I have 2 children and im their friend as well as mother.My kids can come to me and speak over any problems without been embarrassed i listen as well as talk which is a priority with kids.They are not spoilt My kids no im always there for them no matter what.(The other week my eldests friend said i wish my mum was like yours she never listens to me and i could never talk to her like you do your mum )So to me been friends as well as a mum is the best way to be