Do you snoop in your teenagers room? ...

pinkace · 03-06-2008, 17:33

I know some of you will find this outrageous, but we dont always get the answers we want when we ask them ( thats if they talk and not the usual grunts ) but do you ever have a rummage around your teenagers rooms when they arnt in and are you shocked at what you find.

Womerry2 · 03-06-2008, 17:34

..................No.

The_DADDY · 03-06-2008, 17:40

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Originally Posted by pinkace

I know some of you will find this outrageous, but we dont always get the answers we want when we ask them ( thats if they talk and not the usual grunts ) but do you ever have a rummage around your teenagers rooms when they arnt in and are you shocked at what you find.

Unless you have serious concerns about their welfare i think thats an outrageous thing to do..
Sorry, but i hope i have more faith in my kids when they get to be teens.
Not judging you as i dont know your personal circumstances but from what youve said the answer would be no..

Halibut · 03-06-2008, 17:41

No. It smells too unpleasant - and it's an outrageous infringement of their privacy.
How would you feel if your teenager was rifling through your private things?

foxforcefive · 03-06-2008, 17:47

No, although mine's not quite a teen. Trust works both ways.

melthebell · 03-06-2008, 17:50

ill tell you when theyre teens

Mathom · 03-06-2008, 17:52

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Originally Posted by Halibut

No. It smells too unpleasant - and it's an outrageous infringement of their privacy.
How would you feel if your teenager was rifling through your private things?

It's about 99.9% certain that teenagers DO rifle through their parents' stuff! Sorry!

I hated it when my mum did this, but I think I'd still do it, I have to be honest! I'd just have more sense and not say anything, but my mum didn't even have the sense to put things back where she'd left them. Plus my brothers used to snoop on each other too, and even sharing a house you knew snooping, CD 'borrowing' and toilet roll thefts from your bedroom went on.

You can't escape it

pinkace · 03-06-2008, 17:52

I asked this because of the things that have been on the news lately and something someone said to me also parents are always insisting that their kids are angels and never do any thing wrong.I didnt say that i done it, but if i suspected that not all was well and they wouldnt talk to me about it, i would.

willman · 03-06-2008, 17:56

I certainly did. A parent can't stand and defend a child if they don't know what they're upto. Even the "best parents" can not claim that their children are perfect angels all the time.

The_DADDY · 03-06-2008, 17:58

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Originally Posted by pinkace

I asked this because of the things that have been on the news lately and something someone said to me also parents are always insisting that their kids are angels and never do any thing wrong.I didnt say that i done it, but if i suspected that not all was well and they wouldnt talk to me about it, i would.

Then your a decent and responsable parent if your suspitions are strong enough and you have serious concerns and not just a niggly feeling..

Dave650 · 03-06-2008, 17:58

I'm a (older) teenager, knowing my mum she probably does have a peek round my room and some of the stuff she'd find probably is a bit dodgy but I'm I couldn't care less I'm my own person. If you have this attitude it's probably the reason you kids don't talk to you

tom3t0 · 03-06-2008, 18:35

In my teens, I soon learnt to grass myself up, they were too scared too look through my room after. hehe.
If I suspected a child of smoking, i would rifle through their room in order to teach them how to share

waddy · 03-06-2008, 18:35

NO, I clean my 13yr olds room and put away his clothes etc but don't bother in the cupboards or his bookshelf I make him dust and sort them so he can safely put private stuff away.Wouldn't have wanted my parents doing it to me.His younger brother would grass on him anyway !!

mistyraven · 03-06-2008, 18:36

Made me laugh this If you saw my darlin daughters room you would not attempt to go in..Now the laptop yea I do look.

AJ sheffield · 03-06-2008, 18:44

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Originally Posted by mistyraven

Made me laugh this If you saw my darlin daughters room you would not attempt to go in..Now the laptop yea I do look.

Because I have to regularly defrag, update and sort antvirus and anti spyware software on her pc I also check other things like temp internet history. I also ban some sites through the firewall and use msn parental control to monitor who she is chatting to. Just last year I found out there was a 31 year old bloke on her MSN messenger list, she is only 12. Since then I have only just managed to stop myself installing a keylogger on her pc.

tom3t0 · 03-06-2008, 18:45

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Originally Posted by mistyraven

Made me laugh this If you saw my darlin daughters room you would not attempt to go in..Now the laptop yea I do look.

Are the contents a whole new thread on their own though?

PennyHT · 03-06-2008, 18:50

I used to snoop in my male cousins bedroom with his sister, the contents were always a good bargaining tool

H.P · 03-06-2008, 19:28

I do, Firstly he has a habit of stashing food and it needs to be found before it starts to smell

I also used to check his computer, and I am so glad I did.(without going into detail) He no longer has one in his room as a result of this.
I think theres a difference between snooping and being concerned for a childs welfare

Tess · 03-06-2008, 19:30

Im eighteen and last time my mum went into my bedroom she scared herself with what she found

lets just say thats the last time she ever went snooping in my bedside cabinet!

Except she was terrible at it because she was probably only looking for something i borrowed off her anyway, then she would find something that she wouldnt expect and ring me up, "Tess what the bloody hell is this, and what does it do?!" Haha, me and my mum have a very good relationship

Savannah2 · 03-06-2008, 19:35

My room was just that...my room! My mum never ever went snooping, only time she would come in was during my presence.