How do you get a 'smack head' off your door step?

hannahclarke · 27-09-2008, 12:18

to cut a long story short some cheeky woman turned up at my door last saturday wanting me to 'drive her around'. i said no but she told me she can get anything i wanted for 1/3rd price in shops. i sounded interested so shed leave my doorstep and even gave her £10 to get rid of her as i felt threatened and was on my own with my 2 small kids. she then tried to get money out of my husband next day but he wasnt having any of it.

ever since then knowing my hubby goes to work for the day she comes round to my house. i ahve a dog which alerts me when anyone comes through the gate. she can be standing outside my house for as long as 10mins duin nothing but waiting for me to answer the door. i feel really threatened by this woman as shes alwasy either smacked up to her eyeballs or going cold turkey. i havent gave her anything since and have asked her nicely to go away but dont want to say out that may result her into abuse or even knocking me over and robbing my house when alone. im worried that if i grass her upto cops what she does and that she steals ppls cards in town to buy stuff and sell on she may harrass me further and even break in the house.

we have security on the house now and have put netting all round the windows to stop her looking through but shes constantly on my door and saw her the other day rooting in my outside cupboard till i startled her. she wont leave me alone and dont know how to approacha smack head withoug having myself battered and even stabbed.

can anyone please tell me how i can approach the situation to get her to leave us alone as she only lives round the corner and she knows peope that would easily want to burgle us for our expensive taste in stuff

Digsy · 27-09-2008, 12:43

go and hang around on her doorstep, take the kids, let them play in her garden, invite your friends, have a bbq.

hannahclarke · 27-09-2008, 12:53

i like to keep myself to myself and i dont think bad of people unless come off as bad people and sorry but i dont tolirate people on drugs and especially ones that steal peoples cards in town, buy stuff with them and sell the stuff on, especially when once you bought the stuff she gets people to come to your houseand burgle you for the stuff back.

im not interested in getting involved with that and i just want her to go away but know how to tell her firmly or handle the situation as i prefer to do this as easy as poss

AJ sheffield · 27-09-2008, 13:04

I wouldnt worry about her getting you burgled, its a common myth that druggies have backup. People also seem to think drug users have backup from drug dealers but that is also incorrect.
You might think her tendency towards violence might be higher due to her addiction but in reality her fitness will put paid to that.
Hopefully she will just dissappear into the woodwork from where she came, if not then be firm with her and threaten her with the police, see how it goes from there.

Ouija · 27-09-2008, 13:15

I think you made a mistake in giving her money the first time. Probably the reason why she is hanging round is because most people wouldn't have given her any cash, so she thinks you're a soft touch especially for giving her ten pounds when most people would have sent her away with a flea in her ear. I'd definitely say don't give her (anybody else) any money in the future. People like that, if you give them an inch they want a mile!

I can understand you feeling uncomfortable with her hanging around, particularly with two young children in the house. I would hate it myself. I get "gangs" hanging round outside my house because I live in quite a rough area, and it's awful. But you know if you say anything, it would make it ten times worse!

You say you have a dog, perhaps you could use him/her as a reason to tell this woman not to hang around. If you try and make it sound that you are concerned for her safety... eg "The dog might bite because he's nervous around strangers" etc, that might get the message across without making you the "bad guy" and worrying about retaliation. It's awful that you have to make excuses to prevent people harrassing you, but I know where you're coming from with worrying about having further trouble if you tell her to get lost. I have the same problem myself.

If you want to report her, you could try reporting something that is unrelated to you, so she doesn't get suspicious that it was you that did it. Do you know who her landlord is? I'm assuming she's not an owner-occupier if she's a drug user. If they have enough complaints from residents, she may get moved on in that way.

SUPERTYKE · 27-09-2008, 13:18

Tell her in no uncertain terms that if she don't stop bothering you you'll inform the law. Try not to worry unduly. Good luck.

TESTPASS · 27-09-2008, 13:22

A tin of white gloss over the head would work and have the added bonus of her showing up clearer on the cctv.

you could then phone the police and tell them that that white haired lady is on your front again.

lyndix · 27-09-2008, 13:26

Just tell her to do one

Digsy · 27-09-2008, 13:32

Grab the hose pipe, go out front and water the garden, say excuse me when pointing it in her direction, but don't for a second wait for her to move.

hannahclarke · 27-09-2008, 13:43

thanks all sound great, testpass made me laugh and if i was that kind olf person to be firm with her i would,lol.

i understand that giving into her the first time was a mistake but i had a smackhead at my back door and one at the front gate (dont ask why i had one at my backdoor) but i felt like i was guna be robbed and had alot of decent stuff in my house and was worried for the safety of myself and my kids lives.

i will tell her firmly but if anyone else has any suggestions i welcome any advice x

Minimo · 27-09-2008, 13:51

Do you have any male friends/relatives who can come round when she is there. She may be hanging around because she thinks you are a woman alone and can be intimidated. Sorry if this sounds sexist but there are times when a man can be very useful.
er please don`t take offense anyone!

Digsy · 27-09-2008, 13:54

Another option would be to pay £10 to someone willing to give her the same treatment, she'll stay indoors if someone starts popping up in her back, front garden, so that she don't get burgled herself.

Make sure you keep the back door locked though, one trick for the smackrats is for 1 to knock on your front door, whilst the other is running in through the back door and grabbing what they can.

not wanted · 27-09-2008, 14:02

So let me get this right, somebody you don't know turned up at your address and you gave them a tenner, what's your address.

slimsid2000 · 27-09-2008, 14:20

Quote:

Originally Posted by hannahclarke

to cut a long story short some cheeky woman turned up at my door last saturday wanting me to 'drive her around'. i said no but she told me she can get anything i wanted for 1/3rd price in shops. i sounded interested so shed leave my doorstep and even gave her £10 to get rid of her as i felt threatened and was on my own with my 2 small kids. she then tried to get money out of my husband next day but he wasnt having any of it.

ever since then knowing my hubby goes to work for the day she comes round to my house. i ahve a dog which alerts me when anyone comes through the gate. she can be standing outside my house for as long as 10mins duin nothing but waiting for me to answer the door. i feel really threatened by this woman as shes alwasy either smacked up to her eyeballs or going cold turkey. i havent gave her anything since and have asked her nicely to go away but dont want to say out that may result her into abuse or even knocking me over and robbing my house when alone. im worried that if i grass her upto cops what she does and that she steals ppls cards in town to buy stuff and sell on she may harrass me further and even break in the house.

we have security on the house now and have put netting all round the windows to stop her looking through but shes constantly on my door and saw her the other day rooting in my outside cupboard till i startled her. she wont leave me alone and dont know how to approacha smack head withoug having myself battered and even stabbed.

can anyone please tell me how i can approach the situation to get her to leave us alone as she only lives round the corner and she knows peope that would easily want to burgle us for our expensive taste in stuff

Tell her to leave or you will call the police. A more informal approach is to set a rottie on her (if you have one)

IanG · 27-09-2008, 14:21

The worse thing you could have done was give her a tenner in the first place,You or your husband need to be very firm with her, threatening her with the police will more than likely do nothing.
They will just move her on and she'll be back as she will see you as a soft touch. and worth the risk.
Next time she comes round asking for stuff be firm and say have you got that tenner i lent you ?? My husband is going mental i need it back by tommorow at the latest.
You wont see her for dust (with any luck)

Good job she's not a E head she would have robbed and murdered you by now

Good luck

not wanted · 27-09-2008, 14:27

Quote:

Originally Posted by IanG

The worse thing you could have done was give her a tenner in the first place,You or your husband need to be very firm with her, threatening her with the police will more than likely do nothing.
They will just move her on and she'll be back as she will see you as a soft touch. and worth the risk.
Next time she comes round asking for stuff be firm and say have you got that tenner i lent you ?? My husband is going mental i need it back by tommorow at the latest.
You wont see her for dust (with any luck)

Good job she's not a E head she would have robbed and murdered you by now

Good luck

Yeah, E heads are very well known for their violent tendencies

slimsid2000 · 27-09-2008, 14:29

I still say a rottie is a good deterant with this kind of person.

In all seriousness though you don't want to risk violence with her as she might have a knife or have Aids and any bllod spillage could be a threat to you. Bestb just to close the door on her.

Swan_Vesta · 27-09-2008, 15:40

Smackheads are much akin to pigeons. If you encourage them then they'll always keep coming back.

My advice is to tell her to Foxtrot Oscar or call the old bill and get them to remove the creature.

Ninjamagic · 27-09-2008, 17:05

Hannah,

try and make sure you have someone with you over the next few days. It will help you and her in dealing with each other. she may just be a down and out wanting attention, but then she may also be very dangerous so dont take chances.

melthebell · 27-09-2008, 17:07

lol i flicked tabs then and thought this said "how do you get your head stuck in a door"
hmmmmmmm