Other women's opinions please it is a sensitive matter

katy1981 · 14-08-2005, 11:03

i have been thinking recently of gettin a breast reduction as they are making my life murder i can never find tops that fit well and have to buy them to fit my bust and then they are to big round my waist and i feel really depressed when i cant find delicate pretty bras cos i have not seen many shops that do my size in that design i am talkin to my family about this but they all say dont do it your fine as you are so im askin for your unbyist opinions i am aware that some people want bigger ones and i should be gratefull for what ive got mine are 36 e at the momment my back is constantly sore and they get very uncomfortable please help i need a little advice

sugarnspice · 14-08-2005, 11:07

Well only you can answer this one Katy. It's ok people saying you're fine as you are, but they don't have to live with the back pain do they?

Think long and hard before making your mind up. I can't really tell you what to do either way. What's your gut instinct?

Good luck matey x

rubydazzler · 14-08-2005, 11:12

You can get pretty lingerie in all sizes from shops like perfect fit at woodseats, but that's hardly the point, I suppose

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Overlarge breasts that are actually real are very heavy and can be painful. As you say, it leads to back and shoulder pain and straps cutting into the flesh of the shoulders doesn't look or feel pleasant.

The best people to get information and advice from are people who have had similar problems and maybe had the op already. No-one but yourself knows how you feel and if you get proper information and you still want to have it done - go for it!

best of luck ...

sugarnspice · 14-08-2005, 11:24

Katy, me again!

Just remembered a friend at college had a breast reduction from an F to a C and all went well & she was over the moon with the result. I'm not in contact with her anymore so can't pass on details.

Maybe someone who as had one will stumble across this thread & will be able to help you more?

evildrneil · 14-08-2005, 11:44

OK I'm not a woman but here goes anyway! I've a friend who (fairly) recently had a reduction done on the NHS (she was an H cup and was in constant pain from the weight) and apparently these are the negative points to consider:

1. There will be some scarring - it's an operation so you have to expect it. This is a pretty much cosmetic consideration but it hits some people quite hard.

2. You will probably loose some sensitivity - the operation typically involves the removal of the nipple, reshaping then re-attatchment so in addition to loosing some sensitivity in the whole breast area it is possible you will loose all sensitivity in and around the nipple.

3. It is very unlikely you will be able to breastfeed - the nipple is separated from the milk ducts during the operation.

The other thing to consider is that the op may not be performed if you are overweight or your weight is fluctuating significantly. The size of your breast will fluctuate with the amount of bodyfat you are carrying so most docs will wan't you to get to an optimum weight so they can assess the need for surgery.

(N.B. before you get offended I'm not saying you are overweight just that its a point to consider if you are!)

Fragonard · 14-08-2005, 11:47

A friend of mine had a breast reduction. She said that it was the best thing she ever did. She did say, however, that they actually grew a bit afterwards and increased a cup size after the surgery which took her by surprise (she went to a C cup but after X months it increased to a D) but I have never heard of this happen before and neither has she. She did say that the recovery period was quite a sore time but she can not believe the difference it has made to her confidence.

Robbie Loving · 14-08-2005, 11:48

its not just yourself you have to take in to account, you have a boyfriend, think how he would feel if you had a reduction.

i think you owe it to him and mankind to keep the breasts

now shut up and get back in the kitchen, im starving

Fragonard · 14-08-2005, 11:49

A friend of mine had a breast reduction. She said it was the best thing she ever did and gave her increased confidence and no back ache. However, her breasts grew back a little after the surgery from a C cup to a D cup which she had not heard of before but she is okay with that now. She did say that recovering from the surgery was a bit sore but she said that the whole thing was worth it. Don't listen to what other people who DONT have the same worries as you say. It is up to you. If it is making you unhappy then go for it!

sugarnspice · 14-08-2005, 11:50

Quote:

Originally posted by Robbie_Lovin
its not just yourself you have to take in to account, you have a boyfriend, think how he would feel if you had a reduction.

i think you owe it to him and mankind to keep the breasts

now shut up and get back in the kitchen, im starving

Another beautiful & classic lovin moment .....

Fragonard · 14-08-2005, 11:55

Maybe some men get turned on seeing hunched over women with their knockers trailing on the floor and pained expressions on their faces!! Sounds like Robbie is one of them.

craigb · 14-08-2005, 11:56

Breast..... reduction.....??

You want to make them..... smaller....??

Such things should be ILLEGAL!!

Seriously though, it's something that only you can decide as only you can know how much it bothers you, although this kind of thing is obviously something that should be talked through with those close to you - your boyfriend, family, close friends etc.

PS: Personally I thought they were quite nice

Robbie Loving · 14-08-2005, 11:59

Quote:

Originally posted by Fragonard
Maybe some men get turned on seeing hunched over women with their knockers trailing on the floor and pained expressions on their faces!! Sounds like Robbie is one of them.

your point being what?

Fragonard · 14-08-2005, 12:03

ermmm...exactly as it reads...no under-lying message.

youwhatref · 14-08-2005, 12:05

Quote:

Originally posted by Fragonard
Maybe some men get turned on seeing hunched over women with their knockers trailing on the floor and pained expressions on their faces!! Sounds like Robbie is one of them.

It's more the fact that the heavy weight of them makes the woman automatically bend over!

But seriously you do what is best for you, i think evildrneil offers some good advice.

beautynbeast · 14-08-2005, 12:13

not sure if this would work but maybe chest exercise? i know a friend told me to do it to go up a size so not sure if it would work to go down one? after a few months of doing them i got to throw my learner bra in the bin, age 24.
and it also stopped my sister from laughing at me saying my boobs were like spaniels ears, or envelope flaps.
now im quite proud of my girls, even though there are 12 year olds bigger then me.
you have to do it for you, if your un happy then change.
good luck x

Strix · 14-08-2005, 12:14

My sister is a FF cup and had the symptoms you describe.

She has been much happier since going to a proper lingerie shop to be fitted with bras that are both feminine and designed to support well.

She had been buying in M&S, but they just don't provide the support she needs really.

Before you do anything really drastic, try a couple of new bras that have been fitted correctly. The place I went to took an inch out of the back of mine because I was between sizes (so the wires of the smaller were too tight).

Expect to pay £30-40 for a decent bra - maybe a little more, but if this is a viable alternative to surgery, I know which I'd take

hazel · 14-08-2005, 12:19

I have had this probem all my life, and I have come to the conclusion it's not just fat it's the shape that you are.
When I got married I weighed 7 and a half stone but my bust was still large in comparison with the rest of me. 34 --22 --34.
dresses were made 32 22 34 always 2" less on the bust no matter how I increased in size my basic shape remained

So this has dogged me all my life so no matter what weight I have been the proportions have remained the same. Ok when slim but not good when heavier.

I don't knowabout the medical side of this which sounds something to seriously consider but I know a lifetime of being large breasted had made me wish I'd done something about it.

hazel

Jess22 · 14-08-2005, 12:21

Hi Katy,
A friend of mine had a breast reduction a few years ago and hasn't looked back, her confidence has boomed and she feels more comfortable in certain clothes. Most people do want bigger breasts, but if you have them and they are causing you problems, bigger breasts aren't that great.
My advice is have a long think before doing anything, way up the pros and cons and if you do decide to go ahead, make sure you go to a reputable surgeon.
Jess X

StarSparkle · 14-08-2005, 12:42

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Originally posted by Strix
My sister is a FF cup and had the symptoms you describe.

She has been much happier since going to a proper lingerie shop to be fitted with bras that are both feminine and designed to support well.

She had been buying in M&S, but they just don't provide the support she needs really.

Before you do anything really drastic, try a couple of new bras that have been fitted correctly. The place I went to took an inch out of the back of mine because I was between sizes (so the wires of the smaller were too tight).

Expect to pay £30-40 for a decent bra - maybe a little more, but if this is a viable alternative to surgery, I know which I'd take

I agree completely with Strix on this occasion!

Having surgery is quite a drastic step, and you may well find that all you really need is a properly-fitting bra. Wearing the correct size will give you extra support and can make a tremendous difference in how you look. You should feel a lot more comfortable, and clothes will hang much better on you.

I'd suggest you visit Bravissimo in Leeds - they will take time to fit you properly and have a great selection of bras to choose from. They also make their own line of shirts, summer tops, etc specially cut to cater for the more voluptuous chest!

Could just make the difference for you.

StarSparkle

Strix · 14-08-2005, 12:48

Thanks for that info Starsparkle

I'll tell my sister about the shirts - I thought they were just lingerie.

do they have a website?