subtle when meeting attractive women were usually betrayed by my tongue hanging out.

 

Well I suppose the real test then is whether or not you take the opportunity when it's presented to you. I haven't. And nor do I believe has he. Furthermore, if he had I'd much rather not know about it unless he were in love with someone else. Anyway I ensure he's always too exhausted to go sniffing around anyone else! 11 years together & still strong.

[fox20thc 10]

I'm quick, really quick ......... Just as our lass

 

That's nothing to be proud of ...:hihi:

[Swan_Vesta 11]

That's nothing to be proud of ...:hihi:

 

Is it wrong that I shout "I WIN" as well

[tinkabel 11]

In all honesty i believe people can change if they want to, my fiancé was a serial cheat, cheated on every single one of his girlfriends before me, i only know this because we were best friends before we got togther, had we got together before being such good friends i wouldn't have gone anywhere near him if truth be told because i always believed people couldn't change.

 

However my OH has never and wouldn't cheat on me, i trust him 110% and he knows exactly what would happen if he did cheat on me

[TallestDwarf 10]

Anyway I ensure he's always too exhausted to go sniffing around anyone else! 11 years together & still strong.

 

Here's to many more years of exhaustion. - Sounds like bliss to me.:thumbsup:

[Tess 10]

Nope i think a cheater can change, they grow up, mature, realise its not worth it. I know somebody whos 26 and is now engaged to his fiancee, who is also the first girl hes not cheated on in his life, and they are both blissfully happy.

[Scozzie 10]

I'll admit it, I have cheated of guys before - but what I realised is that it was just disrespectful. They didn't deserve to be treated that way.

Now if Im in a relationship and someone tries to tempt me, I sit back, take stock of the situation and ask myself if its worth it?

 

It never is, so thats why I don't do it now.

Its not nice and its not clever.

 

But cheating is crappy. I've cheated, I have been cheated on and I was also the 'other woman' - unknown to me at the time.