Kids rights...kids rights.

[barto349]

due to a despute which my parents was extremely abusive towards me which is beyond resolving. they have applied through a solicitor for mediation for me as they want contact with there two grandchildren at 4 and twelve years old, i didn't attend to the mediation as i don't want to see them or talk to them any more. now they could now possibly be taking it to court i do understand that the children do have the rights to see them but my twelve year old son has told me and his father that he does'nt want to see them either he as seen a different side to them which he did'nt like and my younger son is to young to understand, i have to stick by my kid 100%. i don't see that they have the rights to put my son through this and take it to court and force a twelve year old child to see them... any comments

[Dozy]

Just because your parents take the matter to court, it doesn't mean that they will win their case.

 

As far as I know, the court will concentrate on what's best for the welfare of your children - not what's best for the grandparents.

 

If it would be best for your children not to see them, then it's tough for the grandparents. whatever they want.

 

But you'd be best to contact your local Citizens Advice Bureau (CAB) and get some proper advice.

[SallyLaLaLa]

I can't see how dragging this through the courts would benefit anybody. Surely if they really cared about their Grandchildren they woud save them from the ordeal of having this visitation case be dealt with by the the courts?

[myriad]

Hopefully your kids will grow up with more literacy than you.

[Strix]

Surely (if you're being pedantic), that should say 'Hopefully your kids will grow up more literate than you'?

 

anyway - back on topic - if your parents are as much of a nightmare as you're not saying, the courts aren't going to give them 'rights' to access - that would be unusual anyway (unless they'd spend a good deal of time acting as guardians previously)

 

you may want to skip the CAB, as the experience we had (knowing we really required a solicitor's advice) was a heck of a lot of sitting about in a waiting room, only to be told we need to book an appointment to see the solicitor (like it's rocket science ). The CAB will organise a free 1/2 hour consultation with a solicitor, but you can phone pretty much any solicitor in the phone book and they'll offer exactly that without the faffing about at CAB

[fyy123]

Hopefully your kids will grow up with more literacy than you.

... and who knows maybe your kids will grow up with more manners than you!

Some people are so rude:roll:

[Heyesey]

I can't see how dragging this through the courts would benefit anybody.

 

 

It won't, but since the OP refused point blank to go to mediation, there's now no other option. Put the blame where it lies.

[waxonwaxoff]

Hopefully your kids will grow up with more literacy than you.

 

How rude. I think you should take a course in good manners before you mock someones literacy.

[waxonwaxoff]

It won't, but since the OP refused point blank to go to mediation, there's now no other option. Put the blame where it lies.

 

But sometimes things are beyond mediation. We dont know what has actually happened for the OP to feel this strongly.

 

Have they even made any efforts to try and apologise for whatever they did to upset you? Maybe you should ask your son to write a letter to them explaining his feelings and why he dosent want to have contact with them?

[danielle1]

good luck, i dont think they have got much chance in court as long as ur kids r safe and looked after at home. becareful your parents dont twist things to make u out as bad parents! at least ur parents want to c ur kids my daughters dad and his family dont want anything to do with her she is 4 years old and asks why? wot am i to tell her?