[simtimm]

I’m astonished at how silverdale school deal with bullying in there school
How they won best school in the north is beyond me my child has been at the mercy of these bully’s for a while and the response is have you thought about a managed move why should I move my child move the bully’s not the victim

[Top Cats Hat]

Originally Posted by simtimm

I’m astonished at how silverdale school deal with bullying in there school
How they won best school in the north is beyond me my child has been at the mercy of these bully’s for a while and the response is have you thought about a managed move why should I move my child move the bully’s not the victim

Unfortunately in these days of SATS, targets and Ofstead reports many schools' official policy is 'We don't have a problem with bullying at this school'

[realcockney]

Originally Posted by simtimm

I’m astonished at how silverdale school deal with bullying in there school
How they won best school in the north is beyond me my child has been at the mercy of these bully’s for a while and the response is have you thought about a managed move why should I move my child move the bully’s not the victim

now lets guess whos doing the bullying??? been hushed up for years it was happening there when my daughters were there 8 years ago.

[Top Cats Hat]

Originally Posted by realcockney

now lets guess whos doing the bullying??? been hushed up for years it was happening there when my daughters were there 8 years ago.

I very much doubt that any of the kids who were there 8 years ago would still be there.

Unless you are suggesting it is staff who are doing the bullying.

[simtimm]

It’s the same girls school put things in place and the bully’s just do as they please
Even one of girls parents swore at my child outside school but School think this is ok

[Halibut]

Originally Posted by simtimm

It’s the same girls school put things in place and the bully’s just do as they please
Even one of girls parents swore at my child outside school but School think this is ok

I understand your frustration, but you need to taking it up with the school. Politely but firmly insist on a meeting and raise your concerns. Keep doing this until things get better.

[Mister M]

A couple of suggestions. Keep a record of all incidents, however minor they may seem. Also keep a record of the dates and the members of staff you've spoken to about this. These facts will come in useful, if you decide to go to the school governors if you're unhappy with the response you've had from the teaching staff.

EDIT here is their anti bullying policy - https://www.silverdale.sheffield.sch...ile=8&type=pdf

Safeguarding matters, and bullying is a safeguarding issue, should be taken very seriously - because of the impact it has on the individuals.

[simtimm]

Iv had meetings with head of year with safeguarding and letters sent to goveners
Even police had to get involved at one point the problem we have is that School won’t
acknowledge they have a problem

[simtimm]

It’s a real shame we carnt name and shame them along with there parents

[angrymumtwo]

Also, send a copy of everything to the board of governors

[Groose]

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[Fudbeer]

I think its the case in many schools now they are quick to condone it but not so good when it comes to taking action and prefer to pretend its not happening.

[Top Cats Hat]

It could also be useful to involve your MP. A friend of mine was suffering serious harassment from a neighbour who was a council tenant. The housing kept telling her that there was very little they could do as the offender had a secure tenancy. Even after the neighbour was convicted of harassment, the council continued to insist that there was little they could do about it. She contacted her MP who fired off a letter to the Director of Housing and all of a sudden the council decided that they could take action against the tenant.

It's rubbish I know, to have to do that to get anything done about a problem but it can have results. Encourage other parents to do the same and your MP should be even more interested in intervening on behalf of a number of constituents rather than just one.

[Mister M]

Originally Posted by Fudbeer

I think its the case in many schools now they are quick to condone it but not so good when it comes to taking action and prefer to pretend its not happening.

I agree....If a child is being bullied in school how can the child learn? And exactly what do they learn from their experiences.
Exactly why teachers turn a blind eye to bullying is strange.... Perhaps they think their responsibility begins and ends at the classroom door. I know most won't think this, but the inaction is just weird.
If I had a child I'd much prefer them to be safe and happy in school, rather than be miserable, but have teachers full of knowledge with little else.

[DC89216]

Your child needs to stand up for himself / herself and make a god damn statement.

[simtimm]

Wow that just makes my child as bad as the bullies so you condone violence
Ever thought why my child hasn’t retaliated it’s ok for you to sit n judge and say hit them back god help u if it ever happens to your child DCB89216

[DC89216]

Originally Posted by simtimm

Wow that just makes my child as bad as the bullies so you condone violence
Ever thought why my child hasn’t retaliated it’s ok for you to sit n judge and say hit them back god help u if it ever happens to your child DCB89216

Life isn't perfect my friend. Life will throw all sorts at you.

There's nothing wrong with throwing down and getting into a scrap when you're a young kid. Often you'll find that it resolves the whole fiasco.

I'd rather have a kid grow up with a bit of a spine that's all I'm saying.

[simtimm]

Yes n I’d like my child to grow up knowing she did the right thing and knowing that violence isn’t always the way forward

[sheffandy]

Originally Posted by DC89216

Your child needs to stand up for himself / herself and make a god damn statement.

so for example these bullies are 6ft and the child being bullied is 4ft 10, how the hell is he/she supposed to make this 'statement'?

[busdriver1]

Not suggesting this is the case here but I have come across cases of "bullying" where it was made about a child who kept looking at another in a funny way. The parent took it as far as possible and got wound up that it kept happening.
I think there are genuine cases but there are also cases that get hyped up out of proportion by over protective parents.
We are also dealing with developing children who will test their boundaries on occasions. This does not by default make them bullys.
Children need to develop and learn how to look after themselves. Running to the nearest person in authority is not always the answer, this brands them as week making them a target for further attention by the bullys.
There is a middle ground where a child can stand up for themselves short of violence and only when appropriate elevate things.