spiritmaxi

Totally agree.. I only put this on cause i am appauled that one of my loved ones as been hurt like this.. it's close to my heart and feel totally ashamed that i myself cannot do anything about it cause it's against the law... i didn't realise this as been covered before as i have only just recently joined sheffield forum... on here it's like voicing your anger.... i needed to perhaps voice this for my own piece of mind...

Well no sex offender is ever going to sit there and say YES i did it.... so what they literally do is put the child through grueling interviews and examinations.. the problem is this child.. had gone through it a couple of years ago and only just got the nerve to speak up after he threatened her he was going to do it again...she panicked and told someone. so there was no evidence as such. as a couple of years lapsed... she only spoke up through fear.... she got asked why didn't you say so before.. as we all know most offenders threaten their victims... with something or another... this was put against her and plus they said no other victims came forward.. well there not exactly gunna put it on front page of the f... star are they..

Nope apparently not... will not go on sex offenders register cause.. he wasn't convicted....

Yeah and this man acts like the victim, but I know beyond anybodies innocent or not guilty that this man is a paedophile and i hate it.... The law sometimes is an ass,,

You see the problem is,, being an ex foster parent, most of them don't get convicted on their first offence, I know that to be true, some other poor child as to go through it too for anything to be looked at again, by then it's too late for the child... unfair justice, the thing is no justice for kids they are too young to know..

YEAH it ought to be like america we SHOULD know.....

Can we finish this thread now please....

I know of a family that as recently had, to call the police and social services over an issue concerning a loved one that was abused sexually by a young man... this issue went through it's course arrests, interviews all the horrible stuff looking for evidence.. to get to the end and find out this man would not be prosecuted due to his word against hers now this was a man and a child.. so nothing was done... let loose sorry to girl that was hurt but not enough evidence.. ok thanks.. yeah.. then this man... goes free to perhaps do it again... but then cause it asn't reached to court prosecution stage no one knows..... scot free.. i personally think this is disgusting, so then you befriend this man,, and he does it to your child.. don't forget these abuses are as normal looking as all of us. don't have sticker on forhead saying watch your children... does anyone think that this is unfair... i know again that,, innocent until proven guilty .. but... what about the kids rights...they give evidence as it is and no nothing off the law, nothing of what should be said and what shouldn't.. where is the justice for these children what does everyone else think......

You could be right geoffrey.... another book another chapter.. hopefully this will make me strong for next time... i hope so.. ty

bless you I don't mind at all..... ty..

I have now deleted all knowledge off this person out off my life... deleted email addresses and other day deleted phone numbers now i cannot contact no more gone from my life.. gone... again thanks all for your support and advice... my last connection didn't muster a reply that was through email... i am sad.. but i will over come this in time... a pathway i took.. i failed.. i learnt amazing lessons.. along the way.. a chip as been taken from my heart and in time will heal but a scar will always remain... sounds pathetic.. im sorry.....

thank you all.... i have done things tried to salvage what i could and nothing... yes it's best left i guess... an experience i hopefully will not repeat.... I cannot say things that would damage their relationship although i know things, i don't believe in playing god... you can scream and shout doesn't mean you will be heard.. lessons have been learnt for us all thank you all sincerely:love:

no truer word spoken but it is sheer bliss... happiness is the children and the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow... and u finally reaching it...

ah.. that is sweet.... enjoy

lol didn't realise ha .... i was just so happy laughing bless...