Squashie28

I split up with my partner about 10 months ago now so Im definetly not expecting anything this year, mind you last year he sent me a bunch of red roses to my work place which was really lovely and totally unexpected. Jo x

Oi now now theres an essex girl in the house we aint all juan kerr's I assure you. LOL Jo x

Mmm... Someone I can fart in front of, someone that wont let me down and disapoint me, someone who wont nick the duvet, someone who can cook, someone who has a job, someone that wont make me feel like he's doing me a massive favour by taking on my son, someone sociable, someone who likes my family, someone not commitment shy, someone that hasnt got emotional problems. If he is also dark haired, tall with stocky build, gorgeous, kind, caring, down to earth and funny this would help loads. Jo

Theres a fine line between an adult wearing a T Shirt with a rude slogan and letting a child as young as 7 / 8 wear one, I certainly wouldnt allow my child to wear one, as for me I wouldnt have to bottle to wear something too suggestive, I think the only slogan T Shirt I wore once said Twin Airbags (fitted as standard) but I guess thats fairly tame in comparison to some rude T Shirts. I did see another T Shirt with a funny slogan which said "Now I know why animals eat their young" which made me really laugh, I would definetly wear that. Jo x

I was with my now ex for almost 4 years, I live in Dagenham, Essex and he lives in Sheffield. We decided to live together about a year and a half into our relationship so we started to look for a house exchange, but this took its toll because we endured one disapointment after another. Because he had no responsibilities and was unemployed he was able to do a majority of the travelling down to Essex but every once in a while he would make it clear how he did all the travelling in the relationship or tell me his dad would say to him how he does all the travelling, it would make me feel just awful, in my defense being a single mum with a part time job made it hard to meet him half way, its not like I had a babysitter on tap and my mum wasnt always available to have my son for weekends at a time, but I did come up to Sheffield when she was able to babysit. I suggested to my ex that we save up for a car which we were doing, then one day out of the blue his dad gave him a car, we were both so happy because we thought it would make positive changes to our relationship, but then he began to resent the 4 hour drive down and I suppose I couldnt blame him but it was immensely frustrating, I began to feel like a burden and not a girlfriend. Anyway, we continued to search for a house exchange which was proving to be an annoying and fruitless task and it really got the both of us down, so I suggested he move in with me and my son but we could continue to search for an exchange, but he said no, he said he couldnt face leaving his friends and family and he simply hated southerners LOL (Cheers), he especially hated my family, I did understand to a certain extent but I guess Iam an old romantic and I thought and hoped that if you love someone you can overcome the little niggly issues, but he sadly didnt see it that way. I was absolutely devastated and I just couldnt take anymore so I made a decision to end it, I just couldnt see a future together because the disapointments, the frustrations and the resentments were making things unbearable. Anyway, he went quietly and didnt put up much of a fight and shortly after we split up he met a new girl but shes from L.A. California. Thats just my experience of Long Distance Relationships, I do think in some instances they work I guess it depends on team work and compromise. I hope he is happy anyway, I dont wish him ill will, he was a lovely bloke and brilliant with my son and we both miss him like mad, but I do have some good memories of the time we spent together, but we are no longer friends, he hasnt spoken to me since the split and I doubt he ever will. Jo x

Well Ive been single for 8 months now, Im still coming to terms with it as I really loved my boyfriend but he moved on almost straight away which was a bit of a kick in the teeth, but I have no right to complain as I was the one responsible for ending things. My self esteem is pretty low right now, but Im trying to get myself back out there and make some new friends, I dont want to meet someone else at this moment in time as it would just be a rebound, at the moment meeting someone new seems totally impossible because I cant imagine having the same friendship and connection as I did with my ex or going through the process of introducing my son to someone new. Im not happy about being single but then again Im not unhappy either Im somewhere inbetween, if that makes sense.

Name: Joanne Age: 31 Where your from: Dagenham, Essex Status: Single Occupation:Admin Assistant Fav Food: Chinese Fav Drink: Brandy and coke Music Taste: Any latest chart release & 60's 70's 80's and 90's stuff, Im pretty versatile in my tastes Fav Person/People: Peter Kay & Catherine Tate More about me: Im a single mum to my 7 year old son, Ive got a great sense of humour & Im a down to earth individual, Im quite shy but once I get to know people I relax a bit and have been told I am quite witty. Im a sensible gal and Ive never been a rebel, Im really keen to meet new people and make some new pals, Ive been single now for 8 months, I was going to move to Sheffield as this is where my ex lives but sadly it didnt work out. If you wanna see my pic then go to http://www.myspace.com/fiendishfiend30

Seriously this is no joke but when I was in secondary school my english teacher's name was Miss Shufflebottom. She was a pretty good sport though and told us all on the first day to get all the jokes out in the open before we began our first class, I think it made us all relax around her, it was refreshing to know she wasnt some stuffy uptight teacher. Jo

The funniest thing that happened to me was when I was in Boots with my mum and my god that woman needs a health warning on her arse, anyways she let rip and it was the most evil smell ever, so evil infact that this woman that was standing next to me and my mum complained to the security officer and told him she suspected they had a problem with their drains. Me and my mum were hysterical, we nearly wet ourselves with laughter. Jo x

Oh crap (pardon the pun) there was me thinking I was getting away with it. LOL Jo x

I worry about letting rip on the packed out tube every Monday when Im on my way to work, its a case of squeezing my bum cheeks together and hoping to god the bugger doesnt escape, I dont think I could live with the shame if anyone heard it let alone smelled the toxic fumes that come from my backside. Bloody Vegetables they should be banned, brussells are the worst culprits. Great thread by the way. Jo x

Awwww thank you datal thats very kind of you, but just to reassure you no thats not me bouncing on that chap LOL, shes pretty energetic isnt she hahaha. Jo x

Age: 31 F Interests: Eating out, Cinema, Internet and Animals 5 words: Loyal, funny, shy, caring and honest What am I looking for: A new best friend See my pic http://www.myspace.com/fiendishfiend30

Hi guys My myspace page is http://www.myspace.com/fiendishfiend30 feel free to add me or say hi. Jo x

I wont be moving to Sheffield anymore I split up with my partner in April I still love your city though its great

I was walking through the park with my dad when I was about 15 years old and I decided to be a smart arse and spit out my chewing gum and kick it, unfortunetly for me as I kicked out the skirt I had on didnt open so wide so I whipped out my other leg and landed on a heap on the floor much to the amusement of my dad.

My god that is absolutely barbaric, how could they do this to their children its sickening, I mean if this is all down to religion then I am glad I am not religous.

Its been the complete opposite for me unfortunately, after looking for almost 4 years to move to Sheffield to be with my boyfriend I gave up because nothing was happening then when I suggested my boyfriend move in with me he said no and now we have split up. Could I have some of your luck, I really need some, Im rather gutted right now. Jo

I would say height and build is important then he would have to have nice hands because bitten down chewed & stubby fingernails are a total turn off, then a lovely handsome face with nice teeth & a nice smile. Mmm Reminds me of someone I used to know

Hi youwhatref my ex partner refuses to see his son, both my mum and me begged my ex partner to have contact but he's told us both he wanted to concentrate on his social life and his new partner. A few years later he rang me up asking if he could start seeing his son, this did concern me as my son did not have a relationship with his father but I didnt want to become between them developing a relationship. Anyway to cut a long story short my ex partner lasted 2 weeks and then for some reason the novelty wore off and his son was dumped for yet another piece of skirt. Later on after that relationship failed guess who started to ring me up begging for access again, yep you guessed it "Dad of the year" but this time I said no because he had distressed my son so much and caused so many problems from last time like being verbally abusive in front of my son, demanding to see him when he knew it was his bed time, to bringing my son home really late when he knew I had work the next day and my son had school. Saying no to access is not something I have done out of being nasty or twisted its something Ive done to protect my boy, but the most important thing about my decision was it was not totally my decision it was my sons. I just feel sorry for my son, he didnt deserve a Dad like that.

Forshaws LLP My solicitor is Victoria Andrews she works alongside Stephen Lawson who is Head of Litigation and has had some success with cases against the CSA

I dont agree with the unfair assessments at all, its disgraceful and some stories I have heard have resulted in leaving some fathers penniless. I havent demanded the CSA rob my ex blind as I am not a bitter and twisted individual, I dont want and have never wanted an extreme amount of money, I just want my ex to be held responsible for the care of his son, I asked him to give me just £20 a week and he wouldnt even do that. He has avoided the CSA at every turn and even told them he was receiving benefits when I found out he was actually working, but when I relayed this info to the CSA they told me there was nothing they could do as it stated on their systems he was receiving jobseekers allowance they wouldnt even investigate. I can not understand how much this agency is failing and the government do nothing to to address the issues. I may be wasting my time and money but if I dont try doing something about this I will never know. My solicitor told me that she will be requesting information about my case from the CSA and then if she feels I have a case she will seek a Judicial Review, I have no idea what a Judicial Review will do for me but if it makes the CSA realise I am not going down quietly then thats something isnt it.

Petplan are supposed to provide a good insurance policy so I have heard. I saw this woman on TV not so long ago highly recommending them as her cat needed major heart surgery which cost almost £50,000. She didnt have any trouble from petplan insurance company when she put in the claim and her cat had sucessful surgery as a result. I dont have any pets myself but if I did I would like to get my insurance from them if this is what they did.

Has anybody here taken legal action against the CSA? because I have just employed a solicitor to do this, do you think I could be wasting my time. Basically I havent received any child support for 5 years now, recently the CSA have promised to obtain the monies owed to me along with the outstanding arrears, they claimed to have issued enforcement orders and deduction of earnings orders onto my ex partner in order to get the child support paid to me yet still I havent received a penny. My ex partner does work and receives a very comfortable salary so its not as if paying child support would be difficult for him, but please dont think that Im seeing pound signs in front of my eyes and I am money grabbing because I am not at all like that, I just want him to contribute towards the responsibility of his son, but he refuses. I have been sent several payment schedules with dates that the child support should be paid to me by and several promises over the phone dates to expect the cheques in the post, except those dates come and go and Im left with nothing and no courtesy call to explain why I havent received the money. My ex partner hops from job to job to avoid the CSA, he has lied to them about his circumstances and he has also told them we had reconciled which the CSA failed to confirm with me. I feel the CSA are failing in their duty of care, they seem to punish the honest that pay for their children's upkeep and let all the complicated and difficult cases slide thinking that if they ignore them long enough they will disapear altogether, so I have decided to take a stand against the CSA and their continued negligence and Im seeking legal action. I dont know how sucessful I will be, but I hope taking action will finally force the CSA to provide the child support I have been denied for so long. Fingers crossed

My mum gave my brother no incentive to do anything and as a result he has turned into a right arse, when me and my brother were kids I was told I had to get a Saturday Job & told to save my money and give half of it to my brother. At the age of 16 he got involved with some dodgy friends and ended up stealling all my jewellery, money from my purse, money off my mums partner and money that was put away towards my Grandads 70th Birthday. My Mother has to this day continued to cover up for him and defend him. Today at the age of 25 he is in and out of work constantly, mainly loosing interest in a job once he recieves his first pay packet, he has a girlfriend that is just like my mother in that she pays his way and defends him to the hillt. A few months ago he damaged my computer by downloading porn and a dialler plus as a bonus a virus, he also broke my sons video recorder and his girlfriend refused to believe he would do such a thing. Later after trying to convince everyone he was a changed man, he stole off my boyfriend and left a wonderful first impression, needless to say I was totally embarrassed. When I was ill in January my boyfriend asked my mum if she would sit with my son so he could take me to the hospital, my mother refused as she said she had to get up early, with this my boyfriend had a go at my mum for her lack of support and because of this my brother decided to come round and verbally abuse me in front of my son then threaten me. With a family like mine who needs enemies