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Point to where I said it. Go on. Take your time im not that busy tonight.

That's good to know.

What about it?

Are you being deliberately ignorant? Not once have I done that. You seem to just ignore the meaning of my posts or just cherry pick the bits you like. Its almost like you want to ignore the fact that Jussie is guilty of nothing yet and even if proved guilty I believe his motives were pure. Maybe if he was not a POC you would find that easier to understand? No I didnt.

Dont make yourself look silly. He Allegedly faked a hate crime. Why dont you get that he is innocent in the eyes of the law until proved otherwise. Put the pitchfork down for just two minutes and accept that right now he is an innocent man.

If and I will repeat that, If he faked a hate crime im guessing he didnt think he would get caught. Im also guessing that shining a light on hate crimes was his intention. Exposing inequality and racism is a commendable thing to do.

And thats all you needed to say from the start. Im happy to agree to disagree.

Im shocked that you need my very simple point explaining but hey ho, And im in the process of reading as much as I can but im not willing to hang the guy for it. He is innocent in the eyes of the law. Until that changes you may want to leave your burning cross and white hood at home.

No strawman here. Good, then we agree on something. Allegedly faking hate crimes. He has not been found guilty of anything.

A child could understand my point but ill make it clearer for you. His motives should be commended unless you think discrimination and racism in America should go unchecked? Do you think it should go unchecked?

There was no sarcasm in my post.

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I didnt. I objected to you cherry picking parts of my post to suit your own agenda, what ever that may be. Ill read into the case.

NOT helpful!!! Besides, this is a piccalilli family You heathen!

Dont just repost the bits that fit your agenda. This is what I wrote Smollet "may" have done the wrong thing. As far as im concerned he is innocent until proved guilty in a court of law but if he has done wrong then ask yourself why he felt the need to do what he did. He probably wanted to shine light on the discrimination and plain old fashioned racism many people of colour face on a daily basis in the US. For that he should be commended. Ill repeat. Until Smollet has been found guilty in a court of law then as far as im concerned he is an innocent man or do you feel trial by social media to be a good thing? Bold. You know this how? As for your opinion of the guy, well its just that, an opinion.

RIP Joe. We have lost one of lifes good guys.

Yeah cos that's what I said didn't I. Context is everything.

Thank you 🙂

Smollet "may" have done the wrong thing. As far as im concerned he is innocent until proved guilty in a court of law but if he has done wrong then ask yourself why he felt the need to do what he did. He probably wanted to shine light on the discrimination and plain old fashioned racism many people of colour face on a daily basis in the US. For that he should be commended.

Thanks for your post mate. This family problem is definitely a complex one, its been a horrible few days but we all had a chat this morning and the kids are upset but they seem to understand the situation. The family are going to make sure the kids have no time to dwell, We will be doing as much with them as we can over the 6 weeks holiday so they have a great time with plenty of good memories and who knows, maybe their mum will be a part of their lives again at some point. Thank you everyone for your posts.

No, Ive had no actual contact with the parent. Ive phoned a few times and left a some voicemails left it for a few days then I rang again and found my number blocked. I tried a different phone, left another voicemail then tried again to find that number now blocked too. I know where she lives so went round a few times but with no luck there either. All 3 kids have mobiles and I have since found that after they tried contact their numbers were then blocked too. The irritating thing for me and the distressing thing for the kids is the wayward parent likes very very close to the old family home so of course when ever they (the kids) are out and about they are constantly looking around and over their shoulder just in case they catch a glimpse. Facebook draws a complete blank too. TBH I think the poster Halibut was right about just being honest with the kids and seeing if that helps them move on or at least put it to the back of their minds for now. I have a feeling you are probably spot on with this so Im going to chat to the family and arrange a day out, somewhere nice, somewhere familiar and then have a heart to heart with them

Yeah I did that to avoid any possible chance of identification if anyone who knows our family posts on here but thinking about it thats probably a non issue as I have since spoken to pretty much all the family about it in the hope they can offer a solution.

You are probably right. The more I think about it the more I think just being upfront about the situation would be best. I'm really not looking forward to that conversation if I'm totally honest. Its the Mum by the way. I think that's why I'm having such trouble wrapping my head around the whole situation. Its just not something you expect a Mum to do. Thanks for your advice. Its very much appreciated.

Good point. They are between the ages of 10 and 13.

Recently i mentioned on a thread I had a family bereavement. It was an extended family member, someone I have not seen in a while and obviously its very sad but as a result of the passing a more pressing family issue has reared its head so I would like to pick your brains if it could? Here is the scenario. 3 kids whos parents divorced last year have not seen one of their parents for exactly 12 months now. They desperately want to see the parent and have tried every means possible to make this happen but with no luck. I was asked to try and I did but with the same result. In my view this person has just washed their hands of their kids and moved on in life. How on earth do I tell this to 3 kids who are missing a big part of their family and obviously miserable about the situation but tell them in a way that wont make matters worse? Do I even tell them and instead hope the matter resolves itself or they just move on with life themselves? Im not good at this sort of thing if im honest so any advice would be useful. Also if anyone has any questions as I realise ive given only the bare minimum of information in my opening post, ill be happy to answer.