Petition to stop officials removing items from graves- please sign

chele510 · 17-06-2009, 12:53

On 22nd June 2009 officials from East Herringthorpe Crematorium, Rotherham will be removing items placed on the graves of infants, as they feel they are "untidy", families have been given 1 weeks notice to remove any items on their graves and have been informed that any items remaining after this date will be removed by crematorium officials.
My younger sister has started a petition as she has a baby girl, Violet, buried at the crematorium and is understandably very upset that they are planning to do this. If you can help by signing the petition on the link below it would be very much appreciated. Also if you can you can show your support by being at the crematorium at 4pm today when reporters form the local paper will be there to cover the story.

http://www.ipetitions.com/petition/l...esgravesalone/

medionman · 17-06-2009, 19:27

i am sorry to hear this my x is burried therewot will they want next i hope you win---good luck

Ghostrider · 17-06-2009, 19:29

Heartless swines - petition signed.

depoix · 17-06-2009, 20:04

me to ghostrider

chele510 · 17-06-2009, 21:09

Thank you guys

nuttygirl · 17-06-2009, 21:39

I'm on the fence on this one. By all means, small posies, perhaps a small teddy - sure.

But this WILL mean someone has to spoil it by lighting up their loved one's grave like a blummin' Xmas tree with candles/tinsel/who knows what and making it look like a fight's gone on in Poundland...

cgksheff · 17-06-2009, 21:39

Is it a total ban? or asking that items are placed in a way that will permit mowing?

You may find this quote from their own Charter document helpful to your cause:

Where successful schemes are operating, it is noticeable that the parents or family need to place teddy bears, dolls and other baby related items on the grave.
This can be accommodated by the grave design (by a hard surface at the head of the grave) and should not be regulated against.

http://www.rotherham.gov.uk/NR/rdonl...entCharter.pdf

chele510 · 18-06-2009, 13:22

Thank you for that cgksheff makes interesting reading. Just an update, The Star are covering that story and Look North will be there on Monday dinnnertime.

Agent Orange · 18-06-2009, 13:33

Whilst I sympathise, I am siding with the council on this matter. The cemetery where my grandparents are buried has similar sort of shrines on various graves, but unfortunately they litter the cemetery when the wind takes hold and without wanting to sound a snob, make the place look a little tacky. I appreciate people want to mark their repsect in alternative ways, but a line has to be drawn somewhere.

Thebanginman · 20-06-2009, 09:23

And yet the same cemetery has a Muslim section in which graves are decorated the same way and one grave has a stone surround which is totally against the cemetery rules..guess what...nothing has been said about these graves

cgksheff · 20-06-2009, 09:28

http://www.thestar.co.uk/news/Grievi...idy.5385703.jp

max · 20-06-2009, 09:31

Quote:

Originally Posted by Thebanginman

And yet the same cemetery has a Muslim section in which graves are decorated the same way and one grave has a stone surround which is totally against the cemetery rules..guess what...nothing has been said about these graves

You sad person, playing the race card at every opportunity.

Thebanginman · 20-06-2009, 09:54

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Originally Posted by max

You sad person, playing the race card at every opportunity.

Nothing sad about it ,I have a personal interest in this and the info is correct.The warnings were posted only around the childrens graves now seeing as no warnings were posted in the Muslim part of the cemetery maybe you ought to ask yourself just who is making this a racist thing.The families have no objection to the decorations surrounding the graves in the muslim section of the cemetery,like the childrens graves they have been done tastefully and sre not an eyesore,what they are objecting to is the Political Correctness caused by people such as yourself screaming racist at every opportunity that has caused firms like the one in this incident to be afraid to do anything where ethnicity is concerned..far easier to attack the christian graves of children ,the PC brigade are not bothered about them

perplexed · 21-06-2009, 07:54

Quote:

Originally Posted by Agent Orange

Whilst I sympathise, I am siding with the council on this matter. The cemetery where my grandparents are buried has similar sort of shrines on various graves, but unfortunately they litter the cemetery when the wind takes hold and without wanting to sound a snob, make the place look a little tacky. I appreciate people want to mark their repsect in alternative ways, but a line has to be drawn somewhere.

I'm in agreement with this...I've said on similar threads that stuff just gets left on graves to rot and fade, and just looks horrible. I've seen faded cans of unopened beer left for ages on a grave. Looks like the winos have been in.

I think the answer is a reasonable time limit. Say a couple of months, then the stuff should be removed to allow the cemetary to become a peaceful resting place.

So I won't sign the petition. I agree with a tidy up.

lubylou12 · 21-06-2009, 23:31

hi all my son is buried here, im very upset, this is the only way i get to buy my son presents i cant give him normally, its so unfair, it doesnt look a mess it looks colourful and welcoming

f0rd · 21-06-2009, 23:35

Quote:

Originally Posted by Agent Orange

Whilst I sympathise, I am siding with the council on this matter. The cemetery where my grandparents are buried has similar sort of shrines on various graves, but unfortunately they litter the cemetery when the wind takes hold and without wanting to sound a snob, make the place look a little tacky. I appreciate people want to mark their repsect in alternative ways, but a line has to be drawn somewhere.

Ditto, I sort of side with the council.