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Thanks Kyla. W haven't stopped them seeing her! They chose not to come round. And you say that you'd rather them have a relationship, so why can't they come to our house to see her? Ours is smoke free. No one stopped them seeing her, just asked them to think about the smoke smell. Don't care what anyone says, a new born baby should not smell of smoke!!

I haven't said they can't see her, just asked that they don't have her that close to them that the smell transfers from their clothes to hers. They aren't allowed to smell of smoke at work and have to put things on when going for a cigarette so if they can do it for work, why not their grandchild? ---------- Post added 21-05-2013 at 09:12 ---------- She would never go in their house because they smoke in there so it wouldn't happen and they know that, but they have always been welcome here. If they were that doting I'm sure grandparents would understand if you didn't go in their house where they smoke

I don't like your use of the word retarded thanks very much. I don't not let them near her, all I said is that I don't want them holding her so much that the smell of tobacco is on her clothes off them! It's disgusting and not right. I can make the choice, my baby can't. Why should she smell of smoke just because people can't keep their clothes clean!?

I don't want her near smoke and I don't want her smelling of it either! Why would I want my baby smelling of that, harmful or not?! Smoking is a lifestyle choice and my choice is not to smoke simple as so why should I let someone else do it near my baby

Well well well, this forum gets more unfriendly by the second. There's nothing wrong with our family but I don't think I'm been unreasonable saying I don't want my child to smell of smoke! Picture the scene, less than 12 hours old, held for 5 minutes by a smoker and stinking of their fags?! Not normal! And neeeek don't tell me to get a grip. This place was full of friendly people at the beginning and now is been overtaken by keyboard warriors! I asked for opinions not insults!!

My point was about the clothes never been clean too, but nothing would have stopped them coming round to see her, even if it meant they didn't hold her. I just wanted to know if people thought I was been unreasonable for protecting my daughter from the effects of someone else's bad habit?

So you don't refuse to come round and then tell everyone they don't let you see your grandchild? And also expect them to bring the child to your house because you "only smoke upstairs" because you won't walk 100 yards and pop on a clean top?

So... I ask that you try not to smell of cigarette smoke near my new baby as when you held them I had to change their clothes. What do you do?

What Rakane said ^^^^^

Google the Analytical Armadillo

I so wish I could help peewee (I'm pretty certain I know you!) but I have 2 cats and a baby and that's enough for us up to now

Be patient hun, it did take me 2 years but don't let that dishearten you as I know people have gotten caught straight away after coming off pill. I had my baby girl in September and oh my we have spent a fortune, but I bet it can be done cheaper! I breastfeed so have saved money not buying formula

Are you thinking of going??

When babies are developing a skill (crawling etc) it's quite common that they don't sleep as their little brains try to make sense of it all

Wybourn Sure Start have a group on Wednesday morning at half 9

I had the ideals in my head when I was pregnant, I'd had the Gina Ford routine rammed down my throat from a 'friend.' I spent the first week in bed by 7 with lights dimmed trying to make her get used to a routine, well, what a load of rubbish! I hated it! Each to their own, however, and I hope it works for you. But babies don't read books and I've found that just going with the flow initially is best, especially if breastfeeding on demand. I've noticed that my little girl did certain things at certain times herself, and worked from that, the first thing I noticed was around 5pm every night was when she wanted her biggest nap. The only bit of routine I have is bath, and I adjust that if we are going out etc, she just knows that we bath, play, cuddle, feed, then sleep. Do what works for YOU and your baby. I've struggled so much with breastfeeding (she had tongue tie) but personally I'm really proud that I've persevered. We also co sleep, simply because she was refluxy at birth and I was scared she would choke, I could easily get to her that way. (We bought 2 Moses baskets as I was sure she just wasn't comfy! Lol!) On the other hand she will happily sleep in a cot and I just judge it on how settled she has been throughout the day as to where she sleeps. She's almost 4 months now and is happy, thriving and gorgeous! Like I said, do what is best for you and yours, the gina ford way was far too rigid for us, we would still like a social life which includes taking her with us, if she's tired she will sleep in pram, ha ha she does outdo us at parties mind! If you fancy a bit of reading I suggest the Analytical Armadillo and The Booby Whisperer, depends what you are into. All the best of luck Strix.... Don't worry, it seems we have a few of the same ideas

I don't expect ANYTHING on a plate, as a mother or anything else for that matter. I use parent and child if they are available, if not its not a problem. Did have to laugh at the elderly couple waiting for me to pull out of one the other day though, watched them easily get out with all their professional hiking gear on and stroll into asda!!

You don't stay in for pre op, it's only a 10 minute job really. My other half came to theatre. They leave them in a little room just while you get sorted then go and fetch them. Once out of theatre you will just be left, they come round all first night doing bp etc but I had to beg for help latching baby on.

I had a planned c section on 18th September absolutely fine. I was up and about in a few hours and only stayed in 2 nights. Can't say I had any pain just a bit weird walking with stitches. My advice is to take it easy but keep mobile or you stiffen up! Theatre staff in Jessops are lovely too. Good luck xx

Have you got a photo bladesgirl?

What does this kitten look like?

Magsie, I'm a bit worried about the trap as there's quite a few (homed) cats around here, and the injured one just comes every couple of days or so. Do you think it would work?

They tried me yesterday but I was at work, going to phone back so they can bring me a trap

Do you reckon they will actually get back to me?

S2 it's such a poor soul, don't think he's feral, owners probably just chucked him out