How do you move on??

hi

how do you move on with your life after everything you've been through?

i cant move on with my life ive tried everything e.g going out, finding work, socialise with friends nothing seems to work. im just hooked on that one person that i cant have and its eating me inside, feel like i wanna runaway and not come back but cant as i have other ppl to think about. even when that person says they moved on i feel jealous and envy coz they can have someone but i cant my life is complicated wish i could turn clock back and i would if i had a power it would to stop time, i hate how im feeling i wish i could have that person in my life i wish i didnt have to choose i wish i never met that person in first place then i wouldnt be in this mess or fall head over in love with him still

hi

 

how do you move on with your life after everything you've been through?

i cant move on with my life ive tried everything e.g going out, finding work, socialise with friends nothing seems to work. im just hooked on that one person that i cant have and its eating me inside, feel like i wanna runaway and not come back but cant as i have other ppl to think about. even when that person says they moved on i feel jealous and envy coz they can have someone but i cant my life is complicated wish i could turn clock back and i would if i had a power it would to stop time, i hate how im feeling i wish i could have that person in my life i wish i didnt have to choose i wish i never met that person in first place then i wouldnt be in this mess or fall head over in love with him still

I am not in the habit of doing this (and I am not preaching or trying to convert) but I am religious, and my religion states that the reason we hurt is because we crave (like you want that person and that's why it's hurting) and there is a prescribed path of making it not hurt, like a Dr giving you a medicine to make the sickness go away.

So that's how I would move on, I hope you feel better soon, and on a practical note I would suggest you try and get out and meet some new people to take your mind off it, but avoid the booze (or too much at least) because then you'll just get depressed.

You will meet someone else, in time he'll become a memory, and you'll probably end up forgetting all about him.

Oh no, poor you. I've never been in your position so can't imagine what you're going through, I hope you get the answers you need but I'm guessing the only answers that'll matter are the ones that you can give.

They say time is a healer though, so I guess time will help.

Hope you feel better soon.

Give it plenty of time. The mind is amazingly adaptable. Eventually your sub/unconscious will sort out any negative feelings associated with your past and it will feel like it gradually becomes a less and less potent part of your everyday life.

Trust in yourself, depend on nobody, because you are the one who will sort all this out. You have everything you need right here and now to build a new platform for your life. Start moving forward with relentless purpose today.

For me it was all about frame of mind, and setting yourself targets.

My first one was to go out on my own to a forum meet, then it was to meet new friends, and it just went from there.

When you feel yourself slip, just take a deep breath, tell yourself you CAN do it, and distract yourself with something

i wish it was easy but it aint knowing he lives in my area i hate it when im at home i constantly think about him day and night and if he got a girl with him when i do think bowt him i get all sorts in my head and it messes it up then i fall into pieces im beside with myself i love him so much its unreal

So move house maybe? New home new start

That was something else I did, but not for the same reasons

ive been heartbroken twice my 1st partner cheated on me my 2nd partner dumped me after he slept with me we been together for 2yrs took me a yr to get over my ex now got to do it all over again i dont think i have strength left been with my last partner for 7yrs was my longest relationship i really loved him so much

im on waiting list to be rehoused.

ive been heartbroken twice my 1st partner cheated on me my 2nd partner dumped me after he slept with me we been together for 2yrs took me a yr to get over my ex now got to do it all over again i dont think i have strength left been with my last partner for 7yrs was my longest relationship i really loved him so much

I was "dumped" after 6 years and it does get easier. Of course it does. I lived close to her when we separated and wondered when she would have a new man. I worried about bumping into them. It tore me up. Fast forward to today I'm with someone new and my ex has become a distant memory. I feel nothing when I think about her. That might sound harsh but it's how my mind has dealt with it. The mind is amazing.

hi

 

how do you move on with your life after everything you've been through?

i cant move on with my life ive tried everything e.g going out, finding work, socialise with friends nothing seems to work. im just hooked on that one person that i cant have and its eating me inside, feel like i wanna runaway and not come back but cant as i have other ppl to think about. even when that person says they moved on i feel jealous and envy coz they can have someone but i cant my life is complicated wish i could turn clock back and i would if i had a power it would to stop time, i hate how im feeling i wish i could have that person in my life i wish i didnt have to choose i wish i never met that person in first place then i wouldnt be in this mess or fall head over in love with him still

How recent was the split?

we split 2months ago