[SUZIESWEET]

Does anyone else hubby look at this when on the internet and then hide it from them?

Been with my hubby for 7 years now and just found out he has been viewing it, do not know what to think about this.

[fritzthecat]

I know im a man when i make this comment...but here goes

At least he is only looking, its human nature to look, we all do it!!, yes he was wrong to hide it, but we all have little secrets

[tis me]

Originally Posted by fritzthecat

I know im a man when i make this comment...but here goes

At least he is only looking, its human nature to look, we all do it!!, yes he was wrong to hide it, but we all have little secrets

Some would ask why he thought he might need to hide it.

[nick2]

Originally Posted by SUZIESWEET

Does anyone else hubby look at this when on the internet and then hide it from them?

Been with my hubby for 7 years now and just found out he has been viewing it, do not know what to think about this.

As long as it's not naked blokes I don't see what your problem is, and I can see why he didn't tell you.

Why don't you have a look at the Playgirl website ?

[fritzthecat]

Originally Posted by tis me

Some would ask why he thought he might need to hide it.

For the same reason most people hide things, because they knew that their partner would not like it, doesn't automaticly a bad person, the OP needs to sit and talk to her hubby rationally about this

[lyndix]

I don`t thin k the looking at porn is a problem at all.
I think the fact that he feels the need to hide it from you is the issue.

[slickwitch]

Do you never view pornography yourself? It's fine if you don't but men tend to find it relatively normal I'm afraid. My husband is a bit of an internet dope but given time I'm sure it's one of the first things he'd find! It's in their programming. Watch telly, drink beer, seek out pictures of boobies.

He'll hide it because the use of pornography is often quite a private thing. If you challenge him about it do it on a very gentle light-hearted way.

Occasionally when he's been up late at night he has forgotten to change the sky channel from the "Adult Channel" and it simply reboots into that. Duh!!!!

[SUZIESWEET]

we have a very active sexual life i cannot see the reason he would need to look at it?? I know that if we sit and discuss this he will blow his top for me snooping, but what if this is just the tip of the iceberg so to speak, what if he is thinking of those women while making love to me?

[xruthx]

it is completley natural, don't feel bad about it. try and gently coach it out of him, if i was in your shoes i would sugest watching it together


plenty a good time to be had if you open your mind n explore

[honeyb35]

I agree, you do need to talk about it, rather than letting bad feelings fester. But you also need to think about WHY you're upset. Is it because he hid it from you, or that you hate porn? Or you think it means he'd rather look at that than you? As fritz said, he may have hidden it from you because he knows you wouldn't like it, or perhaps feels guilty about it. Most men don't see porn as competition to their normal lives in my experience, its just something they've grown up doing since being a teenager and feels harmless to them.
Personally most types of porn doesn't bother me. Its staged around fantasies, which are harmless, and as long as a man isn't preferring to look at porn over me, then I don't see it as a problem, as long as it isn't illegal.
However everyone is entitled to their own feelings about it, and if it genuinely upsets you then you need to talk to him.

[swordfish1]

Originally Posted by lyndix

I don`t thin k the looking at porn is a problem at all.
I think the fact that he feels the need to hide it from you is the issue.

Spot on.
Also if he's watching it whilst you are in the house, maybe that's another issue.

Is this being watched whilst you aren't there?

Also, people have different expectations of how much is an "active" sex life.

[slickwitch]

Originally Posted by SUZIESWEET

we have a very active sexual life i cannot see the reason he would need to look at it?? I know that if we sit and discuss this he will blow his top for me snooping, but what if this is just the tip of the iceberg so to speak, what if he is thinking of those women while making love to me?

Well, no matter how great our sex lives a bit of visualisation can always add to the enjoyment. I had a dream about getting intimate with James Bond last night which I know I will call to mind if necessary

[SUZIESWEET]

he does watch it while i am in the house he doesn't come to bed with me he stays up watching the television apparently. In answer to your other question we often have the real things at least 3 times a week.

[Gripper Stebson]

Originally Posted by SUZIESWEET

we have a very active sexual life i cannot see the reason he would need to look at it?? I know that if we sit and discuss this he will blow his top for me snooping, but what if this is just the tip of the iceberg so to speak, what if he is thinking of those women while making love to me?

Maybe it's better for you than for him.
I suggest you try a little harder, hope this helps!

[KTHFB]

Originally Posted by xruthx

it is completley natural, don't feel bad about it. try and gently coach it out of him, if i was in your shoes i would sugest watching it together


plenty a good time to be had if you open your mind n explore

I couldn't have put it better myself on both points above.

There are a lot of women out there who see pornography as a threat to them. I don't see it as that in the slightest. As for thinking about the women when making love to you - chances are he wouldn't be able to describe what they even looked like if you asked him.

[slickwitch]

Originally Posted by Gripper Stebson

Maybe it's better for you than for him.
I suggest you try a little harder, hope this helps!

Stop press!

Gripper drawn out of retirement by knockers and knobs!

[fritzthecat]

enjoy it together then and se it to enhance your love life, thats assuming you don't mind it, otherwise accept that he does look at these things, as long as he is just looking then its ok, but nothing stopping you doing the same, that way he will see it from your point of view!!

[WoodForWood]

Yeah, just sit and give him the opportunity to chat about it. He's probably hidden it as it's viewed as a shameful thing in our society (decide between you if that's right or wrong), and also because he may have suspected that you'd 'not understand'. I'm male and porn mostly bores me but as FritzTheCat said, looking is very normal human behaviour. The best part of a recent relationship I had was that both she and I acknowledged our roving-eyes and giggled about it.

As with most relationship challenges, this could bring you closer if you both concentrate on better understanding each other through it. Good luck (and remember he may need some time after you first broach the subject of having 'caught him').

[tis me]

Originally Posted by SUZIESWEET

he does watch it while i am in the house he doesn't come to bed with me he stays up watching the television apparently. In answer to your other question we often have the real things at least 3 times a week.

Crap as it might seem....Why is it that he prefers to watch tv than go to bed with you?

Get the sussys out and put some effort in!

[pattricia]

Originally Posted by SUZIESWEET

Does anyone else hubby look at this when on the internet and then hide it from them?

Been with my hubby for 7 years now and just found out he has been viewing it, do not know what to think about this.

Before men had access to computers as they do now, it was top shelf pornography in newsagents (which it still is). I can see nothing wrong with looking at porn on the internet and actually shows a healthy sexual appetite.