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Yep, I deserved that bullet!

I think if it was just a stupid mistake that wouldn't happen again, I wouldn't want to know, however if I found out I don't know.

No he isn't, so apart from feeling pretty vile about what I did, I also have the fear of the ex seeing us together and kicking off - although to my knowledge he doesn't know i'm seeing anyone.

I didn't, I was quoting my friend. I guess because I'd not got to the stage of sleeping with the guy I was dating, it wasn't classed as a relationship (??) I dunno

Started a new relationship a few months ago, after a few dates together I (very stupidly) slept with my ex - I have no idea why, I have no feelings for him and have no intention of getting back with him. At the time I hadn't slept with my new partner and confided in my friend, she said I shouldn't mention it as; it was a mistake - it wasn't strictly cheating since I'd not yet slept with new boyfriend - wouldn't happen again and would give him the impression that I still have feelings for my ex, so I didn't say anything but now I have really started to fall in love and feel a bit wrong that I lied. Should I tell him and risk losing him, or keep it shut and hope the guilt goes away?