How do you get back on the dating game?

[fabulous_girl 10]

oh yes, and when i first became single after a near 2 yr relationship my friend lent me the book "the dating game" by davina mccall. It could be helpful, but more than that its pretty damn funny!

[leviathan13 349]

 

Come on now, you've got to make SOME effort!

 

StarSparkle

 

I do try, but I'm really quite shy and not that confident. All I'm saying is that it'd just be nice, once in a while, if the girl approached me and actually said she liked me. I'm not very good at taking hints and, because I'm paranoid and shy, I just think that if a girl is pleasant to me, she just wants to be mates or something.

[StarSparkle 10]

 

I do try, but I'm really quite shy and not that confident. All I'm saying is that it'd just be nice, once in a while, if the girl approached me and actually said she liked me. I'm not very good at taking hints and, because I'm paranoid and shy, I just think that if a girl is pleasant to me, she just wants to be mates or something.

 

I wasn't having a go at you - just trying to chivvy you up a bit, that's all

 

Girls aren't ogres, you know, always after something - we're all just human beings trying to make our way through life. Lose the paranoia a bit, and I think you'd find life easier

 

StarSparkle

[leviathan13 349]

 

I wasn't having a go at you - just trying to chivvy you up a bit, that's all

 

Girls aren't ogres, you know, always after something - we're all just human beings trying to make our way through life. Lose the paranoia a bit, and I think you'd find life easier

 

StarSparkle

 

I know they're not ogres, but when you've been told no for the umpteenth time, it does tend to knock your confidence.

[pleathwood 10]

I started going to the pub more frequently to help build my not so much lacking social skills because i can socialise when i click with people. It was once commented I said more in one night talking to a single person than i had done in a month of being in the pub. But just to able to do that more often than every now and then and with others not just the ones i click with.

[sophiec1979 10]

"the dating game" by davina mccall. It could be helpful, but more than that its pretty damn funny!

 

ive read that too...i cant say its helped much.

 

but youre right, it is a giggle.

 

 

x

[Agent Orange 11]

ive read that too...i cant say its helped much.

 

but youre right, it is a giggle.

 

 

x

 

not surprised it didn't help... the only thing that woman can do is big brother and star in those annoying hair colouring adverts

[fabulous_girl 10]

not surprised it didn't help... the only thing that woman can do is big brother and star in those annoying hair colouring adverts

 

Dont forget the fitness dvds. I like Davina. I know she's not an AMAZING broadcaster but i think shes pretty real and pretty funny. and people say i look a bit like her.

[purdyamos 10]

Dont seek and ye shall find! You do give off certain vibes when your looking for a partner, and as a result, nothing happens!

 

Start doing things for youself, maybe try a new hobby. Once you have filled up all your free time doing stuff that you enjoy, you can guarantee some cheeky sod will come and take it all away from you.....!

 

Up until recently that's exactly what I did, and i spent a very long time being repeatedly told by people that they couldn't understand why I was single. Even men said that, but of course they meant I was the perfect woman for someone else. And they were always taken already, or gay. I wasn't bothered, because I knew it was *inevitable* (or 'guarunteed') that a decent man would turn up. The only overt offers I had were from alcoholics with no social skills. If I was an alcoholic with no social skills, I could understand the logic of that, but I'm not.

 

I have though had to face up to how unappealing my spirit is, culturally, to local men. Men from certain other regions (and in those regions when I've visited) seem to be culturally much more keen on women with my kind of spirit, whereas Yorkshiremen seem not to like it at all. Not in a romantic sense. I'm emotional, creative, striving and soulful, and that doesn't tend to go down well with the Yorkshire character. Which is why i started my thread the other day that was depressingly misinterpreted by people (men actually) who didn't bother reading what I'd actually written. I exchanged pms with several women who knew exactly what I meant, and tended to name the same regions, interestingly. There is definitely something in my theory.

 

Sorry, didn't mean to hijack the thread by mentioning my other one. I'll go and have my bath and eat my gruel in a bit.

[sophiec1979 10]

not surprised it didn't help... the only thing that woman can do is big brother and star in those annoying hair colouring adverts

 

leave davina alone, shes ok really.

 

although i did think she was a peculiar choice for the youth edition of questiontime a few months ago- she sort of held her own but i wasnt overly inspired by her responses.

 

maybe thats just coz im not a youth anymore though.

 

 

x

[medusa 16]

Don't turn her into a slag though medusa! And I don't think lasses making the first move really does scare off guys either. Just carry on with your life go out, have fun and if someone wanders into your life then great

 

In what way did I advocate 'turning into a slag'?

 

What I mean is that the power to meet new people is in your hands- what you have to do is to go out and meet new people.

 

Surely the likelihood on meeting a new partner who you like and who likes you is increased simply by widening your horizons and choosing between a number of people rather than the one or two that you already know?

[slimsid2000 10]

after spending several months coming to terms with a partners betrayal i think its time to try dating again, problem is, i have absolutly no idea where to start, so as the question states,how do i get back on the dating game??

 

Pm me if you might be interested in chatting. Can't promise anything more at this stage though.