purplepippa

Fantastic, thank you! Cheers! Hijack away

Hey, I have a question. What happens when you go to the tip? Can you just take any old household waste and drop it off there or does it need to be recycling? On the council website, they seem to be listed as household recycling sites but I just have some black bags of general mixed rubbish that I need to get rid of. Could I do that at one of the tips? How does it work? Apologies for what's probably a naïve question, it's just not something I've ever done before!

HE was in a dangerous position? HE was? Any concern _at all_ for the woman who would have been raped?

Seconded. I only hope the victim doesn't frequent this forum.

That's also a very scary stat, and a depressing one, too. As someone who survived - just - but with permanent injuries as a result, it's something I take pretty seriously. I know others who didn't survive. So yes, I take it seriously. And when people talk about self-preservation to avoid accusations, rather than actually caring if they're hurting people, it's pretty close to the bone.

No. The reason you check is so that you don't hurt somebody. So that you don't damage them, perhaps for the rest of their lives. Not as self-protection, that shouldn't be your primary motive. 85,000 women are raped a year in England and Wales. That's a sad day for womankind. Making men think about, and take responsibility for, what they are doing is not a 'sad day for mankind'.

That wasn't my aim, don't worry. Just to reiterate - if the person you're with isn't enthusiastic about what you're doing, it's time to stop, or check with them if they're ok with what's happening. That's what you might be doing wrong, from what you've said.

You might be doing it wrong.

And on and on... So if you have a drink and a laugh and whisper in someone's ear when you're dressed to the nines, does that give anyone with a strap-on the right to penetrate you? If you are so confused about the signals women give off when they are consenting, it's easy, look for ENTHUSIASM. If you're unsure if they're into it, then stop. If they haven't said no but they've zoned out or frozen, then stop. If they're wearing something sexy and are looking for a good time but don't seem to fancy you then, even if they want sex, that doesn't mean they want sex with you, then back off. Enthusiasm. That's how you know someone is consenting. Why are you so defensive of this convicted rapist?

And if they go to a swingers' club to have sex, do they not have any say in *who* they have sex with?

The number of men on this thread who say they can't possibly know that a woman isn't consenting unless she screams and shouts is really worrying. If you have that little insight into whether she wants to be doing it or not, you should probably keep away from women for a while. Are the women you sleep with really so unenthusiastic? Again, if so, don't do it. It's kind of a clue.

The cafe in the Millennium Galleries (downstairs) does a lovely afternoon tea.

Not silly at all - I don't think it matters! Others may correct that, but afaik as long as it's a couple of centimetres in, and watered in, it should be fine

The international website is here: http://www.guerrillagardening.org/ggsunflower.html

Today is International Sunflower Guerrilla Day! People all over the world (well, probably the northern hemisphere) go out and plant sunflower seeds in places around where they live. There is a Sheffield event going on, which you can find out about at http://www.sheffieldsunflowers.org.uk. The short version: meet at 12 outside Blue Moon Cafe today to do some group sunflower seed planting, or do some wherever you are. Bring: sunflower seeds, something to poke little holes with, a bottle or two of tap water. Let's bring yet more pretty blooms to Sheffield!